No, Becky, Joining A Sorority Isn't 'Buying Your Friends,' Contrary To Popular Belief

No, Becky, Joining A Sorority Isn't 'Buying Your Friends,' Contrary To Popular Belief

There's more to a sorority than meets the eye.


The number of times I heard the comment, "Oh so you're buying your friends" when I told people I would be going through the recruitment process was ridiculous. I heard it from high school friends, teachers, on Facebook, even random people at a restaurant, you name it.

Not going to lie, I was very skeptical. I had people always telling me that I didn't fit the sorority girl image or I wasn't that type of girl. I thought I knew what they meant, I hardly knew anything about sororities or much less the types of girls in a sorority? All I had ever seen was movies or the people older than me that joined once they got to their university.

I told myself that I would try it, if I didn't like it, they wouldn't hold me against my will and force me to stay. Might as well give it a shot.

The first round of recruitment was, well... a rush. Visiting 13 chapters in one day, was insane. I met so many women who were so excited to meet me. I found myself the next round, getting more excited than nervous. I was excited to go back to the houses that I truly thought I could see myself finding friends in. Over time and after every round it became easier to find out the houses you loved and the ones that you might not be able to see yourself in. Pref day came and it was down to two houses filled with girls that I completely adored. However, I knew where I wanted to end up and in my heart, I knew if that wasn't where I got a bid back from, I would be devastated.

I lay in bed the night before bid day just stressed and not sleeping because I wanted to be in that house so so so badly. I began to wonder how I went from not even knowing if I wanted to rush, to almost in tears over the thought of not getting a bid.

The girls that I fell in love with over the course of a week, already made such an impact on my life, and I hardly knew them. I aspired to be like them, I looked up to them. I felt like I could be myself around them, I wasn't nervous and never felt out of place when I walked into the house. I thought about all of the other girls that sat with me on preference day and how they could potentially become my new sisters. All of it was so crazy to me, but all seemed so perfect.

When I opened my bid on bid day... I cried, my heart sung, and my lungs filled with screams of joy as I sprinted to my new home. The energy and the feeling of bid day is something impossible to describe unless you experience it yourself and you are truly happy. It was an absolute dream.

At the same time, I didn't know what I had gotten myself into. Alpha Chi Omega at Arizona State has one of, if not the busiest calendars each semester. Ranging from socials and date parties to volunteer work and our precious philanthropy... Alpha Chi is truly a place of real strong women.

Every single woman that makes up this chapter is incredibly strong, beautiful, smart, and one million other things that would exceed anyone's expectations. I have such a supportive and caring group of people behind me in any given time, unlike my experience in high school.

To stay in good standing with your sorority there are grade requirements you must meet, community service hours that you must keep up with, mandatory events to attend, and yes there are dues... but those go to the chapter as a whole. Those who say that being in a sorority is "buying friends" is wrong because I don't walk up to each girl and give her $10 and say thanks for being my friend.

Understood, sororities are not for everyone, but there is more to them than meets the eye. Before judging from what you see on television, movies, or rumors, be sure to realize that there is more to it.

One piece of advice that I would give is if you are wondering or even have the slightest interest to go through sorority recruitment... do it. You can always back out but it is better to try than wonder.

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7 Reasons You Should Order A Vodka/Water/Lime When You're Out

There’s a reason the Vodka/Water/Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every weekend.

We’ve all been through it. Whether it was sometime in high school, out freshman year of college or the day we turned 21, at some point you have or will tried to order a drink while you’re out on the town. I’m here to end all the experimentation, and give you a go-to drink that is sweeping across college campuses everywhere, the Vodka-Water-Lime, and the reasons why, are clear to see.

1. It will keep you hydrated

It may seem trivial but hydration is key if you’re planning on drinking any amount any time, or so I have been told. But let’s face it, biology grants us the ability to chug concoctions called 4-Lokos with ease while drinking the recommended amount of water per day almost impossible. The drink that solves both issues—Vodka-Water-Lime.

2. It doesn't taste that bad

I’ll admit I was a little skeptical at first, but this drink isn’t that bad to swallow, especially when you think about some of the other things you could be drinking. There’s a reason why the only way people can drink tequila is in shot from or in a lime slushy. As the old saying goes: if you drink enough everything just tastes like water, and this one already has water in it!

3. It gets you drunk

That’s right. It does the job. Isn’t that really all we want in a drink anyway, everything else is just trivial.

4. It establishes immediate common-ground

What is that girl next to you at the bar about to order? You guessed it. Now imagine that you are about to order the same thing, she is practically begging to dance on you at this point, it’s that easy.

5. Easy, Quick, Universal

There are just three simple ingredients, and the amounts of which are subject to your personal preference and tolerance levels. It doesn’t require the aid of Chet the self-proclaimed mixologist to make—it’s so easy a baby could do it! And it’s known virtually everywhere, if you’re ever in a place that doesn’t have either vodka, water, or limes, you’re probably there against your will anyway.

6. Health Benefits

Since most people don’t drink liquor straight, the use of a chaser or mixer is required, but we all know the problems that causes. Sugar and alcohol don’t mix well, not to mention the calories in soda. Vodka-Water-Lime has not calories and no sugar added. On top of that, the presence of water and lack of soda is almost a guarantee that you won’t be hungover the next day.

7. It's shameless

With all of the numerous benefits, it’s impossible to give someone a hard time for ordering this, yet it happens. Becky’s friends may tell her that she looks great and shouldn’t be concerned about her calories. WELL MAYBE BECKY JUST LIKES THE TASTE. Still, Bradley may get bold and order one out with the boys, but since there’s nothing to crack open, he may be the butt of their jokes, but Bradley knows that he made the right choice.

NOTE: limes can be substituted for other in-season citrus fruits.

There’s a reason the Vodka-Water-Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every week. The facts are there; it’s not fake news. Vodka-Water-Lime should be your new drink. It’s not just something you adopt in college or for a few nights out, it’s a lifestyle. The Vodka-Water-Lime is classy and sophisticated, it is a drink that you can order somewhere fancy like a restaurant or a Carnival cruise ship, or even on your wedding night.

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To My Big, My Best Friend, Sister, And Future Bridesmaid

You're the big sister I never had, but always wanted.


Coming to college wasn't the easiest. I was far from home and barely knew anyone when starting. First semester quickly flowed into second, and sorority recruitment came around. My experience was tough and nothing about it felt right.

I ultimately joined a chapter that I was unsure about and slowly started to find my place. It might not have been what I wanted, but it was what I always needed.

I met amazing people and that included you.

Getting a big was something I had looked forward to way before being in a sorority and even college. It was always something I had wanted to do. I grew up with a younger brother but had always wanted a sister.

Thank you for giving me that.

You're the big sister I never had but always wanted.

It's funny how similar our lives and selves are. Our entire greek family really does fit together so well, and it all happens for a reason.

It's nice to have someone that I can relate to and talk to about anything. Know that it always goes both ways and I'm always here.

You quickly became a person I could turn to in good and bad times. Someone I could share clothes, laughs, and hard times with.

In the year that we've been "big" and "little," I can honestly say that you are my best friend. I look up to you so much and finally got that sister relationship.

College wouldn't be the same without you, and I'm so glad we get to share these experiences together. Thinking about you graduating next spring makes me so sad since you won't be so close.

Wherever you end up, know that I'm cheering you on and can't wait to see only success come into your life.

Now that I have a little, I'm trying to build the same relationship with her. Thank you for showing me how to be a great big and person.

I've gained a bridesmaid, a best friend, and a sister.

Love you forever!

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