7 Things Girls In Sororities Just Need To Stop Saying To Girls Who Aren't

7 Things Girls In Sororities Just Need To Stop Saying To Girls Who Aren't

Actually, we're OK that we aren't in one.

Sorority girls: the epitome of the ultimate college experience for so many people. But for those of us who see ourselves spending our time in college a little differently, there are certain things that we are really sick of hearing.

Now, don't get me wrong — I totally get it.

You have the best big, and the greatest sisters, the cutest little, and have just fallen in love with your philanthropy cause. You cannot imagine your life without those letters across your chest and your sisters by your side. That's awesome and all, but some of us can imagine life like that just fine.

So, with all the love in the world for you ladies, from an outsider, here are a few things you gotta stop saying to your friends who have decided not to go #GoGreek.

1. Responding "Oh, that's OK!"

Same dang thing every time.

"Are you in a sorority?"

"No, I'm not."

"Oh, that's OK!"

While I know the intentions are good, people who are not in sororities do not need validation that their decision on how to spend their time and money is okay by you. Any of us who have made that choice know that there is nothing wrong with it.

2. Saying "All of my best friends are my sisters."

While I'm sure you are super close with girls in your sorority and spend a lot of time with them, if you have friends — especially close friends — who aren't Greek-affiliated be mindful of them before you go around posting everywhere "Rush ABC where I met all of my college friends."

Obviously, it's okay that you have met amazing friends in your sorority. But we exist, too.

3. Complaining endlessly about chapter rules to us.

Okay, admittedly, a little of this is good because sometimes hearing the crazy rules sororities have, affirms our decision not to rush.

Not to mention, we are your friends and hearing you vent is in the job-description.

However, we recognize better than anyone that this was a decision you made. Literally, no one is making you do this. And, not only is it a choice you made but you pay thousands of dollars to people who tell you what level-chunky your midnight black belt can be.

When you look it at it like that, it's just hard to feel bad sometimes. But, suit yourself.

4. Telling us that you're broke, too.

Reasons I'm not in a sorority: #1) I don't want to be. #2) I couldn't afford to be in one if even I did want to.

While this certainly isn't the case for everyone, these are very real reasons as to why I never chose to rush. On the rare occasion that I tell someone in a sorority those reasons, it grinds my gears to an extreme when they respond by telling me "Oh I'm so broke, too."

I appreciate the sympathy, but for real... I cannot afford those dues you pay. All the power to you if you can!

5. Dumbing everything down for us.

Shockingly, most of us do still know a thing or two about the Greek community around us - especially when our friends are involved.

So, when you say something about rush you don't need to preface by saying "In a sorority, we do a thing called rush..." I love learning about new things and I am interested in hearing about what my friends are up to, but please don't assume we don't know something ridiculously obvious to anyone on campus.

In those cases, just save your voice for recruitment...you'll need it.

6. 'Insulting' us at fraternities.

"But she isn't even in a sorority..." is not a reason why a guy should stop talking to a girl. Ladies, c'mon now. Sisters before misters applies to all of us - not just the sisters you're bound to by a few Greek symbols. I know fraternities are your domain, but we're all allowed to enjoy. But, let's be honest - would any of us want a guy who judges a girl just on that?

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7. Assuming we don't like to have fun.

Believe me, we have fun. While we don't have mixers or date parties, I assure you we do know how to party. Whatever or whomever tells girls in sororities that girls who are not in ones don't go out or have fun is simply wrong. I'll leave it at that.

Again, I love my sorority friends and could not be more excited that they have found somewhere that makes them happy. I would just appreciate reciprocated happiness for my decision not to rush because that's what makes me happy!

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I recently went through sorority recruitment, and can now say it was certainly an experience. Although I'm extremely glad its over (and I'm finally getting past the sickness and exhaustion that ensued), I am SO happy to have found my sorority in the process! That being said, I definitely felt a whole range of emotions throughout rush, and could think of no one better to convey these thoughts and feelings than the stereotypical sorority sisters of some my favorite shows and movies.

1. "Woah, that is a lot of clapping."

Or sometimes snapping. I really appreciate the enthusiasm, I do, however, I cringe imagining how red their hands must've felt by the end of the whole ordeal.

2. When you hear so many sorority names, they all start blurring together.

Is that a real sorority name or the name of a sorority from a movie? At first, it was all just gibberish to me - like learning a whole new language.

3. Hyping yourself up before a round.

Going into a room, and trying to get everyone to like you is hard. It's even harder getting cut. You just have to remember that you won't be a perfect fit everywhere you go.

4. "Is it time to go to bed yet?"

I'm aware that Beave from "Greek" is not a sorority girl, but I love him so it's okay. I can definitely agree though, once the exhaustion set in I was definitely for a bedtime story.

5. Finally finding the chapter you love.

You just have to hope the feeling's mutual!

6. Finally getting your bid.

Finally, the whole process is behind you. And it was SO worth it!! Time to celebrate!

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19 More Things To Get Your Sorority Little, Because She Deserves It

A little pick-me-up gift never hurt!

A few months ago I published an article detailing 19 different gift ideas for your sorority little . Now that I’m officially an active member in my sorority and our spring pledge class is growing, it’s safe to say that I have little fever. That’s like baby fever, except instead of a baby I just really want a little…or two or three. It’s casual. Either way, I decided that 19 ideas just wasn’t enough. Here are 19 more gift ideas to give your little, because she deserves to be spoiled.

1. Fuzzy socks

Who doesn’t love a good pair of fuzzy socks? This is a perfect staple gift for literally anyone. If you don’t know your little’s favorite colors yet, look for fuzzy socks in your sorority’s colors.

2. Mini lotion

Especially if you’re having a big/little reveal in the winter. Lotion is a necessity.

3. Nail polish

Nail polish is always a fun little thing to throw in gift baskets. So many options to choose from!

4. Cute hair ties

Cute. Essential. Need I say more?

5. Letters lanyard

You aren’t a true sorority girl until everything you own is plastered in your letters.

6. Lip gloss

Lip gloss doesn’t get enough credit these days since matte looks have been all the rage. But with glam looks on the rise, lip gloss is making a comeback.

7. Bath bombs

Bath bombs are all the rage right now, and for good reason. We love anything that makes us smell good!

8. Face mask

Skincare is important. Face masks are cheap. If that isn’t a sign that you need to put one in your little’s gift basket, I don’t know what is.

9. Coloring book and colored pencils

There’s just something about adult coloring books. It gives you something to do when you have nothing to do (or just feel like procrastinating).

10. Letters sweatpants

You can never have too many pairs of sweatpants.

11. Slippers

They’ll go great with the fuzzy socks and the sweatpants, after all.

12. Blanket

There is no such thing as “too comfy” or “too soft.”

13. Earrings

Considering Wal-Mart has stepped up their game, you can find a pack of variety earrings for five bucks and it’ll make a cute addition to her gift basket.

14. Journal and set of colored pens

Bullet journaling is the new trend, and who doesn’t like a set of colored pens?

15. Phone case

Bonus points if it has your letters on it.

16. Decorated cork board

You didn’t think this list would be complete without a crafty item, did you?

17. Letters car decal

Because even her car needs sorority swag.

18. Letters buttons/pins

Because even her backpack needs sorority swag. Her whole life needs sorority swag.

19. Decorated piggy bank

Something for her to save up her dues in.

Sorry if I’ve missed anything, but at this point, I probably haven’t. Enjoy spoiling your little(s)!

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