It's Not Ariana Grande's — Or Any Girl's — Responsibilty To Fix A Broken Boyfriend

It's Not Ariana Grande's — Or Any Girl's — Responsibilty To Fix A Broken Boyfriend

You can only do so much, do not sacrifice your well-being for a boy.

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You would have to live under a rock if you haven't heard about the falling out of Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande recently. Pete has been suffering mentally because of the relentless Internet trolls mocking him and tweeting malicious things. That being said, Ariana was right there willing to help him at any cost when she, and the rest of Internet, saw the suicidal message he said on Twitter. I think that Ariana Grande was doing what any kind-hearted and loving person would do for someone in need, and Pete just shut her down as if she never mattered to him. Just wow. Pete needs to figure himself out and it's not Ariana's job to figure it out for him.

I think there is common blame placed on girls for being broken, and their boyfriends are left to fix all of those problems and make everything sunshine and rainbows. Wrong. Boyfriends can be just as broken as any girlfriend can, and it's not the girlfriend's job to fix her man, just as it's not a boyfriends job to fix his girl. People need to learn self-love before they can really love anyone else. Only when you fall in love with who you see in the mirror can you find the person who is meant to be with you.

Obviously, Pete and Ariana have been through a lot, but that doesn't mean it's her job to make all of his demons go away. He is an adult and needs to seek professional help to sort out what's been going on. Our significant others lean on us for help through times of trial and tribulation, but there comes a point when you can only do so much for them before they start to drag you into a negative place. You have to be strong enough to say no or even walk away, not because you can't handle what they are going through, but because you know you have to put yourself first.

You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. Ladies, if your boyfriend is broken beyond repair, do not take it upon yourself to be the one to fix him. You can only do so much and his family can only do so much. It is up to him to change himself for the better, you cannot run to his aid every five seconds because he can't handle being a big boy and doing things on his own.

Your well-being is so important and it's not worth throwing it away because of a boyfriend's toxic behavior and attitude. You come first. Your boyfriend has the tools to fix himself and you should not need to do all of the work for him.

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11 Struggles Every Nice Girl Understands

Because sometimes it's the worst.
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We are all taught to be kind-hearted human beings. Nonetheless, some of us seem to follow through more than others: we're called the "nice girls." But being the nice girl isn't all hearts and smiles — in fact, sometimes it's more trouble than it's worth.

1. You take on way more than you can handle because the word "no" is not a part of your vocabulary.

2. When you actually do have the courage to say no, you feel like the worst person in the world.

3. People take advantage of you like it's their job.

4. Your kindness is often mistaken for weakness — people neglect to realize that even the nice girls have backbones.

5. You entertain every Tom, Dick and Harry because you don't have the heart to say, "F*** off!"

6. You feel that you need to keep everyone around you happy.

7. Always forgetting to keep yourself happy in the process.

8. Sometimes you wonder if your purpose in life is simply to please everyone around you.

9. You can never lie because everyone knows that high-pitched tone you get when you try.

10. You keep most of your problems to yourself because you couldn't possibly trouble someone else with your feelings.

11. Yet, you're the master of listening to other people's issues.

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5 Signs Your Boyfriend Might Be A Dirty Rotten Cheater

Now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you.

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I just spent the last week with my jaw on the floor after the discovery that my best friend spent the better part of 2 years with a guy who was actually cheating ( a lot ) basically the entire length of their relationship. And now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you. If you encounter any of the following 5 signs, then girl you better get the hell outta dodge.

1. You NEVER get the invite to family gatherings.

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Brunch with the fam? He's not calling you. Christmas Eve at Aunt Sheryl's? He's not calling you. His sister's birthday party? He's definitely not calling you. It may not seem like a big deal at first, but if he has met your mom, your dad, and your cousins and still isn't inviting you to come along, it's probably because he doesn't want his mom to get confused that he had a totally different girl over last week.

2. He can't stand you being anywhere near his phone.

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I would think this one is an obvious red flag, but you'd be surprised how many people believe guys who say they just want you to "respect their privacy." If he is constantly texting, snapping and shoving his phone into his pocket immediately after hitting that lock screen, you may very well be in for a world of hurt. If it's going off at 2 AM, well girl, I shouldn't have to say more to convince you he's cheating.

3. You rarely go out in public.

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I know, I know, he's told you a hundred times that he's just a homebody and would rather be snuggled up watching "Catfish" with you than going out anywhere, but that's probably because he is just scared you guys will run into his other girlfriend. If you do end up going out, it's always out of town or something loud and crowded like a concert where you guys would be hard to spot.

4. He NEVER wants to post about you two on social media.

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He says stuff like "Oh, I just don't feel the need to publicize our love." or maybe "I have a crazy ex and I don't want her to harass you online." Those are both actually just lies. What he really wants to say is "I just don't want evidence and time stamps of our relationship in case I get caught." The best is when they tell you about how they like girls who are off the grid. Sounds like a cheater to me...

5. He's constantly accusing you of cheating.

Accusing

Most girls I know will chalk this up to him just being a jealous guy. But let me tell you something honey, nothing makes you more paranoid than a guilty conscious. If every time you two argue, it divulges into him saying he's not sure if he can trust you or that you have too many guy friends or that he wonders what you're doing on nights without him, well he's probably just manifesting his own fears.

There are no promises here that he is definitely cheating, and if you really trust your man then more power to you. But if any of these signs had you thinking about your own relationship, then I highly recommend that you move on to the next one girl. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, even fish who won't cheat on you!

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