You Should Not Have To Fix Your Boyfriend

It's Not Ariana Grande's — Or Any Girl's — Responsibilty To Fix A Broken Boyfriend

You can only do so much, do not sacrifice your well-being for a boy.


You would have to live under a rock if you haven't heard about the falling out of Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande recently. Pete has been suffering mentally because of the relentless Internet trolls mocking him and tweeting malicious things. That being said, Ariana was right there willing to help him at any cost when she, and the rest of Internet, saw the suicidal message he said on Twitter. I think that Ariana Grande was doing what any kind-hearted and loving person would do for someone in need, and Pete just shut her down as if she never mattered to him. Just wow. Pete needs to figure himself out and it's not Ariana's job to figure it out for him.

I think there is common blame placed on girls for being broken, and their boyfriends are left to fix all of those problems and make everything sunshine and rainbows. Wrong. Boyfriends can be just as broken as any girlfriend can, and it's not the girlfriend's job to fix her man, just as it's not a boyfriends job to fix his girl. People need to learn self-love before they can really love anyone else. Only when you fall in love with who you see in the mirror can you find the person who is meant to be with you.

Obviously, Pete and Ariana have been through a lot, but that doesn't mean it's her job to make all of his demons go away. He is an adult and needs to seek professional help to sort out what's been going on. Our significant others lean on us for help through times of trial and tribulation, but there comes a point when you can only do so much for them before they start to drag you into a negative place. You have to be strong enough to say no or even walk away, not because you can't handle what they are going through, but because you know you have to put yourself first.

You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. Ladies, if your boyfriend is broken beyond repair, do not take it upon yourself to be the one to fix him. You can only do so much and his family can only do so much. It is up to him to change himself for the better, you cannot run to his aid every five seconds because he can't handle being a big boy and doing things on his own.

Your well-being is so important and it's not worth throwing it away because of a boyfriend's toxic behavior and attitude. You come first. Your boyfriend has the tools to fix himself and you should not need to do all of the work for him.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Top Lang Leav Quotes For The Girl In Love

"Who you love and who loves you back determines so much in your life."


One of my favorite modern poets is Lang Leav because she captures love and loss in a way that's both easy to read but also powerful. Some of her poems seem simple, but they hold such deep meaning when it comes to love, heartbreak and finding yourself. I'm not going to lie to ya'll, some of her heartbreak poems hit pretty hard. But, this isn't about heartbreak, this is about the beautiful feeling we call love.

Here are some of my favorite quotes by Lang Leav about love:

"It's so dark right now, I can't see any light around me.

That's because the light is coming from you. You can't see it but everyone else can."
Love & Misadventure

"You were you,
and I was I;
we were two
before our time.

I was yours
before I knew,
and you have always
been mine too."
Love & Misadventure

"I had my first dream about you last night.
Really? She smiles. What was it about?
I don't remember exactly but the whole time I was dreaming, I knew you were mine."
Love & Misadventure

"I love you, I do -
you have my word.

You have all my words."

"Souls do not have calendars or clocks, nor do they understand the notion of time or distance. They only know it feels right to be with one another."
Love & Misadventure

"It was a quiet love, a tacit love. It came without prelude or preamble. We never said the word love–we didn't have to. It was in our laughter, in the sense of wonder we found in each other. And if we had doubts then, time has told us otherwise."
The Universe of Us

"How much love is a person capable of giving? I thought I knew the answer until I met you."
Sea of Strangers

"When love finds you, it doesn't come as crashing waves or thunderbolts. It appears as a song on the radio or a particular blue in the sky. It dawns on you slowly, like a warm winter sunrise—where the promise of summer shines out from within."

Be still, my heart.

Whether you're falling in love or already madly in love, these quotes are sure to hit your heartstrings. Not to mention, they make pretty good Instagram captions for all your sappy love pictures!

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