Dear Me, The Hurt You've Gone Through Was Not Unnecessary

Dear Me, The Hurt You've Gone Through Was Not Unnecessary

Everything happens for a reason.

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You have grown so much in such a short amount of time. Since entering college you have gone through a lot and you have become someone who I can be proud of. Thus far you will go through some of the worst days of your life. You will hit your ultimate low, but you will get through it with people who truly love and care for you.

If I were able to warn you about all the bad things that will happen to you, I wouldn't. I wouldn't spare you of the tear-filled nights or the lonely days. I wouldn't stop you from making bad decisions or choosing the wrong choices. If I could, I would watch it all happen again. I don't mean that to be mean. I don't wish for you to go through unnecessary heartache, but, everything you have been through has made you a much better person.

The mistakes you have made led you to be braver and stronger and kinder than ever before. The decisions you have made, both bad and good, have equipped you for the future. The pain you have gone through has allowed you to find people in your life who have become your people.

You have found people who will sit with you while you cry in Dutton parking lot at three in the morning. You will find a major that will make you love learning again. You will grow closer in your relationship with God when you need someone the most. You will have to make decisions that you never thought you would have to make. You will have to leave behind dreams and plans that you thought were for you. You will grow and go through experiences that will shape you for the better.

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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


Cover Image Credit: Katie Ward

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You Are The Reason You're Missing So Much

It is okay to live with social media, and not be consumed by it.

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So many people lived "plugged in" … to their media, to their music, to their little bubble. Sometimes it can be easy to jump on this bandwagon to "fit in".. by posting on social media platforms, listening to types of music, wearing types of clothes appealing to the crowd you wish to be noticed.

Sometimes it can be easy to get carried away with this concept. Just living life on the "DL" in the real world can be okay but when your mentality is specifically to be noticed through media, it is not necessarily the right thing. It is okay to live with social media, and not be consumed by it.

"Plugging in" is the world's way of keeping you distracted from the tasks that seem too big to handle... Media has a way of stepping in as a crutch to those who seek avoidance of a particular subject, whether school, finance or anything else. Media can be seen as a stress relief to some.

If not careful, the media can overtake your life rather quickly. I observe people scrolling through media while sitting in a public area while riding a public bus while eating dinner with friends across the table.

The other day I was telling close friends about a new person I had met and how we quickly formed a bond, jokingly ending it with, "We traded Snapchats, so I guess we're friends through that, though I don't know about in real life." Isn't this so true though? Many people enjoy gaining followers and not necessarily friends. This is a sad reality that our communities are becoming.

How can we resolve this? How can we keep "plugging in" from taking over our lives? Simple. It is a choice. Everyone has the option to choose to put away their screens and not live through telecommunication networks. It's a choice we all have to make.. to lay the phone down and have a conversation with the one sitting across from you. There is a big wide world to see, so why miss it?

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