An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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Stop Saying 'Love Is Love' And Then Shame Me For Dating A Republican

"How can you date a Republican?!" Quite easily, actually.


"And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love." Other theater geeks like me probably also remember this quote from Lin-Manuel Miranda's Tony acceptance speech in 2016. Now, thanks to Lin-Manuel and his talent for catchy phrases, every time someone says "love is love," all I can think of is Lin-Manuel's emphatic cry for equality.

This cry is one that I support wholeheartedly. I think that you should be allowed to love whomever you choose and that you should do so without fear of hatred or scrutiny. If you are a guy who loves guys, great. If you are a girl who loves girls, great. If you are a girl who loves guys and girls, great. You are born a certain way with certain sexual preferences, and there is nothing wrong with that.

However, if you believe that people should be free to love anyone they choose, then, honey, you better start looking past gender.

Let me tell you a little story.

Recently, I had a conversation with one of my closest friends about my boyfriend of almost 11 months. Somehow (and I'm shocked that this hadn't come up before), my boyfriend's political preferences became the topic of conversation.

The conversation went something like this:

"Wait, so is Tom a Democrat or Republican?"

"He's a Republican."

"WHAT?! Are you serious?"


"How can you date a Republican?"

After that, I basically went on a five-minute rant about how at the end of the day, his political preferences only make up a small fraction of who he is as a person and that I am not so shallow that I would be deterred by something this trivial.

At our cores, Tom and I value the exact same things: compassion, knowledge, kindness, dedication, honesty, respect, and above all else, love. Tom loves me unconditionally and I give him that same love in return; honestly, what else could I ask for?

Tom and I do get in some political arguments from time to time, but we also agree on those issues that are most important to me: female reproductive rights, marriage equality, and support for survivors of sexual assault. All of those things are non-negotiables for me, and Tom understands that and possesses his own list of non-negotiables.

Before you ask, yep, he voted for Trump. Did that take me back at first? Yes. Did I struggle to understand what would compel a person to vote for him? Absolutely. Did that thought kind of terrify me at first? Hell yes.

But you know what? After I just sat and listened to Tom's reasoning as to why he voted for him and watched him delve deep into Trump's policies, I could understand why some would vote for him. And to tell the truth, once I fell in love with Tom, none of that mattered anymore. And what is sad is that people so often fall so deep into their own echo chambers nowadays, that they wouldn't even give someone with different beliefs their ear. Well, I'm damn glad I did because Tom is the most amazing person I've ever met and I fall more in love with him every day.

So to tie this all together with a pretty little bow, if you're going to go around and preach that love is love and that everyone should be free to love whom they choose, then that shouldn't change for me. Maybe you're a Democrat that would never date a Republican or maybe you're a Republican who would never date a Democrat; that's your choice. But we don't get to choose who we fall in love with (much to the dismay of my liberal family and friends). Just keep an open mind and who knows? Maybe you could find some absolutely epic happiness.

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14 Date Ideas For When The Weather Falls Below 65

It's that time that everyone starts getting coupled up, so here are some things to keep in mind when hanging out with that "special someone" in the fall and winter season.



1. Go to a pumpkin patch 

Fall is pretty notorious for being everyone's favorite season. Cooler weather, cute clothes, and cuddle weather! Going to a pumpkin patch is the best kick off date for fall. Pick out the perfect pumpkin for your "pumpkin." Okay, yeah that was pretty cheesy...

2. Drive-in movie 

Not many of these are still around, but if you come across one - DON'T pass up that opportunity. These are so fun, who doesn't love watching a good movie, in the tailgate of a truck?!

3. Now that you have a pumpkin, carve the pumpkins

After going to a pumpkin patch, you can always make another date (second date material) to carve those pumpkins you picked. This would be a great group date activity too.

4. Scary movie marathon

Everyone loves a good scary movie, and you know that's an opportunity to really have a good cuddle session and pull that move of yawning and getting that arm around your girl, guys. This also really shows how "tough" of a man you have, ladies.

5. Haunted house/corn maze 

This is just fun, plain and simple. Get a group together, double dates, whatever it may be and go through a haunted house. Wear a go-pro to go back and watch everyone's reactions.

6. Go to a bonfire 

Bonfires are very popular - your hair might smell for days after many washes, but it's so worth it. So much fun just hanging out and getting to know one another a little better! Group setting, or not. You're always warm and you can make smores - that's the best part!

7. Now for the winter time activities: Go iceskating!!

Me personally, I am probably one of the clumsiest people out there, but ice skating is always fun. Maybe get lucky, and hold hands. Whoa - big step.

8. Watch Elf 

Not to be biased, but this is the best Christmas movie ever - EVER. I love Elf, I watch many times a year so definitely making the suggestion to watch this movie during the Christmas season, if not once a month.

9. Make and decorate Christmas cookies 

This is something to do on one of those nights you're just hanging out or with the fam, make some Christmas cookies then let everyone decorate their own however they like! Santa is a BIG fan of this, so I've heard.

10. Play in the snow

Snow is not a common thing, down here in the South. So when we have the chance - we build that snowman like Ana wanted Elsa to and we have snowball fights. So why not do it with your boyfriend/girlfriend?!

11. Go look at Christmas lights 

I don't know about you, but Christmas lights and decorations always put me in a good mood. So after you go to dinner one night, drive around and look at Christmas lights listening to Christmas music!!!

12. Volunteer at the Salvation Army 

This is something that I love doing every year. The Salvation Army in my hometown takes volunteers to give out gifts the day before Christmas Eve to families in need. Doing this with a "special someone" has got to be a great experience and so dang heartwarming.

13. See the Rockettes 

This is someting that would probably cost a little more money than the rest, but this is a show that's definitely worth it. And if you see it in Nashville, TN, you need to go ahead and see the lights at the Opry Land Hotel while you're at it. Date weekend, maybe? I think so!

14. Christmas movie marathon

Just like with scary movies, everyone likes a good Christmas movie marathon. Elf (again), Grinch, Home Alone, Polar Express, these aren't hard to find. So get a cup of hot chocolate, those cookies you made and decorated, and cuddle up to watch all these movies and wait for Santa to come!

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