Being single can be great and awful at the same time. Yeah, it's awesome to have time to yourself to figure out who you are and make your own decisions. It would also be nice to have someone to go through life with, but it needs to be the right person. I haven't found that person yet and here's a few reasons why.

1. I'm shy.

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It's a little difficult to be in a relationship with a guy when you can barely manage a "hey" when you see him. I, personally, have always been shy in general and while I've done so much better with my shyness in everyday situations, when it comes to talking to boys it's usually pretty hopeless.

2. I'm picky.

I mean, he doesn't have to be Nathan Scott but he should probably have a few of the same qualities. I'm just not looking to settle for a guy who parties all the time or doesn't care about his future or someone who's going to try to bring me away from God.

3. Different interests

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Honestly, a perfect night for me is watching Netflix and eating some pizza. Most college kids (guys and girls) like to go to parties, drink, smoke, and have sex. That's just not me, never has been and never will be. Also, I'm not saying all guys are like this, but there are a lot of guys that are "only after one thing" and that's not what I'm after.

4. Differing maturity levels

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I get it, it's college, we're young, it's the time of our lives, having fun is everyone's top priority. Most people aren't looking to settle down or have a long-term relationship. That's fine for some people to only be looking to have fun but again, that's just not me.

5. I don't want to waste my time.

It's better to be in no relationship than to be in the wrong relationship. I'm not trying to date someone for the wrong reasons just to be able to say I have a boyfriend.

6. Small selection

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I live in a small town and go to a small school. Most of the guys that live around here and don't party all the time are taken. There just aren't too many good Jesus-loving, single guys around here that seem interested in me.

7. God hasn't shown me "the one" yet.

This is actually the only reason. None of the other stuff on this list matters except for what's in God's plan. Regardless of my shyness, or pickiness, or how many bad boys are out there that seem like the good guys, if God wanted me to be in a relationship right now then I would be. I have faith that one day He's going to show me the person I'm supposed to be with, whether that day is tomorrow, in a few weeks, or in several years. Until then I'll just stick to reading my Bible and watching my Netflix.