To The Old Me, From The New Me—You've Blossomed Into A Pretty Cool Butterfly

To The Old Me, From The New Me—You've Blossomed Into A Pretty Cool Butterfly

Just know, you've got this.


I could honestly write to the "old me" from thirty minutes ago, or the "old me" from when I was a fetus in my mom's womb, but I'm going to direct this letter to the "old me" from high school.

Boy were those dark times.

High school wasn't bad—but it wasn't good either. I think I was over it after freshman year. I'd gone to enough Friday night football games and school dances to last me a lifetime.

High school wasn't how it appeared on TV. Maybe it had to do with the high school I went to, or maybe it had to do with the people I'd chosen to surround myself with. Or, maybe it had to do with my strict, controlling parents.

Maybe I just wasn't a high school person—or a school person in general.

OK, enough stalling. Here it goes:

Dear Old Joanne,

You'd be happy to know that I'm in college now—or more rather you're in college now. We? I don't know.

And it's pretty great. Despite the fact that it sucks and once I graduate, I'll most likely be in debt for the rest of my life, but that's okay.

I managed to find my calling—kind of. I decided to pursue a degree in communication. It's actually pretty exciting stuff. It's a broad major, so if I decide I don't like journalism or something, I can go into marketing or PR.

You're probably stressed about school or your friends not wanting to be your friends anymore. Or maybe you're stressed about some stupid boy who won't even matter in a few years down the road (side note: they definitely don't matter now).

Maybe you're worried about your body image—or your image overall.

Unfortunately, "new you" still lacks confidence every so often. She's also not the stick-thin, size 0 she was back in her freshman year of high school.

But she grew boobs! So, that's pretty exciting, right?

I guess my advice to you is to relax. Those grades, those events, and dances you're missing out on, they don't actually matter. Those friends you swore up and down you'd do anything for, they aren't apart of your life anymore.

That guy you cried over for a week? He's not in your life anymore.

That presentation you practiced over and over for, missed sleep because of: it really isn't a big deal. At least not now. Not anymore.

That retail job you thought you'd be long gone from? Yeah, you're still there. But get this: you got promoted! And you're on the right track to moving up the corporate latter.

Also, to those who said high school is the best four years of your life? They're wrong. College has been the best few years of my life so far. I've enjoyed every bit of it—even if it's the most stressed out I've been in my entire life.

Sure, the workload is a lot harder than it was in high school, but you're doing what you love every single day. You're learning new material, gaining real, hands-on life experience, preparing yourself for your future dream job.

It's great. You're great. And you're going to do great things.

So, yeah, high school sucks, but just know this: you're going to get through it.

Plus, you're no longer a shy, little caterpillar. I mean, you have your moments, but you're a lot more social and willing to try new things now.

Overall, you've blossomed into a pretty cool butterfly.

So, with that, trek on "old me." You've got this.


New Joanne (aka Upcoming College Senior Joanne)

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.


1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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To My Little Sister, Don't Wish For Time To Move Faster, Soak Up The Stage Of Life You're In

Live in the moment and you will come out having no regrets.


To my best friend,

Time goes by quickly, do not wish it away. Enjoy living in the moment you are in right now because you will never get it back. Stop wishing you were in college already because you have so much to live for right now.

I know all you want to do is get away from home and start over, which is normal because I wanted to do the same thing at your age. But as your older sister, and as someone who has gone through that stage already, I am here to tell you that it is not all rainbows and sunshine 24/7.

With the time you have left in high school, enjoy every second of it because eventually, you will come to miss it.

Graduation is just around the corner for you and it honestly freaks me out how fast time is going. And it only goes faster in college. As kids, all we wanted was to be in high school and be able to drive on our own and once we hit high school, all we want is to be in college. With almost being in college for two years, I can easily say that all I want is to be a kid again. We have been wishing our whole lives away since we can remember. Enjoy today.

I see so much potential in you and I am beyond excited for what the future has in store for you.

Many times, you have been the one to give me advice even though I'm the older sister and this shows how caring and loving you are. Life is going to treat you so well and it already has.

There is one piece of advice I must give to you though. Make sure to thank mom and dad and tell them you love them as often as possible. I know they can get on your nerves and may make you angry at times, but they have given us the best life. You will learn in college just how much they love us and how much they have given up just to make us happy.

You have a good head on your shoulders and I know life is going to turn out to be exactly what you wanted. Just don't wish it all away. Some of my favorite times were when I was a senior in high school.

I'm always looking out for you so don't ever think you are alone in this crazy world. Remember, I am just one phone call away.

I love you so much sis, you got this.

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