An Open Letter To My Long Distance Boyfriend

An Open Letter To My Long Distance Boyfriend

The miles between us may be hard, but being with you is so worth it.
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Dear ____,

At the moment, you and I are in two separate places. And I can't even begin to tell you how much I wish I could be right by your side. But I will be soon.

I know that it is very, very hard dating me from so far away. Certain days, things may seem impossible. But there are a few things I want you to know and understand when things get difficult.

First, I want you to always remember how much I care about you. Despite the miles between us, I will never stop asking you how your day is, spontaneously calling you when I know you are having a rough day, or simply sending you a nice text message to brighten your day. Your happiness means everything to me. No matter how far away I am, you are always on my mind. I always want you to be having a fantastic day, enjoying yourself, and making memories.

I wish I could be there with you each day to experience all the good things. I wish I could sit across from you at the dinner table, greet you when you get home from work, and go out to do fun things with you every weekend. But I can't. At least not right now. And I wish I could.

Second, I want you to realize how hard for me it truly is being away from you. When something good happens, you are the first person I want to tell. Sure, you may only be a phone call away, but it's not the same as being with you and celebrating in person. When I'm having a bad day, you are the one I want by my side, hugging me tight, telling me that everything is going to be okay.

Third, please know and understand that I am loyal to you. So many long distance relationships end because someone decides to be unfaithful. I would never do that to you. You are the one for me, and nobody else even catches my attention. Nobody here compares to you. I want you, and nobody else. So even with these miles between us, I will always be faithful to you. Just as I always know that you will be to me.

Fourth, and finally, I want you to know that despite the hard times and missing each other like crazy, it is worth it. I may see you less than I wish. But when I do get to see you, my heart is filled with pure joy. I practically count down the days until I get to see you. The moment I lay eyes on you after our time apart, and I see your smile and eyes I love so much looking at me, at that moment, I am reminded how worth it our long distance relationship is.

I would rather spend time away from you and be able to still laugh with you, see you when I can, and live a happy life with you, than not see you at all. You add a happiness to my life that I could never know without you. One day, when there is no longer distance between us and we can permanently be together, we will look back at this part of our lives and be glad that we went through this together. Because the prize in the end, having you, is oh so worth it.

I'll see you soon, and I can't wait.

Sincerely,

The woman who loves you, even from miles and miles away.



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The Ultimate Guide To Making Your Casual Relationship A Serious One

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Are you stuck in a casual relationship that you want to take to the next level? If so, you are in the right place. I know that this can be intimidating, but I'm here to help you along the way. About a year ago, I was in the same position as you. I was seeing this guy just about every week. He would text me asking me to come over to his place. I would always say "yes," and that never failed. It was just an ongoing thing where we just went to his place and I am almost positive his friends did not even know I existed.

SPOILER ALERT: it has almost been a year and I have managed to make that relationship a serious one. I am best friends with his sister. He takes me out just about every weekend. His friends are now my friends. We see each other as much as possible. I am the happiest that I have ever been. The following steps worked for me and I am sure that they will work just as well for you!

Step 1: Ask to hang out more.

If you guys are only hanging out one night a week, ask about seeing each other maybe two times a week. If he/she agrees, this is a great sign and may mean that they are interested in you. Also, the more time you spend with someone, the more they get to know you, and the more they will like you.

Step 2: Try to hang out during daytime hours.

It is kinda weird to just hang out with someone exclusively at night. There are a few exceptions, such as if one of you work a full-time job. But, hanging out during the day definitely gives a *different* vibe.

Step 3: Go public.

Or at least try to. Ask if the other person will run errands with you or even go out somewhere with you. Assure them they you both can pay for your own food, drinks, etc. If they are willing to go, that is a good sign. If they offer to pay, that is an even better sign.

Step 4: Ask about their friends.

Just ask him about who he hangs out with, even if you already know because of social media. This opens up a chance for him to invite you to go somewhere with his friends. It also shows him that you are interested in his life, which will make him more attracted to you.

Step 5: DTR.

DTR aka define the relationship. Okay, so I know this sounds super scary. But seriously, you just need to ask the other person if they think this will turn into something more serious. Don't do it in a weird way. Just do it in a kind of casual way, as if you are asking for their opinion. This will definitely get them thinking about whether or not they want to actually commit. Depending on their answer, you will know whether to drop them or stick around.

Step 6: Be open.

This is so so so important. Just be open about what you are looking for, that way you aren't wasting anybody's time. Plus, they may admire your openness.


These are the steps I took to take my relationship up a notch, and I am happier now than ever. Remember, if you are in a casual relationship, but you want something more, you aren't trapped. You can leave whenever you want to.

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A Wake-Up Call To The Guy Who Doesn't See His Girl Is One-Of-A-Kind

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There are over 7.6 billion people in this world. But your girl, the girl you are so deeply in love with, she is unique, beautiful and extraordinary. That is what makes her one-of-a-kind.

She listens to you talk, she gives you advice, she motivates you to be the BEST you. She is always there for you, she constantly puts the effort into the relationship, and she never gives up. She never gives up on you when the going gets tough and she will never give up on you because that's the kind of girl she is.

She is the kind of girl that will make sure you are happy and who will never stop trying. She is the kind of girl who wants to spend the rest of her life with you. AND she is the girl who will put up with you when you have a breakdown.

Now if you have a girl like that, who is your best friend, don't you EVER, I mean EVER, mess it up.

Never take this girl for granted because she is the best thing for you and probably the best thing that has ever happened to you.

So, guys, if you are having relationship problems with your girl and she is constantly trying to put effort into it, don't you DARE ignore it or her.

This is your wake up call.

Please reevaluate what you are doing and take a step back and think to yourself, "Am I making her happy? Am I giving her my all? And am I put any putting an effort into this relationship as much as she is?"

If the answer is no... Here is what she is feeling and thinking:

"Am I not enough?"
"Do I make him happy anymore?"
"I don't want to give up... I could never give up... but I am so exhausted from trying so hard and not getting any effort back."

And if you know if she is feeling like this, please reassure her and give her your all. Because one day she is going to be TOO exhausted to try anymore. She is going to be too miserable and awfully sad. She is eventually going to give up. And it is going to rip her heart out.

She is a one-of-a-kind girl and if you NEVER want to lose her.

PUT. EFFORT. INTO. THE. RELATIONSHIP — It is honestly not that hard.

Relationships are not one-sided. Relationships take two people to work and yes, sometimes it is hard work. But if you genuinely love and care for your one-of-a-kind girl, you'd do anything in your power to make her happy and to make this last.

She is one in a million. There is only one of her. And I promise you, you will never find another girl like her unique self.

This is to the couples out there, especially to the guy. That girl, the girl who loves you with every ounce of her being, she needs you to wake up.

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