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Being "Strong" And "Independent" Is The New Sexy

SAD BOY/GIRL SEASON IS OVER...FOREVER.

Rachel Wahlin

Sep 11, 2019

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Being "Strong" And "Independent" Is The New Sexy

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Cuffing season is upon us, and before you know it you are going to feel like everyone else on planet earth is in love. Either seeing a couple hold hands in public or go on pumpkin patch dates...you know, the fall shit couples like to do. Be happy for whoever has found their person or who is "in love". But don't throw yourself a pity party on how you are sad and will be "forever alone". Sad girl/sad boy hours NEED TO BE PUT TO AN END.

No one likes a sad girl/boy. Some people can even find that as a turn off when getting to know someone. It's not attractive, and sometimes even annoying. BUT I will tell you what is attractive. BEING STRONG AND INDEPENDENT!

People want somebody who has their life together, have goals, a drive for life, and are independent. I personally have always considered myself a strong and independent person and when I have dated in the past, I've found that the guys didn't really like that I was because I have a life outside of them/the relationship. And I bet you each of them knew that I was way better off without them. (This is why I don't really date either, no one really has the same mindset as me.)

Here is the thing with being strong and independent: people know you are mature, level-headed (for the most part...haha!) and pretty self-sufficient. They know that you will stand up for what you believe in, are honest, and not take any BS. Now, you may be thinking that I am describing someone who is a jerk, but hear me out, [at least for men] they tend to like the chase/challenge that a person like this can give them. Acting like this, you know what you want, and love who you are, flaws and all. You might even date less, but when you do it will be someone that is well-worth your time because they are up for the challenge of YOU.

Again, I'm not saying act like a total jerk. Just be brutally honest, work for yourself and love who you are, and know that you are 100% fine if you don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Sad boy/girl season is OVER FOREVER, SEXY INDEPENDENT BOY/GIRL SEASON IS HERE AND IS HERE TO STAY!

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All names should be "unisex names."

1. Communicating via email can be awkward.

2. Appointments usually accompany weird looks.

3. Introducing yourself to someone is never without a hitch.

4. You’ve probably thought about changing your name.

5. You’re often asked why you have the name you do.

6. You get excited when you meet someone of your gender with your name.

7. You feel awkward when you meet someone of the opposite gender with your name.

8. You’ve had someone say to you, “I knew a [your name], but they were [your opposite gender].”

9. You’ve heard a bad joke/pick-up line or two about your name before.

10. People are surprised when they see you.

11. You’re extra sensitive to other unique or unisex names.

12. You’ve fought with your parents about it.

13. All things considered, you’re happy your name makes you unique.

You know that all of these things apply to you. You'll just never tell.

I get it... I'm pale.

1. At least I can't lose you in a crowd!

2. Oh my goodness your skin is like glow-in-the-dark.

3. Can't you just get fake tan?

4. Do you tan or just burn?

5. Your kids are going to look like Casper the Friendly Ghost!

6. *holds arm against your arm* Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. *holds pale arm against another pale arm* Aw, at least you're darker than her!

8. I laid out by the pool almost every day over break!

9. I haven't used sunscreen since I was, like, five.

10. *adjusts selfie lighting to their face* Oops, where'd you go??

11. *after working out* Your face is SO red!

12. *wears white* Look! You're all one color!

13. You need to get some sun.

14. Aren't you excited for summer?

The struggle bus is real.

1. Child prodigies:

2. Hearing other musicians in the practice room next door and accepting that you will never be as talented as them:

3. That anxiety that takes over before every performance:

4. Taking a million 0 credit classes:

5. When there's a paper due the next day, but you have to attend yet another concert in order to pass a 0 credit class:

6. When your friends try to encourage you after a performance, even though you are criticizing everything in your mind:

7. Knowing that there's always that one professor during juries:

8. The oh-so-attractive band/choir uniforms:

9. Realizing that a college campus is maybe not the best atmosphere to finish your latest composition:

10. Hearing "Oh, you sing opera? I LOVE Phantom of the Opera!" for the hundredth time:

11. When people think finals week is a breeze for you.

12. When you're drowning in the stress that comes with 18+ credits (and not to mention all those 0 credit classes) and people ask you how you are:

13. When it all comes down to it, though, you know that at the end of the day, music is your passion:

Because you need it in your life.

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6. holds arm against your arm Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. holds pale arm against another pale arm Aw, at least you're darker than her!

10. adjusts selfie lighting to their face Oops, where'd you go??

11. after working out Your face is SO red!

12. wears white Look! You're all one color!