When I first started college, I was distracted by the guys in my class all the time. I would find a cute or interesting guy in my class and purposely sit next to him. After a while, I started to notice that the interactions with the guys would go no further than a few small interactions and seeing each other in class. If I did happen to talk to the guy outside of class, they were automatically friend-zoned (that's because there is a certain kind of guy I am looking for).
After a while, I decided that I am not going to date or starting looking for a guy until after I graduate. Well with May just around the corner, it is time for me to start looking for a guy. Here are some of the qualities that I look for in a guy.
1. He has to be dependable.
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If he promises he is going to do something for me or support me in whatever I am doing, he has to come through for me. I understand that things come up and sometimes you have to cancel or change plans, it just can be something that happens all the time. He has to make an effort to be there for me just like I will be there for him in whatever he does.
2. He has to be a good listener.
He has to listen to me and actually be able to repeat what I said. That is a trait that is very hard for me to find in a guy because I talk a lot and fast. Guys would tell me all the time, the reason they cannot repeat what I said is that I talk fast and all the time. That's not an excuse because if my brothers can do it so can a guy I want to date.
3. He has to be comfortable in his own skin and confident.
I am very comfortable in my own skin. I like the person that I am and I want to find a guy who is just as comfortable with me as he is with himself. I want a guy who is comfortable being nerdy if he is a nerdy person, or is comfortable being quirky. I want him to have confidence with it.
4. He has to have a good sense of humor.
Laughter is the best medicine. On a day where I am stressed or just not feeling it, I want a guy who can make me laugh and cheer me up. I have a very dry sense of humor, but I love all jokes as long as they are funny or light-hearted. I am able to laugh at myself and I want him to be able to laugh at himself.
5. He has to be romantic.
I will admit that I watch a lot of rom-coms and read a lot of Nicholas Sparks books. I want a good who comes up with fun date night ideas that we both will love. I want him to do special things for me for my birthday or just a random Tuesday. Even if he gets me tickets to different sporting events, that would be special because at least I know he listens.
6. He has to be able to cook and clean.
I have been spoiled by the fact that all three of my brothers can cook and clean. I want a guy who can cook and clean and he is not waiting for me to do those things for him. I love to cook and clean, but I should not be the only one doing it in the relationship.
7. He has to be intelligent.
Now intelligence is something that can be measured on different levels. Some people are analytical, street, creative, etc. I am a person who loves to talk about different things and read about different things. I know that not everyone reads, but sometimes I want to read together and share things together. I am a very analytical person, so I love to read and analyze what I just read.
8. He has to be muscular or athletic built.
Health is a big deal for me. My family has a history of heart disease, cancer, etc. I want a guy who is going to go to the gym with me and not criticize me for the way I eat. I just happen to love muscles, but most guys have an athletic build (but that's just a preference).
9. His eyes.
I am attracted to guys with blue eyes. I am even attracted to guys with hazel eyes.
10. He has to be tall.
Okay, I am 4'11" so most guys are taller than me. But I am drawn to guys who between 5'10 and 6'4". I love to wear heels and I wear them almost every day.
I understand that it will be hard to find a guy will all of these characteristics. My dream guy would have all ten of these characteristics. I am looking for someone with has at least 7-to-8 of the characteristics. I know that my perfect guy is out there and I am looking for him. I will not stop looking until I find the guy that I am looking for.
