With guys who have "dad bods" you get the experience of dating your dad without having to! He looks like a middle aged man when he's in his early twenties and somehow it's healthy and appealing. This is presented with the idea that you know what he would look like before getting married and having kids and such-before being middle aged at 45. One can assume here that the author feels she would still have the mentality of wanting to be the cute one at 45 when she would have "mom bod" and look a lot more similar to the guy who she liked because he let her have tacos.

Here we comes to one of my initial great issues with "dad bod". Frat guys do not have the body of a father nor should they. They are not middle aged men unless they plan on dying young. It's the party culture and the fact that their normal habits are accepted by normal dudes as opposed to societies they feel oppress them-because liking your body and eating the foods you like aren't actually wrong things. Most guys don't make you feel intimidated or bad about yourself for not being a health nut like themselves. If this has been your overwhelming experience I feel for you but newsflash: you really weren't involved with the right guys. It seems like one collective group is addressed in the original article as the way that "basic" guys are. Lumping guys into a collective group based on stereotypes of the douche jock or "the totally cool and fun frat guy who has a "real" body like me and lets me eat tacos" is sexist. Do we appreciate it when guys do that sort of thing? Think about sexy tropes that straight guys stereotypically find attractive. The nerd girl, the one who plays hard to get, thick girls with big butts and boobs but a conventionally attractive waist, girls who are fun and like to party, girls who are athletic enough without being too muscley 'cause that isn't cute to them. Do we enjoy things like that? Double standards are not fun no matter what side of the issue they fall on.
Moreover, frat guys or any guys should not or do not have the body of a middle aged man because they do not have the lifestyle of a middle aged man. It makes sense for your dad to have a beer gut or something attractive and in between as it's described. It's great that it's deemed acceptable by tabloids for Leonardo DiCaprio to chill in the ocean without sculpted abs. Middle aged men are old, stressed out, and especially if they're fathers have had the excuse of raising kids. Your elevated idea of the frat guy with a dad bod doesn't do any of those things. So he's just some guy being in college and not making a huge deal about his appearance...and he has the capacity to still be just as good or bad as the basic guys with washboard abs and a meal planning habit that go to the gym too much.


"Dad bod" shouldn't be a thing in the slightest because "mom bod" is a thing for a reason. We aren't just saying that we've aged and our metabolism has slowed down when we say we have "mom bods". Oftentimes for middle aged women but also for any mother "mom bod" starts when you get pregnant and does not stop. During pregnancy is mom bod after pregnancy is hella mom bod. Your body grows and changes when you grow and give birth to a child. You can and will have a form of mom bod when you're older if you haven't given birth or been pregnant and are in fact a mother. Women should definitely feel confident in their bodies in general and their bodies as mothers of all types but you don't see the "mom bod" being fetishized-just "dad bod".
So unless we wish to give guys permission to treat women how we most certainly do not want to be treated: as sexual objects then we should not advocate this. There are so many double standards that are present in recent times that aren't addressed for an understandable reason. Women are oppressed and wish to be able to objectify and have selfish opinions. We beg those male celebs to take their shirts off on live television and they graciously comply. Women are shamed for naked selfies and male celebrities are naughty for them. Female celebs who don't have sculpted figures get slammed more often than not while "dad bods'' are raised up. I get the attitudes I do but no matter what previous experiences are we have to be fair to everyone. Thus concludes my explanation why girls should not in fact love the "dad bod" even if they do.