20 Ways To Get Over A Breakup

20 Ways To Get Over A Breakup

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Breakups suck. There's no way around that. But there are ways to make it better.

1. Have a good cry (or seven).

Let it all out. Embrace the sadness you’re feeling immediately after a breakup. If you don’t properly mourn and deal with the sad feelings you have, you won’t be able to get over the breakup. Cry until you can’t cry anymore, and you might be surprised by how much better you feel.

2. Indulge in your favorite treat.

I’m not saying you should turn to eating as a coping mechanism, but there is no shame in indulging in your favorite treat after a heartbreak. Head to the grocery store and pick up your favorite Ben & Jerry’s, or Oreo cookies. Sharing is not required.

3. Go shopping.

A little retail therapy never hurt anybody.

4. Pamper yourself.

Get your hair done, get a mani-pedi. Treat yourself, girl, because you deserve it.

5. Blast your favorite female artist.

Beyonce, Taylor Swift, Carrie Underwood- whoever it may be, put on your favorite CD and blast the music as loud as you can. Sing your heart out. Clean your house. Have a dance party by yourself. Music will lift you up, especially if it’s girl-power music. Try Katy Perry’s “Part of Me" or Christina Aguilera's "Fighter."

6. Have a girls' night out.

Getting ready is half the fun of going out. Get dolled up with your favorite makeup and hair products, toss on your favorite going-out outfit and high heels, and go out with your girl friends for a night on the town. Go to your favorite restaurant or bar, and embrace the beautiful, unattached woman you are!

7. Or a girls' night in.


Grab a carton of your favorite ice cream, and curl up on the couch with your best girl friends. Put on a funny movie (or three) and laugh your heart out.

8. Play a fun game.

Gather around the table with your closest friends and a bottle of wine, and settle into a game of Cards Against Humanity, What Do You Meme, or What’s Yours Like? I’ve played these games with my best friends and laughed so hard I cried. Fun games like these are a great way to lighten the mood. Laughter is the best medicine.

9. Take a trip to the local library.

Check out some fun books from the library and escape into a world of fiction.

10. Have “me” time.

Take a hot shower, and put in a hair treatment or face mask. Recline with a good book or your latest Netflix addiction, and just relax for the night. Treat yourself like the queen that you are!

11. Call your mom.

A nice phone call to your mom can work wonders, especially when you’re hurting. You should never feel ashamed to reach out and ask for some help when you need it.

12. Clean your apartment.

Blast some music and clean your place from top to bottom. You may be surprised how much better you'll feel.

13. Redecorate.

Pick out a new phone case and background. Take down old pictures from your wall and put up new ones. This will create a change in scenery, which can, surprisingly, help immensely when getting over a break up.

14. Adopt a hobby.

After a breakup, you find a lot more free time on your hands. Spend some time to learn calligraphy or paint. Cook and bake recipes that are shared all over Facebook, or finally attempt those crafts that have been sitting on your Pinterest forever. Trying something new is fresh and exciting!

15. Reconnect with old friends.

Take advantage of your free time to call up friends you haven't seen in years. They'll be thrilled to hear from you, and you can catch up over coffee or lunch.

16. Work out.

Join a gym, take up yoga, or go for a run around the block. Endorphins released during exercise are good for the mind and body.

17. Take a class.

Take a local cooking, dance, or pottery class. Find something that interests you and try it out! You'll have fun, learn some things, and make some friends.

18. Spend an entire day at your favorite place.

Whether it be the beach, the mall, or your favorite hiking trail, take a warm Saturday to just go and spend the whole day there. Do what makes you happy.

19. Get back out there.

When you're ready, get back out into the dating game.

20. Never forget to love yourself.

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Increasing Evidence Points to Music as a Potential Solution to the Mental Health Problem.

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Okay, You caught me!

I am NOT just talking about everybody's favorite actor-turned-rapper— or second, if you've seen Childish Gambino's "This is America" music video. Unfortunately, current research hasn't explored specific genres and artists. However, studies HAVE provided significant evidence in possibilities for music to treat mental health disorders. Now, before you say something that your parents would not be proud of, ask yourself if you can really blame me for wanting to get your attention. This is an urgent matter concerning each one of us. If we all face the truth, we could very well reach one step closer to solving one of society's biggest problems: Mental Health.

The Problem:

As our nation continues to bleed from tragedies like the horrific shooting that shattered the lives of 70 families whose loved ones just wanted to watch the "Dark Knight Rises" during its first hours of release, as well as the traumatic loss of seventeen misfortunate innocents to the complications of mental health disorders in the dear city of Parkland— a city mere hours from our very own community— it's impossible to deny the existence of mental illness. As many of us can already vouch, mental illness is much more common than what most would think: over 19 million adults in America suffer from a mental health disorder. Picture that: a population slightly less than that of Florida is plagued by hopelessness, isolation, and utter despair.

Disease in the form of depression holds millions of people prisoner, as anxieties instill crippling desperation and too many struggles with finding peace. This can be you. It could be your brother, your sister, your mother, your father, your cousin, your aunt, your uncle, your friend, your roommate, your fraternity brother, your sorority sister, your lab partner, or just your classmate that sits in the corner of the lecture hall with a head buried into a notebook that camouflages all emotion.

I hope we— the UCF community— understand the gravity of the problem, but it's clear that some still see mental illness as a disease that affects only a handful of "misfits" who "terrorize" our streets, while the numbers reveal more to the issue. In fact, 1 in 5 Americans suffers from a mental health disorder. The problem is so serious that suicide has risen to become the second-leading cause of death among 20 to 24-year-olds. While many continue to ask for more antidepressants and even the occasional "proper spanking," recent studies indicate increases in occurrence, such as one in depression from 5.9% in 2012 to 8.2% in 2015. So, clearly, none of that is working.

The Evidence:

If we really want to create a world where our children are free from the chains of mental illness, we need to think outside the box. Doctors and scientists won't really talk about this since it's still a growing field of research, but music has strong potential. We don't have any options at the moment, which means we need to change our mindset about music and to continue to explore its medicinal benefits. If you're still skeptical because of the title, then please consider these 4 pieces of solid evidence backed by scientific research:

1. Music has been proven to improve disorders like Parkinson's Disease.

Researchers sponsored by the National Institute of Health— the country's largest research agency— saw an improvement in the daily function of patients with Parkinson's Disease. This makes patients shake uncontrollably, which often prevents them from complete functionality. The disease is caused by a shortage of dopamine— a chemical your neurons, or brain cells, release; since music treats this shortage, there's an obvious ability to increase dopamine levels. As numerous studies connect dopamine shortages to mental illnesses like depression, addiction, and ADHD, someone could possibly use music's proven ability to increase dopamine levels to treat said problems.

2. Listening to the music has the potential to activate your brain's "reward center."

In 2013, Valorie Salimpoor and fellow researchers conducted a study that connected subjects' pleasure towards music to a specific part of the brain. This key structure, the nucleus accumbens, is the body's "reward center," which means all of you have experienced its magical powers. In fact, any time the brain detects a rewarding sensation— drinking ice-cold water after a five-mile run in sunny, humid Florida, eating that Taco Bell chalupa after a long happy hour at Knight's Library, and even consuming recreational drugs— this structure releases more of that fantastic dopamine. So, with further research into specifics, doctors may soon be prescribing your daily dose of tunes for your own health.

3. Listening to Music may be more effective than prescription anti-anxiety medication.

In 2013, Mona Lisa Chanda and Daniel J. Levitin— two accomplished doctors in psychology— reviewed a study wherein patients waiting to undergo surgery were given either anti-anxiety medications or music to listen to. The study took into account cortisol levels, which are used daily by healthcare professionals to gauge patient levels. This "stress hormone" was actually found to be lower in patients who listened to classical music rather those who took the recommended dose of prescription drugs. Sit there and think about that for a second: these patients actually felt more relaxed with something as simple as MUSIC than with chemicals that are made specifically to force patients into relaxation before surgery. Why pop a Xanax when you can just listen to Beethoven?

4. Music may release the chemicals that help you naturally relax and feel love.

Further studies continue to justify music's place in the medical world as results demonstrate increases in substances such as prolactin— a hormone that produces a relaxing sensation— as well as oxytocin— the substance that promotes warmth and happiness during a hug between mother and child. So this study basically showed us that music has the potential to actually make you feel the way you did when Mom or Dad would embrace you with the warmest hug you've ever felt.

The Future:

The evidence I present you with today is ultimately just a collection of individual situations where specific people found specific results. There are a lot of variables when it comes to any research study; therefore, data is never truly certain. We should take these findings as strong suggestions to a possible solution, but we must remember the possibility of failure in our search.

The neurochemistry behind the music and its medicinal properties is just beginning to unfold before the scientific community. In fact, extremely qualified scientists from the National Institute of Health— the organization that basically runs any important medical study in the United States— continue to remind us of the subject's youth with the constant use of "potential" behind any and all of their findings. Therefore, it's our responsibility as a community to look into this— not just that of the scientists at the National Institute of Health.

We're all surrounded by music. It's at the bars. It's in our ears during all-night sessions at the UCF library. It's keeping us awake through East Colonial traffic at 7:00 AM while hordes of students focus on their cell phone screens instead of the paved roads ahead. It's in the shoes we wear, the actions we take, and the words we say. IF YOU'RE READING THIS: it's accessible to you. So, don't be shy, and try to play with your Spotify account, or even just on YouTube, and gauge the power of music. As more and more of us see the light, we can promote the movement and carry on as more research comes out to support us.

Drop the bars, drop those addictive pills that destroy your body slowly, and pick up your headphones and press PLAY.

Just relax, close your eyes, smile, and live.

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