The "Nice Girl" Syndrome Is Real
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The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome Has Spread To Women, And It Is Terrifying

No, you're not alone because you're too nice; that's not a thing.

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We've all met at least one "nice guy" in our lives. You know, the guy who claims to be a nice gentleman who treats women like queens but is actually an immature, jealous ticking time bomb? The "nice guy" syndrome became a huge meme a few years back when people started posting about their experiences with these lovely lads to social media. The most typical interactions with the self-proclaimed "nice guy" usually start with his interest in a girl who isn't interested back, and after she politely declines his advances, he does a 180 and calls her a bitch or a slut and then whines about how nice guys like him never get a chance.

Even though the "nice guy" syndrome hasn't gone away, there seems to be an uprising of the self-proclaimed "nice girl," who is just like the "nice guy" in every way. The "nice girl" has typically been hurt in the past and boasts a heart of gold. She can be seen posting on social media about what an amazing and caring girlfriend she is and how she isn't like other women because she doesn't party and hook-up with random guys every weekend. However, like the "nice guy," she doesn't actually possess the traits she brags about. Rather, she is just like the women she claims to be the complete opposite of.

At first, I didn't really see how many girls I follow on social media were displaying these behaviors. I finally noticed after watching some great videos by a YouTuber named Cuestar. I realized that a lot of my female Facebook friends posted the same memes that the typical "nice girl" would post.

The "nice girl" syndrome hasn't been as popular as the "nice guy" syndrome, but it's just as prevalent and annoying. It must be exhausting for these girls to constantly believe that they are better than other women and that the reason they have so much trouble getting a guy is that they're so nice. Absolutely nothing about that logic makes any sense. If you're having so much trouble dating, perhaps you aren't as nice as you seem.

I'm over this whole "nice guy," "nice girl" movement. Nobody is too nice for a relationship, absolutely nobody. You're not better than anyone else, you're not single because you have a heart of gold, and you've definitely got other problems to deal with.

To quote the iconic Vine from Jed Lee, "niceness is great, you just have so many other traits that are so un-fuckable that it distracts us from your niceness."

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