The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome Has Spread To Women, And It Is Terrifying

The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome Has Spread To Women, And It Is Terrifying

No, you're not alone because you're too nice; that's not a thing.

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We've all met at least one "nice guy" in our lives. You know, the guy who claims to be a nice gentleman who treats women like queens but is actually an immature, jealous ticking time bomb? The "nice guy" syndrome became a huge meme a few years back when people started posting about their experiences with these lovely lads to social media. The most typical interactions with the self-proclaimed "nice guy" usually start with his interest in a girl who isn't interested back, and after she politely declines his advances, he does a 180 and calls her a bitch or a slut and then whines about how nice guys like him never get a chance.

Even though the "nice guy" syndrome hasn't gone away, there seems to be an uprising of the self-proclaimed "nice girl," who is just like the "nice guy" in every way. The "nice girl" has typically been hurt in the past and boasts a heart of gold. She can be seen posting on social media about what an amazing and caring girlfriend she is and how she isn't like other women because she doesn't party and hook-up with random guys every weekend. However, like the "nice guy," she doesn't actually possess the traits she brags about. Rather, she is just like the women she claims to be the complete opposite of.

At first, I didn't really see how many girls I follow on social media were displaying these behaviors. I finally noticed after watching some great videos by a YouTuber named Cuestar. I realized that a lot of my female Facebook friends posted the same memes that the typical "nice girl" would post.

The "nice girl" syndrome hasn't been as popular as the "nice guy" syndrome, but it's just as prevalent and annoying. It must be exhausting for these girls to constantly believe that they are better than other women and that the reason they have so much trouble getting a guy is that they're so nice. Absolutely nothing about that logic makes any sense. If you're having so much trouble dating, perhaps you aren't as nice as you seem.

I'm over this whole "nice guy," "nice girl" movement. Nobody is too nice for a relationship, absolutely nobody. You're not better than anyone else, you're not single because you have a heart of gold, and you've definitely got other problems to deal with.

To quote the iconic Vine from Jed Lee, "niceness is great, you just have so many other traits that are so un-fuckable that it distracts us from your niceness."

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11 Struggles Every Nice Girl Understands

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We are all taught to be kind-hearted human beings. Nonetheless, some of us seem to follow through more than others: we're called the "nice girls." But being the nice girl isn't all hearts and smiles — in fact, sometimes it's more trouble than it's worth.

1. You take on way more than you can handle because the word "no" is not a part of your vocabulary.

2. When you actually do have the courage to say no, you feel like the worst person in the world.

3. People take advantage of you like it's their job.

4. Your kindness is often mistaken for weakness — people neglect to realize that even the nice girls have backbones.

5. You entertain every Tom, Dick and Harry because you don't have the heart to say, "F*** off!"

6. You feel that you need to keep everyone around you happy.

7. Always forgetting to keep yourself happy in the process.

8. Sometimes you wonder if your purpose in life is simply to please everyone around you.

9. You can never lie because everyone knows that high-pitched tone you get when you try.

10. You keep most of your problems to yourself because you couldn't possibly trouble someone else with your feelings.

11. Yet, you're the master of listening to other people's issues.

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5 Signs Your Boyfriend Might Be A Dirty Rotten Cheater

Now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you.

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I just spent the last week with my jaw on the floor after the discovery that my best friend spent the better part of 2 years with a guy who was actually cheating ( a lot ) basically the entire length of their relationship. And now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you. If you encounter any of the following 5 signs, then girl you better get the hell outta dodge.

1. You NEVER get the invite to family gatherings.

Holidays

Brunch with the fam? He's not calling you. Christmas Eve at Aunt Sheryl's? He's not calling you. His sister's birthday party? He's definitely not calling you. It may not seem like a big deal at first, but if he has met your mom, your dad, and your cousins and still isn't inviting you to come along, it's probably because he doesn't want his mom to get confused that he had a totally different girl over last week.

2. He can't stand you being anywhere near his phone.

Cheater's Phone

I would think this one is an obvious red flag, but you'd be surprised how many people believe guys who say they just want you to "respect their privacy." If he is constantly texting, snapping and shoving his phone into his pocket immediately after hitting that lock screen, you may very well be in for a world of hurt. If it's going off at 2 AM, well girl, I shouldn't have to say more to convince you he's cheating.

3. You rarely go out in public.

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I know, I know, he's told you a hundred times that he's just a homebody and would rather be snuggled up watching "Catfish" with you than going out anywhere, but that's probably because he is just scared you guys will run into his other girlfriend. If you do end up going out, it's always out of town or something loud and crowded like a concert where you guys would be hard to spot.

4. He NEVER wants to post about you two on social media.

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He says stuff like "Oh, I just don't feel the need to publicize our love." or maybe "I have a crazy ex and I don't want her to harass you online." Those are both actually just lies. What he really wants to say is "I just don't want evidence and time stamps of our relationship in case I get caught." The best is when they tell you about how they like girls who are off the grid. Sounds like a cheater to me...

5. He's constantly accusing you of cheating.

Accusing

Most girls I know will chalk this up to him just being a jealous guy. But let me tell you something honey, nothing makes you more paranoid than a guilty conscious. If every time you two argue, it divulges into him saying he's not sure if he can trust you or that you have too many guy friends or that he wonders what you're doing on nights without him, well he's probably just manifesting his own fears.

There are no promises here that he is definitely cheating, and if you really trust your man then more power to you. But if any of these signs had you thinking about your own relationship, then I highly recommend that you move on to the next one girl. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, even fish who won't cheat on you!

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