Be strong. Be independent. Be respectful to yourself and others. Be confident in yourself. Strive to be the best version of yourself, not the version that others think you should be. Be happy. Love yourself. Eventually, you can let someone else into your life and you can be happy with them but you can't be happy with them if you aren't happy with yourself first.
1. Be Patient
I know that you might feel lonely and that you want someone to be there for you but you have others to turn to. You have your family and friends that are there for you whenever you need them. You don't need a man in your life to feel complete or to feel whole. If your on the search for a guy, you might not find the right one. You need to take time for yourself and figure yourself out before you let a guy into your life.
2. Love yourself first
GiphyGirls, you need to love yourself first before you let someone else in your life to be happy. You need to be happy with your life and where you are in life. Whether its your personality, looks, your job or your schooling, you need to be happy with all of it before you can be happy with someone else. If you aren't truly happy with yourself then you will never feel truly happy in your relationship.
3. Guys aren't as special as you might think
Guys might make you feel special sometimes but in reality, they just make you question your self worth. They lower our self-esteem by making little comments about our looks and our body. How they think other girls are more attractive than you are and that you should be more like them. How they tell you to go to the gym to work on getting a better body or to get a boob job, let me tell you.. it's not worth it. If they can't accept you for who you are, than they don't deserve you.
4. Prince Charming isn't going to sweep you off your feet
GiphyEver since we were all younger, we have been watching Disney movies where all of these princesses get swept off of their feet by these handsome men and it's just not going to happen in reality. Most men don't even hold the door open for us women anymore and why not? It is a simple gesture out of kindness and respect but guys don't seem to know what that is anymore. We all have that fairytale picture of a perfect love life and we just end up disappointing ourselves in the end.
5. Be strong and respect yourself
You need to take your life into your own hands. Work towards making your life as best as it could possibly be. Get a good job, study hard, get good grades in school to better your career, exercise and eat healthy, spend time with your friends, take time for yourself and get a manicure or a new hairstyle. These things might seem little but they will make you happy and independent. Once you accomplish all of these things on your own, you will realize that you don't need a man to tell you what to do. Be strong enough to tell a man,"No". Be strong enough to tell them that you aren't happy with them in your life.
6. Don't be brainwashed
GiphyMany girls are brainwashed by these boys, thinking that they can't live without them. They lived without them once, they can live without them again. You might think that you are happy in the relationship and you truly might be but some girls aren't and don't realize it. They aren't happy, they tell their significant other and he tells them that he will change and that he loves you. You fall for it, you go back to him and continue to be unhappy. He is all you know, he is your best friend and you are scared of what you are going to lose. You are scared of living on your own and possibly finding someone else in the future. He makes you lose your self identity. Keep ahold of it and learn to be happy on your own.
7. Be independent
2 Dope Queens PodcastThere are many independent women on this planet that are very successful and happy on their own. They never turn to a man to make them happy or to tell them what to do. As long as you are successful and happy on your own, you don't need a significant other to make you happy. You can't get disappointed by them anymore, the only person that you can get disappointed by is yourself and you can simply fix that.
Love yourself.
