Calling all the broken hearted! I know where you've been these past few days, weeks, months, and even years. Some of us have to suffer this pain longer than others, but in the end, it's all the same. Take it from someone who was really in love for the past three years. I'm not saying I have it all figured out, but I'm definitely a lot better than I was. They don't want you, at least not right now, so LEAVE. Do I have anger toward the person who hurt me? Not anymore. Simply because they have helped me become who I am today -- much stronger, smarter, and happier. Yes, happier. I know now what I deserve. "But what do I do for now?," is the question you ask yourself daily. Well, just follow my lead!

1. Wallow. You HAVE to.

You need a balance. Being happy all the time is not only impossible, it's also extremely unhealthy. When you cry, you release frustration and a wave of relief settles in. So, cry into your ice cream, watch sappy movies (ALL DAY) and cry, take long drives and listen to sad songs and cry, look at old pictures and CRY. Wallowing is the most important aspect of getting over heartbreak. Wallowing is allowed until you feel better. But trust me, wallowing will be the least of your worries once you keep reading!

2. Work on yourself.

The only person you ever have to please in your entire life is yourself! I mean, think about it. Who else do you really HAVE to spend the rest of your life with? Think about a hobby that makes you happy (and not drinking because, well, that's already on the list) and work on it. Whenever you start thinking about this person, distract yourself with this hobby. Not only will you feel better, you'll get better at what you love!

3. Wine is your friend.

I told you it was coming. Personally, my go-to is wine. But make sure you only drink the limit that makes you giggly. There's a fine line between the giggly stage and mascara running full throttle down your face. And boys, I know you're not too keen on wine, but you should be.

4. Spend time with friends.

What's better than wine? Wine with friends! But seriously, your friends are your therapists. And if they're not, then you need new friends. Friends soak up the negative energy that surrounds you. They WANT to comfort you and help you. They will text the boy/girl angrily for you, so you're not the one who looks crazy. That's real friendship right there. Your friends are forever. That is a love that will never die. Put your energy into that.

5. Write, write, write.

I don't care where you are or if you've never written a word about your feelings in your life. Write your story. Yes, your friends will be there for you, but sometimes they get tired of hearing the same thing over and over, especially if it's been a thing for about three years now... Paper always listens. By writing, you aren't holding onto those feelings anymore. They aren't taking up space in your mind. I highly recommend getting a journal or finding a spot online and venting your thoughts. Writing helps just as much as talking to a therapist.

6. Exercise.

Don't you want to show them what they're missing? Don't you want them to see you doing better? You don't need them. You really don't. What you need is a hot body for the summer to expose to various amounts of other hot bodies. And especially yourself. Make sure you feel good in your own skin. Eat healthy, exercise, drink a lot of water. Get all that anger and negativity out your system. Sweat it out! Cleanse yourself.

7. Find your place.

On those long drives listening to songs while you wallow, try and find a place of serenity. Whatever makes you feel the most calm. Whether it's a place by water, in the middle of the woods (just be careful), on your driveway, in your room, anywhere. Find a quiet place to think. This is also a great time to write your feelings. Take in the environment and really understand that there is so much more to this world than that one person. SO much more.

8. STAY AWAY and IGNORE.

Delete everything about them in your life. If you want to be friends, that's great, but it takes its toll. Don't hang out with their friends, don't go to places that person will be, and don't talk to them if you can help it. You need time away. If you're constantly around them or things that remind you of them, you're never going to get over the feeling. Go out and meet new people. Surround yourself with different energies!

9. Shop.

Retail therapy is most definitely a thing. Reinvent your style. Find clothes that accentuate your favorite parts of your body, especially after you've been kicking ass and working hard on it! The more you love yourself, the less someone else will have to.

10. Clean.

My mom always told me a messy room is a messy mind. As much as I sighed and rolled my eyes asking her why she cared what my room looked like, I understand now. And, it did make me feel much better. You'll be discombobulated in the mornings tripping over piles of clothes and it won't be a great start to the rest of your day. Who doesn't want a great start to a great day?

11. Long drives and HAPPY songs.

You've listened to the bad ones and you've cried. You've had your time to wallow. Now it's time to roll those windows down, blast your favorite HAPPY music, let the sunshine hit your cheeks, and smile as you drive to your happy place to sip wine with friends and write your feelings because you're genuinely happy. And you don't need anyone but yourself to feel that. You create your own happiness. So, it's there. What are you waiting for? It wants to be your friend. Introduce yourself. And have a beautiful day!