What I Want Out Of 2017

What I Want Out Of 2017

More hope and less disaster maybe?

The new year is here and already it's overwhelming! If there's anything I want from this new year, it's that I don't want a repeat of the mistakes I made in 2016. I want this new year to be something better for myself and those around me. I won't try to get too sappy, but let's go into detail about the specifics I want out of 2017.

I think the first thing I want to aim for is thinking more positively about myself. Fortunately, this kind of positive behavior has been something I've even started last year, though a little late. It's kinda sad how much negativity there is in my thoughts, but it's something I want to distinguish. I think the reason why there's so much negativity in my mind anyway is because of how much I overthink. I can't help it, it's something that comes with the anxiety. However, despite all that, I want to be more positive and hopefully be able to spread that positivity around as well.

The second thing I want to aim for in the year 2017 is practicing and excelling in my hobbies and academics. Now I know that might sound a little cliché or typical, but it's really something I want to work on. Procrastination kills me in almost every aspect of my academic life and though I can't help it, I really need to rid of this habit. Still, apart from that, if there's anything I learned from 2016 is that the more you do something, the better you really will become. So I'm going to take this as a big opportunity and continue practicing at everything I love to do, including writing!

The final thing I want to aim for in the new year (which might sound even sappier and cliché than the last thing) is to be open and loud about my feelings as much as possible. The last thing I want is to become quiet and afraid to speak because of anyone's bad feelings or animosity towards me. I'm going to take all these things and make it into something positive for myself. No longer will I stay completely quiet about my feelings; I will definitely love as loudly as possible and make sure that the people I care about know that I care about them.

Even if 2016 was a wild mess, I genuinely hope that the new year is much better for me and everyone else! We all deserve a better time, to be honest.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.


Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.

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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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