The beauty of being young is we are constantly meeting new people. With consistently having people in and out of your life we are so dead set on the timing. In your twenties, there is no such thing as perfect timing because most of us cannot even set the right "timing" of our alarm clocks to get to class on time.
In this stage these are your selfish years, it will probably be the most selfish decade of your life. Everyone is just trying to come to terms with being an adult. We are also deciding who we want to be and what our passions are. But just because we are trying to discover ourselves does not mean loneliness does not exist. It is completely normal to want to share your life with someone because we all want that eventually. One thing we cannot seem to grasp is the timing of our relationships, everyone has had that relationship flops due to the timing.
Whether we think we met the love of our life and then they have to take a job in another state. Or we become best friends with an attractive person who is already in a relationship. Nevertheless, timing is never fair or that is the way it seems. These relationships end because one person always wants it more than the other.
Regardless of how it ends or starts, it weighs on us. We romanticize the idea of "if he was not with her" or "if we met again" scenarios. But we never really open our hearts to the real truth that he might just not be the one. Yes, the timing does suck but the hard reality is, if they truly wanted to be with you they would. Being honest with yourself is a scary thing, isn't it?
We have all had that relationship fail where you are in love with someone who will never reciprocate that feeling. It is that one person that got away. But days go by, time distances your lives and you start to realize you can live without them. Then you can slowly look back and realize how much time you dedicated to circling around that person hoping it would make them love you, and it was never enough.
I can promise every struggling romantic out there, you were enough because you gave it you're all. They probably were not enough for themselves. Insecurity is a funny thing because it causes people to blame their issues on everything else. A personal favorite is "your too good for me". You would think that would make someone want you more, but the big picture is they just are not secure enough to endure a relationship with someone who will challenge them to be better.
The morality of it all is timing is not fair but we need to live out our truths. Spending so much time on the idea of this person and the timing with them is not fair to you. We need to look at the big picture, they just weren't the one for you. Doesn't mean it's going to hurt any less but it means you can get through it. Yes, timing is not everything but attempting to convince yourself that you meant more to that person is just not reality. Pride yourself for walking away and for accepting the people you cannot change. The wait is worth it and the timing will be right, eventually.
