To The Girl Who Is Always A Bro

To The Girl Who Is Always A Bro

A letter to any girl who has ever felt that she is always a bro and doesn't know how to get past that.
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Dear Girl Who is Always a Bro,

I know what kind of person you are. You are a girl who likes to hang out with the guys and be one of the guys because for some reason, you just can't click with the girls. You don't like the drama or discussing the things they are interested in. You don't like how sometimes girls beat around the bush instead of just telling it to you straight.

I get it because I used to be you.

When you meet these guys, you start a conversation with them they thought they would never have with a girl. You talk football or any other sports. You talk about what they like in a girl, not in a personality sense. What are their preferences?

The boys are shaking their heads in disbelief and just don't get it at first, but you hang out more.

Being able to hang with the boys was always a lot of fun because of our stupid and crazy adventures. They are always in high spirits, but you become the mom of the group because you are the only one that is not as impulsive.

As the mom of the group, your job entails the following: vetting the new girlfriends to make sure their hearts won’t be broken; making sure they have manners and are being a gentlemen; doing their homework; being their ear; the person to take comfort in because they don't want to do it in front of the boys; letting them know when the girlfriends have cheated on them (twice) and being the girl who always came back to the friendship when they had to push you away for other reasons.

As time goes on, you realize that you only have a 1 to 13 ratio of girl to guy friends you have.

You become really close with these guys of yours, but one thing that doesn't change is that you are still the girl in the group. You have to leave at night when everyone sleeps over or sleep in a different room because the parents feel uncomfortable with a girl being there.

The boy's girlfriends gets jealous because you are hanging out with them even though it isn't at all what they think. A lot of other girls will think that you are just flirting with these guys, but that's not it either.

You are still a girl, which means you still want that girl talk. You have one best friend that understands you, but you want those to multiply. You don't know how to go about it because it's hard to relate.

I understand because I used to be you. My advice is just have patience, even though it's hard sometimes. We are a special breed that have to wait for the right kind of girls to fall in our lap--girls who are soul-mates and completely understand you. The opportunity will arise to allow you to broaden your girl-friend group, so take it, you won't regret it. It won't be easy, but you will catch on. As soon as you catch them, it will be hard to let go of them.

Some will leave you, but that means that they weren't meant to be there. They were there to teach a little lesson about life.

You will still have your guys and will make more guy friends. This is OK, but you have to learn not to bro all of them, especially the ones you really like. Be yourself, but do not talk to them like you do with the guys. Be a girl for a minute, it's okay.

Be more feminine; it will come with time. Wear a dress and make up in front of them. They won't care if you are a little girly, it's still you. I can't promise you that they won't be a little shocked sometimes.

No matter what, loyalty is everything for guys. They will always be there for you, even at your wedding when they become the bride's bros (instead of bridesmaids). It's okay to go to them with guy stuff, but remember your boundaries.

Keep your head up,

The Forever Girly Bro

Cover Image Credit: Catie Berry

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.
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Hey,

So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?

Sincerely,

Me

Cover Image Credit: High school Musical

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