To The Girl Who Is Always A Bro

To The Girl Who Is Always A Bro

A letter to any girl who has ever felt that she is always a bro and doesn't know how to get past that.
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Dear Girl Who is Always a Bro,

I know what kind of person you are. You are a girl who likes to hang out with the guys and be one of the guys because for some reason, you just can't click with the girls. You don't like the drama or discussing the things they are interested in. You don't like how sometimes girls beat around the bush instead of just telling it to you straight.

I get it because I used to be you.

When you meet these guys, you start a conversation with them they thought they would never have with a girl. You talk football or any other sports. You talk about what they like in a girl, not in a personality sense. What are their preferences?

The boys are shaking their heads in disbelief and just don't get it at first, but you hang out more.

Being able to hang with the boys was always a lot of fun because of our stupid and crazy adventures. They are always in high spirits, but you become the mom of the group because you are the only one that is not as impulsive.

As the mom of the group, your job entails the following: vetting the new girlfriends to make sure their hearts won’t be broken; making sure they have manners and are being a gentlemen; doing their homework; being their ear; the person to take comfort in because they don't want to do it in front of the boys; letting them know when the girlfriends have cheated on them (twice) and being the girl who always came back to the friendship when they had to push you away for other reasons.

As time goes on, you realize that you only have a 1 to 13 ratio of girl to guy friends you have.

You become really close with these guys of yours, but one thing that doesn't change is that you are still the girl in the group. You have to leave at night when everyone sleeps over or sleep in a different room because the parents feel uncomfortable with a girl being there.

The boy's girlfriends gets jealous because you are hanging out with them even though it isn't at all what they think. A lot of other girls will think that you are just flirting with these guys, but that's not it either.

You are still a girl, which means you still want that girl talk. You have one best friend that understands you, but you want those to multiply. You don't know how to go about it because it's hard to relate.

I understand because I used to be you. My advice is just have patience, even though it's hard sometimes. We are a special breed that have to wait for the right kind of girls to fall in our lap--girls who are soul-mates and completely understand you. The opportunity will arise to allow you to broaden your girl-friend group, so take it, you won't regret it. It won't be easy, but you will catch on. As soon as you catch them, it will be hard to let go of them.

Some will leave you, but that means that they weren't meant to be there. They were there to teach a little lesson about life.

You will still have your guys and will make more guy friends. This is OK, but you have to learn not to bro all of them, especially the ones you really like. Be yourself, but do not talk to them like you do with the guys. Be a girl for a minute, it's okay.

Be more feminine; it will come with time. Wear a dress and make up in front of them. They won't care if you are a little girly, it's still you. I can't promise you that they won't be a little shocked sometimes.

No matter what, loyalty is everything for guys. They will always be there for you, even at your wedding when they become the bride's bros (instead of bridesmaids). It's okay to go to them with guy stuff, but remember your boundaries.

Keep your head up,

The Forever Girly Bro

Cover Image Credit: Catie Berry

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.
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Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.


Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

Cover Image Credit: Caity Callan

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10 Struggles Of Having A Best Friend Of The Opposite Gender

If you've got a best friend of the opposite gender, then welcome to the best place to reminisce over these hardships your relationship has endured.

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I have many friendships. But one of the ones I cherish the most is my friendship with my guy best friend. There isn't much to our friendship, just the occasional name-calling and our mutual love for the McDonald's drive-thru, but that's what makes it so special: the simplicity of it all.

If you're like me, a girl with a guy best friend, then you know the constant struggles that arise with keeping these friendships. Honestly, it almost isn't worth the hassle - just kidding, sort of. Here I am today to address all of these issues, letting you know that you aren't alone, there are others out there just like you who have to explain to the waiter that he's gonna need to split that check because we are NOT together.

1. Everyone thinks you are dating

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This is the most prominent issue for all male/female friendships, so let's just cut to the chase: we aren't.

2. Your significant others get very jealous

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Every friendship has gone through this - whether it is a platonic male/female friendship or a friendship between those of the same gender. Simply put, being in a situation where your friend's significant other doesn't like or trust you, sucks. It happens, and usually, in the end, one relationship gets the split.

3. They don't understand girl code

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My guy best friend will never know how astounding it was when Jessica got stingy about who could use her makeup or why it isn't okay for Madison to talk to Claire's ex.

4. We don't eat the same amounts of food

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I can't hang out with you for more than two days at a time, because a when a guy eats five meals a day (two of those meals being McDonald's) he loses 3 pounds and when I do it I go up a dress size.

5. Shopping is probably out

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I can't seem to figure out why he doesn't like spending hours walking around the mall and bouncing ideas back and forth about what colors make my eyes pop the most. Men are so confusing.

6. Sleepovers are a big no (in high school, at least)

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Now that we're in college, sometimes I fall asleep at his dorm or vice versa and it's no big deal. However, back in high school, we weren't exactly having slumber parties and braiding each other's hair.

7. When we're together in public, potential suitors think I'm taken

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Since I never get hit on in public, I assume it has to be because I'm always with my male best friend and guys think that we are an item. This has to be why. Case closed.

8. No wardrobe swapping

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I buy my sweatshirts in XL and only in grey and black so he actually has worn those before, but that is the exception, not the rule.

9. He doesn't understand why I have to put on makeup

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What if my ex is at Target? That's reason enough.

10.  Splitting checks at restaurants is a hassle

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We eat out. A lot. And most servers automatically assume that we're on one check. That's fine, really. But we're both paying with a card and my Venmo balance is at zero so now we are at an awkward impasse where I have to explain to you that he's not buying me breakfast. I know, I know, chivalry is dead.

Next to come, all the reasons why having a best friend of the opposite gender is a great experience. If I can manage to come up with more than two reasons...

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