Whether you are the “mom” of your friend group or not, everyone always knows who it is. They are the one who is always the voice of reason, the one worried about everyone all the time, the one with the purse filled with snacks, and basically the person you go to when you have a problem. What not everyone realizes is the actual stress that being this interim mother figure can do to a teenager who should just be in charge of his/her own life. The struggles of always being the responsible one are actually real.
1. You can rarely let loose because you always worried about someone else.
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3. When things go downhill, you are the one up until 4:00 a.m. fixing everything.
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10. When someone else cries, you sit there crying empathetically with them.
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11. After the night has ended, you are suddenly the free for hire maid, cleaning up all the havoc your friends have wreaked.
12. At the end of the night, your room becomes the final pit stop.
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13. Most of your friends actually do call you "mom", and you suddenly feel a million years old.
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14. After all of your hard work, you are rarely thanked for all you do for your friends.
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Being the responsible, almost parental figure of all your friends can become taxing and difficult, but it is worth it to know all of your friends are safe both mentally and physically. If you haven't thanked the mom of your friend group lately, I suggest you let them know exactly how much they mean to you.
