5 Reasons Why Online Dating Is Better Than Meeting At The Club Or At A Coffee Shop

5 Reasons Why Online Dating Is Better Than Meeting At The Club Or At A Coffee Shop

Are you nearing age 40 and looking for something serious, ASAP, before all of your eggs die? Put it in the bio.

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Pretty soon, there'll be a whole generation of people whose parents met online. The thought horrifies some, who cling to the nostalgic days of cruising the town looking for dates, who extol the glory of "meet-cutes," and desperately want to be able to tell their grandkids that they met their grandfather while running to catch the bus (which, honestly, for us RU students isn't so implausible).

For others, however, they embrace the ease, simplicity, and comfort of online dating — especially those that are much too shy to actually approach someone in person. Here are some reasons why online dating beats traditional methods.

1. There's a lot of fish in the sea... probably too many

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Going to the club to find an FWB (or soul mate, whichever fits your needs at the time) is all well and good, but you're likely only to be exposed to about 75-200 people at once. On the other hand, a simple click of your finger affords you access to hundreds of thousands men, women, and others instantly. Instead of desperately hoping that you'll stumble upon a burly, bearded barista with six tattoos somewhere in the world, you can just scroll until you find him.

2. It saves you from a lot of awkward situations

Poor thing doesn't know how "black guy hugs" work :/

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Remember when The Bachelorette finally had their first Black woman as the star of the show, all for them to find out that one of her suitors was a racist? Yeah, that was probably pretty awkward. But now, with the help of technology, you'll never have to worry about getting got when a lot of people's personal info is online (not to mention that many dating sites allow you to narrow down the type of people you are exposed to). Imagine being a PETA activist and after meeting someone at a coffee shop, you realize they sell furs for a living.... Yeah, yikes. That all could've been avoided if you just would've read their bio.

3. You can express what you want honestly

I'm not sure about her, but I'll take Ryan Gosling with a side of rice and steamed broccoli

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You're less likely to look like a douche when you put "only looking for hookups" as your headline on a dating site, rather than waiting to break the news to your lass or lad after the first date. Are you nearing age 40 and looking for something serious, ASAP, before all of your eggs die? Put it in the bio. Are you a traveling trapeze artist and looking for someone who can do a long-distance relationship? Put it in the bio. Trust me, the online world is a lot more open and free from judgment than the real world. If a girl can post a viral video of her eating her tampon (I haven't forgotten about you, Giovanna), you shouldn't be scared to admit that you're hell-bent on getting engaged within the year.

4. You don't have to be outgoing

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Coming up with a great pickup line is irrelevant if you don't put it to use. For some of us, the thought of approaching the cute person in front of us in line is a lot more daunting than sending them a virtual gift or "sliding in their DMs." Online dating is a great alternative for those who suffer from social anxiety, low self-esteem, or just genuine dislike for using their mouths.

5. There's no pressure

Big mood...

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At the end of the day, online dating always stays online unless you choose otherwise. Don't think someone is attractive or interesting? Don't answer their message. Think someone's creepy? Block them. Unlike in the real world, where you'll have to come up with a nice, yet plausible, reason for rejecting someone who approaches you, you can literally just delete someone on the world wide web. It's a great thing, really.

Of course, with online dating comes quite a few cons as well, like the possibility of getting catfished (because it is way too easy nowadays to steal other people's photos), or the gross lack of privacy that comes with an online profile. Online dating is much more convenient, but traditional dating has its own unique value. There's really nothing more special than locking eyes with someone across the room and just knowing that they're the one for you.

Ah, if only that happened more often.

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To My Boyfriend's Mom

He loves you more than you could ever imagine...
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Without you, there would not be a him, so first things first, thank you.

1. Thank you for teaching him to love a woman the right way, to put God first, and YOU before me always, the respect he shows you is so attractive, and you deserve it.

He talks about you like you hung the moon, I don't doubt for a second that he will be an amazing father one day, I owe all of that to you.

2. Thank you for giving me a chance, learning to love me when you knew your son was doing the same.

I can't speak for my own first impressions, but hopefully mine was not THAT bad...when we both slapped him on the arms for his rude remark at the same time, I knew our relationship was already blossoming.

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3. Thank you for every meal you have ever purchased me.

And chocolate, and candy...you know just as well as your son does that food is the way to my heart. Especially Taco Bell and cheesecake ;)

4. Thank you for your advice, suggestions, and opinions...and asking for mine

Whether it's telling me to slap him for being a smart a$$, or you're asking me about color swabs for your kitchen makeover, you come to me as if I am your own, and I am so honored to give you my own input.

5. Thank you for including me

You never fail to leave a spot for me, and I love family dinners/outings with you guys just as much as I love my own!

6. Thank you for teaching your son to never give up, and that if he does it is only to better himself, or it's the only choice he has left.

He is so focused on his future, he wants the best for himself, and he is constantly reminding me that these are things that YOU taught him, you deserve to be so proud.

7. Thank you for letting him love my family, and allowing me to love yours.

He is so loyal and loving to my family, and I don't even have to ask myself why because I see him with you and yours. Thank you for letting us double up on holidays when we can, and making sure we get the most out of our time with you!

8. Thank you for being his best friend.

I think of him as mine too, but I couldn't think of a better person to also hold that title, you know him better than anyone else and you always will.

9. Thank you for teaching him how to treat a woman

He is constantly telling me "You sound like my mother." Thankfully earlier in our relationship, he told me that the woman he wants to be with, should do just that. He always tells people who try, "No, no one calls me by my full name except my mom and my girlfriend."

10. Thank you for your honesty

We all know that he and I can drive you crazy sometimes, thank you for telling us like it is, and making sure we know you still love us anyways.

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11. Thank you for teaching him to work as hard as possible in anything and everything he does.

I have never met anyone with such a desire for success, he and I are constantly discussing how we can better our futures, and I know exactly where his drive comes from.

12. Thank you for teaching him to clean up after himself

Even though sometimes, it takes him a minute to do so.

13. Thank you for teaching him how to love, and letting him love me.

I have never felt so loved by a man, probably because anyone else who came into my life was just a boy. Thank you for your unconditional love for him, he is your entire heart and that is so easy to see, I am happy to share his with you.

You and I both know that even years from now we will both occasionally probably be closing the fridge that he left open, cleaning the crumbs he dropped, demanding he take a shower after playing soccer, or reminding him 20 times about plans we made weeks ago, we both share such a great love for such an amazing man. I could never be more thankful that you brought forth into this world such a comforting, supportive, protective, steadfast, driven, handsome, and hilarious guy. Thank you for everything you do for him, for me, and for us, I love you a lot!

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4 Signs That You Might Be A Pushover In Your Relationship

There's a fine line between being considerate and overly-accommodating in a relationship, here are some signs to help you determine which side of the line you're on.

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While most of us consider ourselves independent individuals who are secure enough to maintain our own values while respecting someone else's, the difference between being flexible and completely bending to a romantic partner's will can be a slippery slope.

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that everything the two of you disagree on suddenly disappears. There are times when you'll have to occasionally make concessions in order to reach a solution, but you should never be the one to relent every on every issue. If you're not sure about how you stand in your relationship here are few signs that you may be a dating pushover.

1. You let them set the pace of the relationship

It can be hard to know if things are moving at a normal speed, especially if you're new to relationships. If you feel like things are moving too quickly or like the two of you aren't on the same page and choose to ignore it because the other person is content with where you are, then you're not giving your own feelings enough consideration. A relationship is not just about one person's emotions, disregarding the ones you're unsure about to avoid making waves doesn't make you peacekeeper, it makes you a pushover.

2. Your lack of an opinion is replaced by theirs

It's okay not to have an opinion on every issue plaguing our society at the moment, but it's not okay to allow your partner to declare a stance for you. If you're having a conversation with friends and politics are being broached and your S/O prefaces their statement with "We think," -knowing darn well that you don't have anything to say about Trump's administration and they think he's the best thing since Netflix started streaming "Friends"- and you don't interject with your true feelings, then you've just let them know that their preferences are more important than yours.

3. You conform to the way they see you

People are multifaceted and complex beings. While Tinder may ask you to describe yourself by a handful of defining characteristics to better match you with a mate, you are more than just "quiet" and "indoorsy". If you find yourself with someone who reduces you to labels that complement them, chances are that the more you're around them the more you'll start to only identify yourself by those labels as well. When you conform to the 2-dimensional image that someone else has of you, you lose parts of your identity and become a social chameleon.

4. You alter your dreams to fit into theirs

It's exciting to picture your life with someone you care and are serious about. Of course, you have to make some configurations in order for things to work for the both of you, but there has to be an equal amount of compromise for it to be healthy. If you're working towards a degree that would open doors for you to meet new people and have new experiences but your S/O has dreams to get settled sooner rather than later and makes you feel like you're overreaching in your life, don't abandon your vision for something that would fit into theirs.

Being a pushover does not mean you're a weak person. I don't think anyone sets out with the intent to be a chameleon dater. Sometimes it happens gradually, two people start off in a relationship thinking that they're compatible and then one person grows more comfortable and their will and opinions turn out to be stronger than the other persons'. Other times, you just make a poor judgment call and try to make things work with someone that wasn't meant for you.

If you find yourself to be a pushover in your relationship and you're unhappy about it, you can change. Take some time to learn about yourself and figure out what you want and who you want to be. You can't choose someone who really loves you and values your mind if you don't know how you need to be loved and understood. Whether you need a to step away from the dating scene, have a conversation with your romantic partner or even take a break from them, understanding yourself will strengthen all of your relationships in the long run.

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