In the Marblehead, Massachusetts Odyssey community, an article was written, titled, "I Don't Want A 'Pick Me, Choose Me' Kind Of Love". In the piece, the person that wrote it explained that the iconic Grey's Anatomy scene showcases Meredith begging Derek to choose her over Addison, and that the writer does not want that kind of love for herself.
She does not want to beg, and she does not wish to be a second choice.
"Feeling desperate and unappreciated lessens you as a human being and no one should feel that way, which is why I am perfectly content with waiting for a love that starts strong and ends stronger. So please, if you have to pick between me and someone else don't pick me, don't choose me, and don't love me," she states at the end of the piece.
To the writer of this piece, I pose two possibilities.
One: What if Meredith, and by extension any woman who goes so far as to say some variation of "pick me, choose me, love me" to the person they love, is actually the first choice?
Two: By asking Derek to pick her, what if she is not begging and thinking less of herself, but instead being a strong woman and taking control of the situation by demanding an answer? (Granted, we know the answer she receives, but all ends up well in the end, does it not?)
Meredith and Derek fell in love after he left Addison. Addison was in the past at that point, and Derek had found happiness in Meredith. We all know that love is a confusing mess. However, we also know that when something is that right, that perfect, that meant to be, it remains that way forever. You can't tell me that when Meredith was "begging" Derek, he hadn't already, subconsciously, chosen her. It was always her.
I understand why you think that Meredith seems desperate in begging. You said she was waiting around, and that the whole premise of a person having to pick between you and someone else is not worth it. While I understand that, Meredith is not waiting. She is telling Derek how she feels while she still has the opportunity. She is fighting for the man she loves. Does that make her less of a woman?
I want a "Pick Me, Choose Me" kind of love, because to me, that means going after the person I love against all odds and coming out, in the end, with them by my side. That means doing everything I can for the man I love more than anything on this earth. That means having faith in forever, and the premise of soulmates, and having a "Person". That means being willing to lay it all on the line to get what you want.
Being a "Pick Me, Choose Me, Love Me" kind of girl does not lessen me. I am not desperate, I do not beg. By being a "Pick Me, Choose Me, Love Me" kind of girl, I am showcasing strength by going after what, who, I want.
I am believing. I am being an optimist.
And yes, a "Pick Me, Choose Me" kind of love involves a whole lot of hope.
But in the end, we all just want our McDreamy, and isn't he worth hoping and fighting for?
