Some siblings grow up and don't look out for each other, or care about what the other is doing in life. When I was born, my brother gave me his favorite stuffed animal, a yellow dog named "Spot." Sure, here and there I was the annoying little sister, but as we grew up we began to talk a lot more. Being at the same college is even easier. You always have someone to eat with when you're hungry, or to borrow money from. You always have someone to grab something you left at home when you guys are at home on different weekends. We rant to each other, especially when it comes to friends and relationships. We look out for each other.
The past is the past.
You have probably heard stories about how intense I am. I'm hard to please, and want the best of the best, even if it's not for me. I was ruthless when it came to his ex, and I can promise you it was only because I knew she wasn't perfect. If you are constantly complaining, crying or arguing with him, then I will probably make the situation worse. To be honest, if you're constantly doing all that anyways, maybe you should just cut ties and walk away from each other. His ex and I would get in screaming matches over everything. I wouldn't acknowledge her, ever. I would ruthlessly tweet and talk down upon her any chance I ever got. It was petty, but it was necessary because she was never good enough. If you've heard the story about that one Christmas Day, then I would steer clear of making me mad. But as long as you make him happy, and you treat him well, I will be happy for the both of you.
Your heart is in good hands.
He's the sweetest. He will do anything for someone he cares about, and will stand up for them without thinking twice. He fought his own family for his happiness, that's just who he is. Whatever happened in your past, won't happen again. There are some really bad guys out there, but my brother is not one of them. You can put your mind at ease, and give your all to him. I promise.
Open up to me.
If he makes you mad, then don't be afraid to call me. Don't think that just because he's my brother, I will automatically side with him. Sure, his happiness and well-being is my first priority, but I'm always down for a rant session. Girl, I'll rant about my own guy too! Sometimes guys just don't get it. I will probably put your mind at ease, when you're wondering about that one girl in his friend group, or if he's really with the guys. The girl has probably been a part of the group for a while, is someone's sister or someone's girlfriend and I can promise you she's not a threat. He's with his guys a lot, and they've been friends for as long as I can remember. If you want some reassurance, and he's not answering his phone as usual, don't think twice about calling me because I'll usually answer.
Don't be afraid to be yourself.
My family is harsh. We're really critical, and we won't filter ourselves when something bothers us. Here and there, family events will get hostile and uncomfortable. Everyone gets a turn at being picked on, it rotates every holiday and never fails. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be yourself. Relax. You will notice the tension running through the cousins and the uncles and that's as far as it goes. What's said at that holiday, is usually left at that holiday unless there was something embarrassingly funny that occurred. As long as you are yourself and don't seclude yourself off, you will be fine.
Let's go out!
You want to go shopping? Let's go! You want dinner? Let's eat! You need a girls night? I'm down. You found a cute double date place and want to go? I'm game. Honestly, I won't open up to you unless you open up to me. I probably went one place willingly and alone with his ex, and it was his high school wrestling meet. The entire time she sat on her phone. So let's get to know each other, and make it a point to get along.
I always wanted a sister. I think...
I don't know that I ever openly said, "I wish I had a sister," because in the end I like being the princess. I'll probably treat you more of a best friend than a sister, but that's something, right? If you ever need anything, then I'll be here. If you need advice on what to wear or what to do, then I'll be here. You want to borrow my shoes? The doors open, as long as I get them back. If you treat my brother the way I know he will treat you, then I will respect you. I will welcome you into the family and make an effort for you to win over the family too. I will root for his success, your success and your success as a couple.
