A letter to the girls who always blame others:
One of the biggest pet peeves I have is when people constantly blame others for their problems. The girls who say, "I cheated because he didn't give me enough attention." "You were ignoring me so I didn't think I had to tell you." "You did this and that's why I did what I did." Putting blame on others and never taking any for yourself just shows how truly selfish a human being can be. The turnover rate for you friendships are higher than the turnover rate for Burger King employees.
Ever since I was little, my mother constantly told me excuses were never going to change the problems I chose to create. Taking blame and accepting what I did was wrong is an idea which made me who I am. Don't get me wrong, fight for what you think is right, but sometimes, losing a person you care about shouldn't really mean that little to a person that they would rather lose a friend than to admit they were in the wrong. I see so many friendships torn apart for the simple fact that one person does not have the decency to say that they were in the wrong. To make things even worse, continuing to blame others for what you did is not going to make you an adult. Knowing you can accept that what you did was wrong proves that you are mature enough to hold your head high, even when you do make a mistake.
You might not think what you did was wrong, but sometimes you have to look at it through the other person's perspective, which is an entirely different level of maturity. Think about your feelings if the person did the same thing to you in which you did to them. How would that make YOU feel? If your answer involves coming up with excuses as to why it's okay that you did it, but not that she did it, then you need to get your head above the water and get a bit of fresh air in your brain. It KILLS me see people think they will make it far in life by blaming others for everything they do wrong. Sometimes being the bigger person is all you can do and at least you, yourself, will know you can grow from it by accepting being wrong.
Admitting you're in the wrong does not make you weak. It does not mean you are a coward. It does not mean you gave in.
Admitting you're wrong just proves that you have a heart. It proves you care. It proves that you would rather take the blame than lose the friend.
Growing up and becoming your own person is all about putting things into perspective and looking through the eyes of others. Don't just sit around and act like you're perfect and that it is all the other persons fault when what you did was wrong as well. Be the bigger person. Be the better friend. Be an adult.
