Let's Talk About Sex: The Hook Up Culture
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Let's Talk About Sex: The Hook Up Culture

And why it's actually a good thing for our generation.

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Let's Talk About Sex: The Hook Up Culture
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The hookup culture in college is undeniably the weirdest thing I have ever experienced. Yet, it's so liberating and empowering. Especially for a woman.

Let me tell you a short story here. I have a friend who attends a huge university here on the west coast. She is in a sorority, she is an active party-er, and she is a part of the hookup culture. Her current boyfriend is in a frat, and they met through a casual, late-night hook up. Prior to them meeting, I remember getting calls from my friend as she would get ready to go out on a Thursday night. Some nights, she wanted to go out solely to, and I quote, "get laid." As a pretty blonde sorority girl, this task was not very hard for her to complete. Most nights, she would end up meeting a hot frat guy and he would make a drunken imprint on her and be blessed with taking her home for the night. Then I'd await the call the next morning, eager to hear all about her night. My friend was one of those girls that didn't hold anything back, and gave it to you straight, so these stories would always start my days off vividly. I remember a couple times during those phone calls, she admitted to not remembering the kids name and to not getting his number. And she was completely okay with that. At first, I couldn't believe that my friend was behaving like some of the guys we had known and grew to despise. This wasn't the characteristic of a girl, a woman, a lady. We were supposed to hold ourselves to a much higher standard. We weren't supposed to sleep around, or think or men as pieces of meat. That's how boys behaved - remember that saying "boys will be boys?"

Or maybe, that's how it used to be. Maybe now we are different.

As a young millennial, I can say that our generation has developed a very different and much more laid back view on sex and its connection between two people. Years ago, when our parents were teenagers, and years before that when our grandparents were in there 20's, it's safe to say that their involvement in casual sex was not as high as ours is. Sure, people have always had one-night stands, but in my world today, it is a lot more common.

It's normal for a girl to gather with her ladies and go out for a night on the town and have casual hookups. It's normal for a girl to have a friendly fliration-ship with more than one guy at a time. It's normal for two people to hook up, with no strings attached. In college, especially, people love to sleep around. Nobody gives a f**k. Nobody genuinely cares who you're sleeping with, who you're sexting, or who you want to be under the covers with.

We have debunked the idea that sleeping with him/her on the first date is a no-go. We have let go of the notion that a girls number should be significantly lower than a males.

I think it's kind of empowering. I feel almost encouraged to be more free and open about my sexuality, whether I'm having sex or not. And I think that goes for a lot of 20-somethings. The one thing I learned from my previously mentioned friend was that you shouldn't be ashamed of having sex. You shouldn't be ashamed of being comfortable with your sexuality and your relationships, or the lack-there-of. If we want to take it a step further, I also think this hookup culture has taught our generation to not be so damn serious all the time. Long-term relationships still take place, but there isn't so much pressure on them anymore. We aren't dying to jump into our next relationship, because for once, we aren't totally scared of being alone. We are finally okay with being single because we have now realized that we don't need to be in a full blown relationship with someone to fulfill our needs.

Sex has always been a thing. People have been doing it since the stone age, and it will never stop happening. People are just more open about it, and it's causing a change in our societies.

This is not me telling you to go out and sleep with every guy you meet, but do it if you want to. Make out with that random at the frat party, or grab the digits from the hottie bartender who's been flirting with you all night. It is okay to be sexual, and it is okay to express it, too.

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