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I'm A 'Ghoster,' But Not In The Way You Might Think

If you push me away, then I will go away. You're welcome.

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Kev Costello

The act of "ghosting" has gotten a lot of attention recently for very good reasons.

By definition, "ghosting" means "the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication."

This act of ceasing communication with no explanation has gotten mixed reviews from people who've had different experiences with being ghosted, and most will tell you it's a painful, humiliating experience brought on by a coward that doesn't know how to communicate.

Overall, I agree with this. There is almost nothing more annoying than being treated so kindly by someone special and then tossed out like a piece of garbage just because the "ghoster" doesn't recognize a good relationship when they see one.

Given my dislike of the whole "ghosting" phenomenon, you might be surprised when I tell you I myself am a "ghoster".

You may be thinking I'm a bit hypocritical by claiming to be part of a category I despise, but I believe there are circumstances where ghosting is probably the most effective way to end a relationship while also saving your mental sanity.

In some situations, talking it out with the person can do more harm than good, especially when dealing with a narcissist.

People in this category have a special way of twisting your words around and making you feel like you're the problem when you're not.

In this circumstance, the best thing to do is cut off contact.

For example, today I ended a friendship of almost 4 years, and I feel like I'm on top of the world!

I'll admit we had some happy memories, but I spent most of those years feeling horrible about myself because of her.

I was verbally abused, talked down to, insulted both face-to-face and behind my back, etc. You name it, she did it.

After dealing with her temper all day yesterday and having to be calmed down by my other friends involved, I lost it. I simply walked away from her physically and mentally. To say I'd had enough would be the understatement of the year.

Maybe it's because I'm a Cancer, or maybe it's just a personal thing, but when I am in a relationship with someone who mistreats me, I will immediately stop putting the effort in.

I will simply mentally check out because I don't have the energy to deal with people who clearly don't care about me.

I spent most of my life trying to fix other's mistakes when they hurt me, and I don't have the mental energy to do that anymore.

Don't get me wrong, I had attempted to communicate with her about her actions before, but she clearly didn't see the fault in her ways. She simply defended herself in order to protect her ego and destroy my confidence.

After that, I realized communicating with her would prove to be ineffective. "Ghosting" was the way to go.

I wasn't taking the easy way out. I was taking the sane way out.

Don't get mad at me for "ghosting" you when your actions haunted me for years.

If you want to pretend like I don't exist, I'll simply fulfill your prophecy.

Good riddance.

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