A while back, I was strolling through Target with my mom in the book section when she asked me what "ghosting" was. I explained to her that it was a common term for when two people were talking or dating when suddenly, one of the people fell off the radar with no explanation.
They became like a ghost––hence the term. Sometimes, it was even mutual ghosting.
The term has become so common, in fact, that my mom found herself staring at a book entitled "Ghosted," a story centered on a young woman who falls in love over the course of a week and unexpectedly finds herself ghosted.
I've read countless articles on this topic. Some are in favor of this decision, saying it's completely acceptable and even encouraged in some situations. Others find it gross, disrespectful and cowardly.
I have to say, I must agree with the latter.
With the exception of abusive circumstances, there really is no excuse not to pick up the phone and be honest with the person you've been talking to.
If someone has been investing time into you, getting to know you, then you owe it to them and yourself to end things properly. If you have gone on a few dates with this person, then expectations are now in place that should be respected. Communication is one of the major foundations of respect in any relationship––be it a romantic or a platonic relationship.
It's common sense and basic decency. When did those fly out the window?
If you aren't interested anymore, there's nothing wrong with that! The offense comes when you choose the coward's way out instead of choosing a more honorable route. Maybe the other person won't like what you have to say, but at least you can say you did the right thing.
Ghosting is a sign of emotional immaturity.
It's a selfish act that only succeeds in making the recipient feel bad about themselves, wondering what they did wrong...what they could have done differently. Not only is it hurtful, but it could lead to trust issues with future dating attempts, derailing their own love life.
You see, your decision has a domino effect in ways you probably don't care to see.
What is so difficult about telling someone you're not interested? Why not give yourself and your partner the closure that will help each of you move forward?
In all honesty, someone who ghosts you isn't really someone you want to be in a relationship, to begin with.
Think of it this way: They showed their true colors and you effectively dodged a bullet. Maybe it's the new dating trend, but it's not ethical or healthy by any means, and their poor decision may have saved you some major future heartache.
For now, just keep kissing those frogs. One of them is bound to turn into your prince/princess.