6 Signs You've Outgrown Your High School Friends

6 Signs You've Outgrown Your High School Friends

Don't feel guilty about outgrowing friends.
Alexandra Shore
Alexandra Shore Jan 15, 2017
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Sure, we've had some great laughs, we were each other's shoulders to cry on when things went wrong, we went on wild adventures, and we made some awesome memories, but that doesn't mean we should feel bad about outgrowing each other as friends. Maybe they changed and maybe you changed, but that's not the problem, and nor does it matter. It's heartbreaking to even think that friendships can come to a crashing halt, or even a slow subtle fade but it comes along with becoming an adult.

Many friendships end in college due to a number of reasons:

1. You have nothing in common

Both of your priorities and goals don't line up properly. You guys may also have different styles and tastes now which makes it hard to have meaningful conversations about anything.


2. They don't celebrate your success

Whether you got a new job, found the boy of your dreams, or put an amazing Instagram filter on your next post, they just don't seem to be happy for you. Friends should build you up, not tear you down.


3. You both lead completely different lives

One of you has a boyfriend, and the other still likes casual hookups. One of you started a new job, and the other is still partying every single night. The list goes on, but in reality, it feels like you guys are on separate planets.


4. You've formed new, stronger friendships

College gives you the opportunity to meet new and exciting people! With so many clubs, and organizations its easier to meet people who better suit your interests. Theres a whole new world of diverse people you didn't get to interact with in high school, which causes you to realize you may have settled in your friend choices.

5. You both never have time to hangout

Sure, your schedules may be different, but people make time for the people they truly want to see.


6. You both only reach out if one of you has a problem

If you find that you're constantly listening to your friend talk about all of their problems and offering them advice, but realize you never get the same effort in return, it's a sign they don't have your best interests at heart, or they're just really self-centered.

Outgrowing friendships in college is not something out of the ordinary, but its still hard to deal with. The first big changes of your life happen in college, which is why it is easy to get left behind, or to leave behind people who aren't on the same frequency as you. People who tell you that you have "changed" do not understand that growing up is all about making changes to become a better person than you were the day before.

All of these things do not mean that you have to stop being friends all together, it may just mean that you need to see and hear from them a little less. It may break your heart not to call them your best friend anymore, but know your value. You shouldn't have to beg someone to like you, spend time with you, or be your friend. Don't feel guilty about growing apart, life is all about growing.

I would like all the people that I have left behind, and may leave behind in the future to know that your friendship has meant the world to me. I would not be who I am today without all the laughs and adventures we have shared together.


Cover Image Credit: Alexandra Shore
Alexandra Shore
Alexandra Shore Jan 15, 2017
At University of Rhode Island

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.
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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Cancel Culture Is Toxic And Ugly

Stop deciding for me who I can and cannot like.

Emilee Nulsen
Emilee Nulsen Mar 21, 2019
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I was really hoping that canceled culture died in 2018, but unfortunately here we are in 2019 still "canceling" whoever we personally deem "problematic." Whether it's tweeting from six years ago or falsely made allegations, waves of people will grab on to anything they can to bring down whatever celebrity or influencer seems to be doing well at the moment.

Of course, it is important to bring light to horrible things such as racism, misogyny, domestic abuse, etc., but remember these horrible things are still happening TODAY. We need to focus our energy on combating the horrible things people are currently doing and saying; it is truly such a waste of time to bring up the problematic words and actions that someone in the limelight did almost a decade ago.

Let me be clear, there is no one person I am trying to defend here. I honestly don't care much to personally defend anyone who is being canceled by angry twitter-users who found something just bad enough to hold against them for eternity. I truly just find the idea of it annoying and ugly.

The idea that any person is a completely static, flat character is so inconceivable and unlikely that I truly have a hard time understanding why we cannot accept an apology from a matured person.

If we have no evidence that a person has made any recent damaging remarks, then how can we prove they haven't changed since they tweeted something wrong in 2013?

Of course, there are people who have recently or continuously proven they are indecent people who are not deserving of any sort of public exposure, but if they are truly so horrible, people will drop them without you having to tell them to do so. You don't have to condemn those who still remain loyal; they are probably not the kind of people you need to waste your time on anyway.

If the people canceling others were constantly watched like the people they have damned, I am absolutely sure there is something we could find from their past to cancel them as well.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that famous people are still human beings just like us. Anyone is prone to make mistakes, and those mistakes can absolutely be rectified over time.

Nowadays, people love jumping on the bandwagon of finding a new person to hate and don't even stop to think about the damage it could do to that person's life and reputation.

Give people a chance to prove that they are decent human beings before deciding whether "we" as a whole should love or hate them based on such a small amount of evidence.

I am not saying you have to love every celebrity. If you don't like what someone has said or done you absolutely do not have to give them your attention or devotion, but you should not tell me whether I can like them or not.

In 2019 we should put an end to canceled culture, and, instead, learn to take people at their word and accept their apologies for their past wrongdoings.

Emilee Nulsen
Emilee Nulsen Mar 21, 2019
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