You Should Not Ask Outside People For Relationship Advice
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You Should Not Ask Outside People For Relationship Advice

When it comes to relationships, people always think they know best.

You Should Not Ask Outside People For Relationship Advice

When it comes to relationships, people always think they know best. Whenever you are having problems with your significant other, people think they know what is better for your relationship than you do for yourself.

The truth is, everyone experiences love differently. Love is an emotion. It is not something as cut and dry as having a common cold. Someone can experience love, and it makes them feel something – and, another person can feel completely different when they are in love. It is not a universal feeling. It is not something everyone experiences the same – therefore, it's not something everyone can give you the answers about.

You may feel one way about your partner because of how this specific person makes you feel and, someone else may not see it at all. They do not know how it really feels to experience that gritty, raw emotion the way that you do.

These people who have anything to say about your relationship and what you should do next – they are neither you nor are they your significant other. Therefore, they should have absolutely nothing to say about the state of your relationship.

You may be a confider, you may think that the best way to solve your problems with your significant other is to vent to your mom, your sisters or your friends – some people even vent online to strangers. But, the harsh reality is, this is probably only going to make your situation really worse.

The more you ask other people their opinions on your relationship, the more thoughts they will put in your head that are not yours. Then, you will have twice as many questions, and issues as you already had before – which only drives you to feel even worse about your relationship overall.

In the long run, these people are unaware of what you and your partner have been through. They know the bare minimum – one side of the story. They can only base their advice off of what they have been through and what they would want. You are not them – they are not you – why the heck would you want what they want?

When you are feeling like you have something going wrong in your relationship or want to change and fix what is going on, the only person you should ever, ever talk to about that is simply – your significant other.

They are the only person who is equally involved in the relationship. They are the only person who can give you the answers you need. And, they are the only person who should ever know the intimate details of your entire life with them.

Do not make the mistake of asking outside for their thoughts, opinions and verdicts on your love – because, at the end of the day, you are the one who has to actually live it.

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