I Can't Date Guys My Age

I Absolutely Refuse To Date Guys My Own Age–Bring On The Older Guys With More Maturity

Let's be mature about this.

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Dating at 20-years-old is extremely daunting. Meeting people face to face is difficult, and people don't take dating apps seriously. The vast majority of guys my age don't want a relationship, anyway. They'd rather stay single so they can party and hook up with girls whenever they please. Don't get me wrong, that's totally fine!

For me, however, this poses a problem. I'm not looking for a guy that can't commit. I've been single for quite a while, and I actually like it a lot, but I know I won't feel this way forever. When I do start looking for someone to be with, I'm definitely not going to look at guys my own age.

Despite the commitment issues and the partying, there are other things I just don't like about the majority of guys my age. Most of them are super immature and can't handle a serious, adult relationship. My generation thinks it's normal to have a relationship filled with jealousy and miscommunication. People my age think raging fights and constant arguments are a sign of love. Um, ew. Excuse me while I go throw up.

How do I know this? I see the kinds of things people share on social media with the caption "goals" or whatever. People really think dysfunctional relationships are the epitome of love. Apparently, a relationship without struggle is a sign that someone doesn't care. I don't know what kind of wacky logic that is, but I want no part of it.

Relationships should be easy. They should be built upon mutual respect, trust, and communication. These things are very hard to find in a partner my age. My theory is that an older guy will have had his fun. He will have learned that trust issues and fights don't lead to good things. Again, I'm not saying all guys my age think like this, but the majority of them do, and that's too many for my liking.

I'm tired of games and nonsense. When I'm ready to commit to a relationship, I want a partner who respects me enough to put his best foot forward. I want someone who puts the same effort into the relationship that I do. I genuinely believe that I'll find these qualities in a guy just a bit older than myself.

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7 Signals A Girl Will Try To Send You If She Likes You As More Than A Friend

Girls do subliminal things to show you her interest in you. Pay attention to these low key signs that she is shooting her shot.

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It is never easy when a girl has to fully admit her feelings to a guy she likes, so instead, she sends slight signals in hopes that he picks up on her hints.

1. She can't stop smiling at you

She is happy to talk to you and to be in your presence, the smallest things that you do make her want to smile. She can't control the happiness inside and it comes out in a great big smile. In her head, she is just thinking about how much she enjoys spending time with you and how much she likes you.

2. She hugs you with both arms

Side hugs are common, easy, and very universal. She wants to give you full body hug because to show you she feels different about you than any other guy. With a full body hug she can rest her face on your chest and this just brings the two of you closer.

3. She makes direct eye contact

Direct eye contact is always a great sign. This means she is fully aware of everything you are saying and she is completely interested.

4. She scans your face and lips

Upon talking to you, she begins to scan your face. In this moment she is appreciating your attractiveness and completely zoned out. Forget you said anything to her because she probably was not listening. If she is looking at your lips then she definitely wants a kiss.

5. She says "Oh my god, stahhhp"

The 'I'm mad at you, but I'm flirting with you' slogan. She is trying to be cute and pick a fight with you so you can two can play around. She's hoping this will lead to cracking jokes

6. She adjusts her clothing

She is fidgety when your around because she has feelings for you and is nervous. She wants to look her best with you around, so she is subconsciously fixing herself so that nothing looks bad.

7. She sends you cute snap chats

Silly, crazy, and just straight up ugly snap chats are for friends. If her selfies are , done each time, then she cares a lot about how you see her and she wants you to see her at her best. She is not always looking for a compliment, but throw one her way and you will make her day.

Pay attention to the signs a girl is sending. Her body language and behavior around all come together for an important message, she likes you! A lot.

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Top Lang Leav Quotes For The Girl In Love

"Who you love and who loves you back determines so much in your life."

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One of my favorite modern poets is Lang Leav because she captures love and loss in a way that's both easy to read but also powerful. Some of her poems seem simple, but they hold such deep meaning when it comes to love, heartbreak and finding yourself. I'm not going to lie to ya'll, some of her heartbreak poems hit pretty hard. But, this isn't about heartbreak, this is about the beautiful feeling we call love.

Here are some of my favorite quotes by Lang Leav about love:

"It's so dark right now, I can't see any light around me.

That's because the light is coming from you. You can't see it but everyone else can."
Love & Misadventure

"You were you,
and I was I;
we were two
before our time.

I was yours
before I knew,
and you have always
been mine too."
Love & Misadventure

"I had my first dream about you last night.
Really? She smiles. What was it about?
I don't remember exactly but the whole time I was dreaming, I knew you were mine."
Love & Misadventure

"I love you, I do -
you have my word.


You have all my words."
Lullabies

"Souls do not have calendars or clocks, nor do they understand the notion of time or distance. They only know it feels right to be with one another."
Love & Misadventure

"It was a quiet love, a tacit love. It came without prelude or preamble. We never said the word love–we didn't have to. It was in our laughter, in the sense of wonder we found in each other. And if we had doubts then, time has told us otherwise."
The Universe of Us

"How much love is a person capable of giving? I thought I knew the answer until I met you."
Sea of Strangers

"When love finds you, it doesn't come as crashing waves or thunderbolts. It appears as a song on the radio or a particular blue in the sky. It dawns on you slowly, like a warm winter sunrise—where the promise of summer shines out from within."
Memories

Be still, my heart.

Whether you're falling in love or already madly in love, these quotes are sure to hit your heartstrings. Not to mention, they make pretty good Instagram captions for all your sappy love pictures!

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