When You're In Your Twenties And You're No Longer 125lb
Start writing a post

When You're In Your Twenties And You're No Longer 125lb

I'm not married. I haven't had a baby yet. And I'm well over 125 pounds.

Drop The Label Movement

I've never had an eating disorder.

Although I can't say I've never thought about it.

I don't eat salad.

Diets can be unrealistic or end up making you gain even more weight when it's over.

I've never had a baby.

I'm only twenty-two.

And I weigh well over 125 pounds.

There are mothers who weigh less than me, and women twice my age.

To say it's discouraging,

wouldn't cover half of it.

It's easy to say "I love who I am, and weight doesn't matter."

But deep down, if we're honest,

every. single. one. of us has experienced some sort of discomfort with our weight.

Girls who are skinny,

mom's with excess body weight,

guys with a beer belly.

We all feel it.

And I'm not here to encourage or discourage anyone.

But to say I hear you, and I've felt it too.

Maybe not in the same way, but I have.

I'm tired of living in a world where we are saying we're accepting of ALL sizes, and yet "thick" still ends up being "slim thick."

Having curves still means having a "small waste."

We promote being bigger than a size zero, but only up to a size four.

And it's discouraging.

When the trend is wearing a crop top, it sucks not having the stomach for one.

When the style is yoga pants, but yoga pants cling way too tight to your thighs, it's discouraging to not have a thigh gap.

Especially when you're young.

When you're at your peak,

and you're supposed to be at your "best."

And there are options, so many.

But I think it's okay to be a little upset.

To be a little discouraged, and say "I don't like this."

I'm not where I would like to be. I'm not looking the way I would like to look.

And that's okay.

I'm not, and maybe you're not.

And I think for me one of the first things that need to happen is getting that expectation out of our head.

Yeah, you're not the girl with the thigh gap or the guy with the six-pack.

And be upset if you need to, but realize that being upset and hard on yourself will never ever change the way you look.

And hurting yourself, and abusing your body won't either.

In fact, it could make it worse.

Because you might feel that big thighs aren't cute,

but rib cages sure aren't attractive.

And the shame, or the guilt,

none of that is any healthier.

You can be upset, and even cry about it if you need to.

I sure have.

But you aren't alone. At all.

And we all hate at least one thing about ourselves and our bodies.

It's a constant struggle, and comparison.

We're young, and well over the weight, we'd like to be.

It hurts.

So what do we do?

We change the mindset that a smaller weight is somehow better, or more attractive.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Alexis Hoffman

Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, we all know that cutting out social interaction has taken its toll.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

I Asked Instagram How 2020 Was, And Maybe It Wasn't The Worst Year Ever

2020 is a year to remember but it's not as bad as we made it out to be.


It's finally 2021 and we're honestly all just happy that 2020 is over. I decided to ask my Instagram followers how they felt about 2020 and the results were a little more mixed up than expected.

Keep Reading... Show less

Ever since I watched "How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days," I've been a major Matthew McConaughey fan. I've seen most of his movies, and I definitely got way too excited when he finally made an Instagram! So when he announced he would be releasing a memoir titled "Greenlights," I knew I absolutely had to get my hands on this book. And so did the rest of the world, as the book began to flood social media.

Truthfully, I would much rather read a fiction book and dive into another world than read a nonfiction book - even if it is one of my favorite celebrities. But I had a feeling this book wouldn't disappoint or bore.

Keep Reading... Show less

The Armie Hammer Scandal Discourse Is Kink Shaming And Harming Actual Victims

The rumors surrounding Armie Hammer has resulted in some very toxic and harmful discourse.


Sex is something that occupies a very significant place in our lives. Even asexual people can have an active sex life. With the various types of people that comprise this world, it obviously results in various sexual interests. And unconventional people can engage in some pretty unconventional sex practices. Even the most conventional people on the surface might surprise us with their sexual fantasies.

Keep Reading... Show less

The Top 10 'Sex and the City' Episodes You Need To Revisit Before The New Series

In anticipation for the upcoming series, "And Just Like That," here are the ten "Sex and the City" episodes you need to revisit.


"Sex and the City" has become quite the franchise since its premiere in the late nineties. The series lasted six seasons and even produced two films. Fans of the show were anxiously awaiting a revival, even if their hopes seemed futile. Kim Cattrall, who plays Samantha Jones, recently spoke out saying she would not return to the show. Cattrall explained that she was never friends with her co-stars and even had a difficult relationship with Sarah Jessica Parker.

In the wake of Cattrall's revelation, rumors swirled the series would come back without her. On January 10, a new teaser was posted on social media for the new series, "And Just Like That." Now that a revival is officially confirmed, here are the ten "Sex and the City" episodes you need to revisit.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

My New Tattoo Reminds Me To Love Everyone With Intention—And Yes, That Includes Myself

I've realized that love has almost nothing to do with agreeing and almost everything to do with grace.

Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

I'm a big believer that everyone has a story.

Keep Reading... Show less

Women are known to lug around heavy purses with unnecessary items inside. How many of these useful items do you keep in your own bag? We need to be prepared with a list of things to have with us whenever we leave the house again.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments