Dear Athena,
I’ve been at TCU for two years now. For the most part, I like it, but I still haven’t met anyone who has shown even a slight interest in dating me. Because of this, I keep thinking to myself if maybe I would have been better off going to my “safety school” back home where my high school boyfriend is. I never thought I’d be the girl to move because of a guy, but I can’t stop thinking about it. Could you help me make a decision? -Sarah
Dear Sarah,
Although I understand your disappointment in your love life, I think it’s important to look at the big picture. I’m guessing you didn’t come to TCU and pay tuition just to meet a guy. You came here to get a good education and have a fulfilling college experience. This college experience doesn’t have to involve a guy to make it feel complete. You need to try and stop comparing yourself to other people and realize that it's okay to be single right now. When you are supposed to meet someone, you will! For now, you should just enjoy yourself and take advantage of your time here and all the things TCU has to offer.
In regards to the boy back home: yes, he might be great, but is he offering to move here for you? If not, then this seems like a very risky decision to make, especially on a one-way street. Now, I’m not saying that things couldn’t work out, but you must consider all possibilities. Will you always be thinking what could have happened if you stayed? Is he the same person? Will you be able to make a good group of girlfriends there? Does the school have your major? How will you explain your decision to your parents? Where and who will you live with?
There are many factors that go into transferring, and many realities that people sometimes fail to consider. My advice is to map out every step of your plan and decide for yourself if you think he is worth it. Then, go further. Take him out of the picture and decide if the school is worth it. Is that where you want to be, without him? Will you feel fulfilled, happy and content? These are the questions that will matter most in the end. I wish you the best of luck and hope that whatever choice you make is the best for you! -Athena
