To All Incoming Freshmen, When You Get To College, Please Don't Be THAT Freshman

To All Incoming Freshmen, When You Get To College, Please Don't Be THAT Freshman

I am pretty sure we all know who I'm talking about.


As we are all counting down the days to return to campus, students are looking forward to meeting new people and reuniting with old friends. And then, there is the freshman.

We have all been there. The eagerness and excitement have been slowly building up through months of summer vacation, all waiting for this moment. I understand the anxiousness, enthusiasm, and insecurities. The opportunity to meet new people and explore a new area is very intriguing. But let's be real, you are here to make memories and get an education. So here are a few pieces of advice from a former college freshman.

1. Don't be that freshman who follows their significant other to college

This is the boy or girl who simply can not think for themselves. The 17-year-old puts their own personal goals and interests aside to sacrifice for a six-month high school relationship. This will more than likely end at an end of semester transfer after the relationship has been tested for a month or two in college life. So if you want to really enjoy your freshman year, make your own decisions and do what is best for you.

2. Don't be that freshman who lets their parents pick their major

"You are not going to school just to waste my money."

This is a statement you might have heard from your parents. As true as it might seem, this is definitely not a good way to start your college years. If you are not majoring in something you can see yourself doing, you are wasting your time. You can major in biology, go to medical school, and make the best grades. But if deep down you don't want to be a doctor, you will NOT end up being a good doctor. When it comes to picking your major, you really have to follow your heart.

3. Don't be that freshman who gets overwhelmed with the first taste of freedom

Yes. It is all very exciting. You don't have a curfew, you don't have rules, you don't have anyone constantly nagging you, but let's not get carried away. Don't be the freshman who gets a tattoo on the first night of living on your own. Don't be the freshman who tries to drink every liquor behind the bar. Don't be the freshman who gets caught up being someone that they aren't. My best advice would be to take things slow.

4. Don't be that freshman who starts school isolated in a relationship

I'm not telling you not to date anyone during your freshman year. I am saying to not cut yourself off from the rest of the world while you date someone. Your first year on campus is such an amazing opportunity to meet people, but people are constantly eager to start dating someone and then only spend time with that person.

Be the freshman who can manage time between friends and relationships.

5. Don't be that freshman who can't handle things on their own

It is your first year on your own. Yes, you still need help from your parents. But at this point, they should not be ordering your textbooks or buying your parking pass. If you need something for a club or for class, YOU should handle it. If you're having roommate problems, YOU should handle it, not your parents. This is the real world and college is a great time for you to start building up to be the person you want to be in the future, but you can't successfully do that if your parents still deal with every minor inconvenience for you.

6. Don't be that freshman who only talks to their high school friends

I know your high school was probably amazing, and you probably had the coolest people go there. However, I believe that college is a great time to be on your own and experience new things. Meeting new people and going to new places will allow you to grow into a more mature person. There is a way to balance meeting new friends and maintaining friendships with childhood friends, and I am sure you will find that balance.

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11 Things 20-Year-Olds Who Look 12 Are Tired Of Hearing

No, I don't need a kids' menu, thank you very much.

I used to just laugh it off when someone thought I was 12 years old back when I was in high school, but now that I am three years deep into college getting ready to graduate, I don’t laugh anymore. If you are in the same situation as me looking like a child trying to get into a bar/club and the bouncer is questioning if your ID is fake, please read on — you may relate very much. Here are 11 things 20+ year-olds who look 12 are tired of hearing:

1. I didn’t know they let 12-year-olds work here.

Nope. They don’t.

2. What school do you go to?

Me: Florida State.

Person: University?!

3. *Tries to get a sample at Target* Is your parent nearby?

Let me FaceTime my mom really quick and ask her permission for this protein bar sample.

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4. *Server at a restaurant* Here you go, sweetie. What can I get you, darling? Hi, honey, how are you?

You are no more than three years older than me, there is no need for "sweetie."

5. It’s your birthday? Happy Birthday! How old now, fourteen/fifteen?

6. You look so much older when you wear makeup.

Is that supposed to be a compliment?

7. Wow, you're how old? You look like you are twelve.

Have you seen a twelve-year-old lately?

8. You probably just look young because you're short.

9. *Tries to flirt with a guy* You're a little too young for me I think.

I'm your age. Maybe even older.

10. Are you old enough to see this movie? Can I see your ID please?

11. You're going to be so thankful when you are in your 50's.

So I've been told. Hopefully, it's worth it.

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To The Little Brother Starting College This Week, From Your Proud Big Sister

As a big sister, I feel obligated to bestow upon you some sisterly advice to help you in this transition.


I'm so proud of you. You've made it this far and now this week you're taking the next step to pursue your passion. College is very different but also similar to your prior experiences. As your big sister, I feel obligated to bestow upon you some sisterly advice to help you in this transition.

College... well, it's time-consuming. Between classes and homework that seems to take up more time then the classes, you'll have a lot on your plate. Add in a social life and working a job, your time management skills are gonna need to be top tier. I'm still trying to find the best method for me and it seems to change each semester depending on what classes and extracurriculars I have going on. If you ever need any help managing everything don't be afraid to ask me. And don't be afraid to say no to people either. You're not going to have time for every event, hangout, and extra shift you're offered. But at the same time, you need to find the best balance for yourself.

As you find your seat in each of your classes please, pretty please, say hi to those around you. Arrive early so you have time for this. Strike up conversations and exchange contact information. If you're ever sick, forget the homework, are stuck, have questions, need a study buddy, or anything else you may need help within that class they're gonna be super helpful. And you're going to be extremely grateful you got their information early on. It's up to you to build some sort of support system in each of your classes. Having at least one or two people you can reach out to will prove extremely useful as you navigate the semester.

These fellow classmates aren't just useful for classes but for the entire college experience. Maybe some of them you'll really hit it off with and you'll become friends. Maybe some of them are first years like you and you can help each other figure out what you're supposed to be doing. Or maybe they are in the same major as you and you guys can help each other figure out what classes you need or be future study buddies if you have future classes together. Just make some friends or at least contacts in all your classes.

Another thing you should do is go to those freshman events they offer! Seriously, I met some great people and really felt introduced to the campus life by attending the many starts of the semester events that were offered by my University. If you have the time, take advantage of this limited time offer and attend. I know this sounds like a bad TV advertisement but it's one you should listen to. Plus they're completely free and often super fun.

Another way to make friends is to join campus organizations! It's important to get involved and to find groups that interest you. Not only is it a great way to meet new friends but it's also a great way to pursue your interests. Don't be afraid to go to a bunch of meetings before finding the people you click with the most. College is another opportunity to explore and it makes it super easy for you to do so. Take advantage of that.

No matter what, remember to stay open-minded. Don't close yourself off to opportunities. I started college as a journalism major in the College of Arts & Sciences and now I'm a pre-social work major in the College of Health & Human Services. Or the fact that I always believed sororities weren't for me and were expensive. Now I'm rushing one and learning that just because I'm broke doesn't mean sororities are off limits to me. I never expected that this would be where I'd end up a year ago but here I am and I'm extremely happy. You might think you have it all worked out but take it from someone who was in that same mindset for years. Life has a funny way of working itself out and if you give it a chance you'll find the right path for you.

Most of all, don't let opportunities pass you by because you're scared. Such as if you decide you might want to switch the direction you were taking in college or if you feel you need to take a lighter course load one semester. Don't worry about taking more than four years as you're not alone. A lot of students decide to switch majors or take fewer classes to work more and end up being in school longer. And if you're scared you might not be good at something try it anyways. As the saying goes “you only regret the chances you didn't take."

I love you and truly believe you're going to do great over these next years. Stay true to yourself, be safe, and don't be afraid to branch out. You've got this and I'll be only a phone call away if you ever need anything.

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