All You Need Is Love

All You Need Is Love

How endless support and encouragement saves lives.

September celebrates Suicide Prevention Week from the 5th until the 11th! In honor of those struggling and recovering from depression, anxiety, self-harm, and addiction, I would like to shine light on two organizations that I hold dear to my heart; To Write Love On Her Arms and Delta Xi Delta Sorority.

To Write Love On Her Arms is growing and gaining popularity faster than founder, Jamie Tworkowski ever dreamed. For those who may not be familiar with the non-profit movement, TWLOHA is dedicated to raising awareness about depression, anxiety, self-harm, suicide, and addiction, as well as to provide endless support for those struggling. Back in 2006, in attempts to help a close friend, Tworkowski posted his friend's story to MySpace and titled it, "To Write Love On Her Arms." Letters of appreciation and encouragement flooded in from those sharing their personal stories and in 2007, TWLOHA became an official organization.

"Though she be but little, she is fierce!" - William Shakespeare

Delta Xi Delta is a local sorority here at Montclair State University, and like TWLOHA, also started out small but is growing each year. So what else do the two have in common? Well, in 2013, with the same goal of helping others in mind, Delta Xi Delta adopted To Write Love On Her Arms as the sorority's official philanthropy.

TWLOHA encourages people to share their story in order to help others and receive the support they themselves need. One of Delta Xi Delta's very brave sisters did just that:

"Growing up I never knew what addiction or even depression was. I was never aware that there were people who suffer from this so badly and may even depend on drugs or alcohol to live. Where I am from, substance abuse has become one of the biggest problems that people of all ages suffer from. Drug use and over dose has become an epidemic. But never did I think that I would be up here telling a story on how I am not an addict but how addiction ruined me. Finding out you have lost your friend to a drug isn't the easiest thing to hear. Especially when that person is still alive but wants absolutely nothing to do with you. You never see them anymore and they never come home. It is like a part of you is missing. The emptiness is indescribable. To everyone suffering from anxiety and depression, to those who have a loved one suffering from addiction, you are not alone. It is okay to want to laugh and cry at the same time. It is okay to kick and scream because I totally have."

- Heather Murphy

This past spring, Delta Xi Delta hosted their third annual "All You Need Is Love Walk," which donated all of the proceeds to TWLOHA. The sisters of Delta Xi Delta, as well as the many supporters that the event drew set out to walk the Montclair campus in honor of those suffering with depression, anxiety, self-harm, and addiction. The walk not only raised money for a wonderful organization, through games, activities, and guest speakers, it brought our campus closer. Both organizations have taught me so much about the power of love, friendship and how an endless support system can truly change lives. There are so many ways to get involved!

For more information on To Write Love On Her Arms visit,

For more information on Delta Xi Delta's upcoming events or recruitment please visit, @deltaxidelta on Instagram.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants

Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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Mental Illness And Social Media Are Not That Good Of A Combination, If You Hadn't Noticed

We should spread positivity and empowerment, not the same old videos of certain people crying.

A while ago, one of my friends seemed to be going through a really tough time. He kept posting about how he felt sad and lonely on Instagram. I, for once, tried being that friend who cares for others. So I messaged him asking if he was OK.

His answer wasn't what I had expected. I had expected for him to open up since he had pointed out how he felt like he had nobody to talk to. But his bitch ass said something like "No, thank you. I was actually waiting for Adri"– his ex– "to answer to my story." And I was just like:

And not surprisingly, ever since, I grossly roll my eyes whenever somebody makes the smallest of statements like "I'm so sad, nobody loves me." They annoy me.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that people shouldn't have the liberty to openly express how they have dealt with anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, or BPD. You preach how hard of a battle it has been and how hard you've fought. Tell us how you overcame your own insecurities.

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I support all of that. But, constantly saying "I am sad," or "I don't know what to do," or "Maybe I should just kill myself" isn't a really smart thing to do. To be honest, (and I've had this conversation with other people, and they agree with me) a lot of people don't give a shit about that.

This isn't Keeping Up With The Kardashians. (I mean, there are also people who are annoyed and fed up with the Kardashians.) This is real life, and people don't always keep up with your life, and often even give a thought about you. Your constant posts claiming how nobody loves you and how you should just kill yourself will bore the crap out of the people.

You will say it so much that people will not even spare a second anymore. People, with time, will no longer care. They will say that you're just doing it to get attention. And sometimes, it seems like that's the case. If anything, instead of spending time complaining online, you should go look for professional help. I did that, and it was the best decision ever.

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