Love is shown by thoughts, words and actions. Some of these signs are impossible to miss like flashing billboards on a highway, while others get jumbled in the mix of your everyday journeys. Your Significant Other should be there for you mentally, physically and spiritually. If you're in a relationship and they're there for you in these ways: keep them. If you're not in a relationship and someone shows you these signs: what are you waiting for?! There are countless ways people can show their love for you, but here are 20 of the top surefire signs your person is the real deal.
Messaging you “Good Morning and Good Night.”
You are the first thing they think about when they wake up and the last thing on their mind before they go to sleep, even when you’re not in the same room.
Wishing you “Good Luck.”
Whether they say this before your Championship game, or something as common as taking a test, this person wants to be part of your support system and cheer you on from near or afar.
Telling you “Let me know when you get there.”
Your safety is one of their concerns. Whether your destination is six minutes or six hours away, knowing you arrived safe and sound is a mini-relief.
Saying “This Song reminds me of us!”
During what could be a mindless activity of listening to the radio, you're on their mind. That song will forever be associated with you. Pay attention to every lyric-often, these rhymes have a way of putting together the words they want to say, but couldn’t formulate themselves. They want you to listen to the song in hope that you will play it on repeat thinking of you as much as they will; which could be about 26 times a week, or day.
Saying “We should do this sometime!”
For many guys, activities will be a “game time decision.” On the other hand, girls are more meticulous stronger planners. Girls aren’t asking their S/O to buy a Lilly Pulitzer Day Planner and have everything mapped out. But, saying this shows that they want to share adventures and experiences with you.
Saying “I Miss You.”
The French translation means, “You are missing from me.” The person saying this feels life is sweeter when you’re there. When you're near, you make their world a better place-a happy, vibrant, exciting place.
Saying “I’m Here for You.”
This person will be your support system when you need consoling, counseling and a shoulder to cry on. They will be for you at 3 p.m. and 3 a.m. You can be sure no phone call will go unanswered.
Attending your Games to Cheer you on.
Playing sports (or being involved in the arts) is a part of many people’s identity, and watching you play is a visual representation of the love, determination and commitment you have for something. In high school or college, there is a limited amount of opportunities for them to see you do what you love most, and they make an effort to attend these opportunities as much as possible--even if this means coming back to the school during spring break, or sitting through all 18 innings of a double header in 40 degree weather despite freezing in shorts because her mom accidentally took home the wrong bag of clothes which contained all her pants from her dorm while starting the end of the year move-out process.
Asking if you Care about them.
They want to know that you are just as invested into this as they are. If they wouldn’t be crushed if you answered “no,” they wouldn’t bother to ask. However, if you do truly care for this person asking, your words and actions shouldn’t cause them to question you in the first place.
Asking about your Family.
Wondering what your Christmas traditions are, or how your sister’s study abroad trip to Ireland is going shows that they care about the people who helped make you who you are today. By getting to know your family, they get to learn more about you. If all goes well in the relationship, your family can be theirs someday, too.
Wanting to Meet your Friends.
Like your family, your friends say a lot about who you are when you aren’t with your significant other. Friends play a major role in the stories you tell and experiences you’ve had. If you care about these people, someone who loves you wants to get to know them, too. Wanting to go out with your friends, rather than only with their own friends, is a selfless way of having fun with you and getting to know you better. Also, like your family, introducing your significant other to your friends shows you’re ready to take the relationship to the next level. So if your S/O is trying to earn Brownie Points with your family and friends, they’re a keeper.
Trying your Hobbies.
She knows she’s terrible at golf, and he may not know the difference between the bow and stern on a boat. But they’re going to love learning, despite some embarrassing swings and misses along the way, because it is something you enjoy. You’re both not going to be the greatest at the same things, but that gives you the opportunity to expand your interests, go out of your comfort zone, and show off on a date (or come away with a funny story).
Being the Last to Let Go.
They want to be with you as long as physically possible. Hugs and kisses will linger. Holding onto you, especially in the most innocent ways, means they want to make the most of that moment so that it can be a sweet memory until the next time you’re in their arms.
Okay, that gif is a bit much. I mean, you can't physically hold onto someone all hours of the day...that's just being clingy. You have to let go at some point, but you catch my drift (pun intended).
On a Rare Occasion, saying “I Hate You.”
This is not the laughing, “I hate you,” said when you snipe a snapchat that’s less than perfect of them. Tears in their eyes and a shaky, cracked voice with trembling hands and a pounding heart was evident when they say this. They may not truly loathe you; they may just despise what you did that caused them to hate how they feel (such as seeing you being friendly with an ex they know hurt you so badly). People do not cry about people they do not care about. With loving you so much comes at the price of you inevitably having the ability to crush their feelings in a moment’s time.
Praying for You.
The most intimate relationship one can have is with God. When someone loves you, they pray for you during your hard and happy times, they pray for you when you make it hard to love you, and they thank God for you when you make it easy to love you. The significant other who prays for you is the one you’ll want to pray with at an altar with while wearing a tux or white dress.
Going the Distance because they want to go the Distance.
A six-hour car ride to travel 408 miles? Worth it. Not getting to see you for more than a weekend every few months? We’ll get through it. The space is never ideal. But if your S/O is willing to cross state lines just to be able to look into your eyes with their arms around you, they are in this for the long run (pun intended). To put it simply, “Distance means so little when someone means so much.”
Being content with doing Anything.
With you, every activity can turn into a mini adventure. Whether it’s dancing on a table at Hofbrauhaus, or going for a late night car ride around your college town sharing stories about each memory landmark, they’re just happy to be with you.
Mentioning anything regarding having a House, Kids, and Future Together.
The concept of dating is to find a lifetime partner, not to Netflix and Chill. If they are confident enough to discuss a committed future, the relationship is heading in the right direction. If the idea scares them, the relationship will be in stagnant, never moving forward. Luckily, they want you to be a part of their Happily Ever After.
And finally, saying “I Love You.”
If your significant other does these 19 things for you, it shows they love you. But gaining the confidence to throw caution to the wind and say these three words can be life changing. If you're questioning whether someone is in love with you, hearing "I Love You" is the answer and the 19 actions above are the proof.
You can convince your mind you may love someone, but you have no control over how you feel. If your heart skips a beat as soon as you lay eyes on this person, tell them you love them. If you look into their eyes and a rush that’s exciting and relaxing at the same time comes over you, tell them you love them. If you cannot stand the thought of losing this person for a day, week, month, year, or forever, tell them you love them. If you catch yourself doing these first 19 things for them, tell them you love them. Life is too short, and these words can never be said enough.
