I wrote an article about differences between girls and women in September. Many people often get confused with the differences because of the same gender. Yes, they are both the same gender, but the magnitudes of maturity are different.
This time, I'm differentiating between overgrown boys and grown men. Like I said with girls and women, you can meet someone in their 30s who still behave like toddlers. You can meet someone in college and already has his life together. Here are 17 differences between overgrown boys and grown men:
1. Overgrown boys leave us questioning, Grown men are clear about their intentions
When a boy asks us out, he comes off as wishy-washy and vague. A man is clear with his intentions with a snap of a finger.
2. Overgrown boys make excuses, Grown men take responsibility for their actions
Boys try to make excuses in order to not face the face the consequences of their actions and attempt to receive sympathy from their peers. Men try to make it better by valuing people more than their egos.
3. Overgrown boys want to win an argument, Grown men want to be fair
Since boys have such fragile egos, they want to win an argument, so they don't come off as weak and pathetic. Yes, arguments do happen. When it comes to dealing with grown men, they want to be fair and hug it out.
4. Overgrown boys make you feel like you need to depreciate your success to avoid humiliation, Grown men praise your accomplishments and are not threatened by your achievements
Boys are intimidated by the idea of you being more successful than them. Instead of praising and appreciating people, they look for ways to bring you down in order to make themselves feel better. Since men are more selfless, they appreciate your successes and continue to encourage you to live your dream.
5. Overgrown boys allow you to go to bed angry, Grown men want you to talk it out
Since boys would rather avoid confrontation, they allow you to stay angry since they are not mature enough to talk about your arguments. Men want to make sure you get this off your chest.
6. Overgrown boys cause a scene, Grown men want to talk it out privately
Since boys want to get what they want, they do not wait to somewhere private and think that yelling in front of everyone is okay. Men will not yell, but be honest with how they are feeling. They will not humiliate you in front of everyone since he knows it is known of their business.
7. Overgrown boys think they know everything, Grown men have an open mind towards learning
Boys tend to believe that just because they have brains, they are already smart. They get defensive whenever mistakes are made because their fragile egos cannot handle someone being smarter than them. Men understand that just because they grow up does not mean they do not stop learning. In order to become wiser, they
8. Overgrown boys are only interested in physical beauty, Grown men appreciate everything
Boys care only about outer beauty since they are not very good at getting to know the person. Men appreciate body, heart, and soul.
9. Overgrown boys care too much about what his friends and family think of you, Grown men do not care, as long as you are happy together
Boys do not know how to stand up for themselves or you, so they live by their family and friends' opinions. Whether your date's friends and family like you or not, men do not care because if you two are happy together, then it's all it matters.
10. Overgrown boys want one hundred girls to please them, Grown men want to make ONE woman happy
Since overgrown boys are selfish, they do not try to make girls happy because they want to be entertained. Once they're bored, they leave. A man is too busy focusing on one woman because he values her.
11. Overgrown boys avoid difficult subjects, Grown men have the courage to have uncomfortable conversations
Boys are not very good at confrontation, so they put off with having difficult conversations and come off as passive. Men, the more assertive ones, are willing to talk about difficult subjects
12. Overgrown boys are impulsive, Grown men are rational
Boys act and speak before they think. Men take the time to breathe and evaluate first on what is going on before doing anything irrational.
13. Overgrown boys talk, Grown men act
Boys believe that talking works for everything, but their actions do not line up with their words. Men talk, but back it up with their actions since they know that deeds are more powerful than words.
14. Overgrown boys are easily bored with deep conversations, Grown men enjoy deep conversations
Boys do not go deep into conversations since they are not willing to learn. Men like the idea of talking about life lessons and learning from experiences and people.
15. Overgrown boys are often inconsistent, Grown men take the time to establish his core values
Since boys do not know what they want, they lack inconsistency within their values and morals. Men know exactly what they want, who they are, and kind of values they possess.
16. Overgrown boys play games, Grown men have better things to do
Boys play games since they are fearful of commitment, while men think games are stupid.
17. Overgrown boys assume, Grown men listen
Boys believe that they know everything and do not bother to listen to another side of the story. They are too selfish to hear someone's side of the story since they think the first thing they hear makes them instantly right. Men understand that there different sides of the story and are willing to understand what the real point is