I have been told multiple times I am "wifey material," and someone will come to appreciate that. When I first heard this, I'll admit I thought it was funny. There I was, a mere 18-year-old and someone says I would be a good wife, it was weird. Now nearly four years later, whenever I hear this phrase, I cringe, and I am not sure how to respond.

Urban Dictionary defines "wifey material" as "a phrase often used to describe a girl whom you feel possesses certain qualities that qualifies her to be a model wife for you: kind, sweet, caring, and compassionate."

But here's the thing, hearing someone wants to put a ring on my finger purely for being responsible makes me feel insulted. Right now, I have goals I am working toward. I have dreams and aspirations and hearing that all you seem to think about me is I would be a good fit to walk down the aisle essentially discounts all that I am working for.

Here are a few of the reasons calling somebody #WifeyMaterial is not as complimentary as you think:

To all the men who call a woman #wifeymaterial, thank you for thinking we have qualities you are looking for in a life partner, but those qualities exist for other reasons. There is so much more to us than just a potential spouse. All those qualities can add so much more to your life than just what you want in a spouse.

Men, next time you call a woman wife material, just know she may not take it as the compliment you're trying to give her.

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