Supporting Your Spouse

Supporting Your Spouse

Sometimes it's hard to see outside your own circumstances, but doing so is vital to a healthy, God-like love.


I'll put it simply, marriage is either utter bliss or a trek through hell. Sure, there are happy mediums in-between but I've noticed in my own short marriage that it's constantly going up and down, up and down, up and down. I married when I was 22 and here, four years later, I laugh at the child I was back then. I'll probably think the same of myself four years from now. But, I digress.

Being in love with someone is easy, but loving them unconditionally has another connotation entirely. Unconditional love was a term well-known but not well-understood when I was a young bride, at least for me, but I quickly learned that marriage can be hard. Everyone tries to warn you of the difficulties awaiting you in marriage, your grandparents, your aunts and uncles, your mother, but you can't properly appreciate them until you're staring them in the face.

It's in those uncomfortable moments, the ones that make you want to curl inside yourself, that you find out what you're made of. Are you wife material or not? I'm still facing that fight, it seems like every wife worth her salt is still fighting the good fight.

After the first few years of marriage, things began to change. My comfort with my young husband became absolute and our trust in one another deepened. Young newly-weds seem to think they know everything there is to know about each other: wrong. I'm glad to say that, however. I keep uncovering new and exciting things about my husband that I didn't realize were there. On a different note, we also uncover things about each other that are difficult, frightening, or raw. But it is those things that draw us together as husband and wife. We apply solvents and bandages to wounds long-ago inflicted by others and pray that they will heal, stronger than before.

Recently, I've begun to learn what a husband's strength and a wife's courage can mean to one another. God designed men to be imposing and fiercely protective of their wife and family. My husband is no exception. However, in early marriage I don't know if I gave proper credence to my own role, my own abilities as a wife. I grew up a bit of a tomboy and didn't give feminine strength a second thought growing up. But now, compared to the strength my husband has, I've had to re-evaluate where I fit.

I've learned that one of the greatest things I can do for my husband is to offer my support and my heart, unconditionally. He's gone through several difficult things that I've been his primary support for and it's not easy on either of us. Whether or not I want to admit it, I have a soft heart, a feminine heart and it can provide him with strength that I can't wholly understand.

If I can give any young wives advise, it's simply this: love your husbands. Love them and provide them all the support you can. Be the jewels in their crowns, the shine in their smiles, and the butter to their bread. Be the best of them.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Health and Wellness

This Survey Shows How Quarantine And Drinking Relate, And I Can't Say I'm Surprised

"5 o'clock somewhere" is more of a guideline now than ever.

As it stands, and my friends and I are finally 21. We're extremely excited to be able to go out to bars and "get lit" as the kids say, but due to the pandemic, all of our plans have been put on hold. We'd rather wait and go when it's safe than risk spreading the infection and hurting our loved ones. So, we've all been quarantining apart, getting on the occasional wine zoom call. This made me wonder if anyone else our age were doing the same thing.

Then, I discovered this survey: We Surveyed Millennials And Gen Z About Their Quarantine Drinking Habits — Cheers. Here are 3 things that I discovered through the survey results.

Keep Reading... Show less

5 Easy Summer Mocktail Recipes You Can Make With Items You Probably Already Have On-Hand

Keep these drinks in mind next time you're visiting your local farmer's market — you might want to grab some extra mint and limes.

With Summer 2020 in full swing comes the addition of many fresh fruits and vegetables to brighten up your dinner plate, but also your glass! Farmers markets are my personal favorite place to look for produce that is in season to make fun mocktails with.

Keep Reading... Show less

5 Ways To Celebrate The 4th of July — Without Fireworks Or Social Gatherings

We created a list of things to do since social distancing may create a dent in our typical, planned traditions.

With the Fourth of July on Saturday, the usual tradition of popping fireworks, grilling out, and being surrounded by family has been modified due to the pandemic. Whether you're a loner or surrounded by family, there will most likely be some changes to your celebrations.

For weeks on social media, people across the country have been complaining that they have been subjected to fireworks going off at all times of the night into the early morning. This has sparked concern and questions about why this is happening and how are people even obtaining the fireworks.

Keep Reading... Show less

Carb And Cheese Lovers, Unite — These Are The Best Mac And Cheese Recipes On The Internet

Whether you need to get through the current pandemic or want to spice up your Fourth of July celebrations, these mac and cheese recipes will do just that.

My favorite food is mac and cheese, and it always has been. All it requires is noodles and cheese — it's so simple to make. Although it's my favorite, it can also get kind of mundane because it's such a simple recipe. This, of course, has led to many people all over the world experimenting with the American staple.

With our lives currently being turned upside down due to the pandemic, a lot of people are seeking comfort. These are scary times, and in order to make it day-to-day, we need to have our favorite foods as a standby. These recipes can also be used during your celebration of the Fourth of July.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

17 Things To Make You Feel GOOD This Week

Because some purchases are just necessary.

Y'all, we're struggling. You don't even have to tell me, I know. What a mess we're all in, right? This year is not going how we planned and the world has turned into one giant struggle bus. I guess you could be super philosophical about everything happening for a reason, but sometimes life is just hard.

There are plenty of ways to bring yourself out of whatever rut you're in. You could go for a run, have a snack, or read a book. Or, if you're really looking for an adrenaline rush, go shopping. This is obviously not going to solve the world's problems with one swift click of the "checkout" button, but hey, it may just give you the little boost you need today.

Keep Reading... Show less

- Blissfully unaware that butt-care beyond squats was even something I should be considering in my self-care routine, I tried one of Bawdy Beauty's butt masks for the first time a month ago.

- I've never really given my butt a second though till I took a look at improvements that could be made with the mask — if one of the hydrating, firming, detoxifying, or brightening masks in the kit I received could either smooth out cellulite or tone my skin a bit more, I wasn't going to complain.

- Each Bawdy Beauty sheet mask comes in an individually-packaged sheet, soaked with a serum I massaged into my skin after removing said sheet. The clay butt mask comes in a convenient stick format I simply draw on to my skin and leave to set for about 10 minutes before hopping into the shower.

- I set a goal of committing myself to butt-care every day for one month. Between the regular use of sheet masks, clay masks, and their CBD Butt Balm in between, I didn't have many expectations.

- I thought the whole concept may just be a gimmick, but my butt has never looked so toned in my life, and the cellulite I had is almost completely gone. I wear one every single day when I get the chance.

I'm incredibly skeptical when it comes to marketing ploys and gimmicks in the beauty world. I'll be the first cynic to try out the latest serum on the market every influencer is raving about just to negate every grandiose claim it makes.

Keep Reading... Show less

Friends, you don't have to be quarantined to use a personal massager, you know? Because, sure, quarantine made for a lot of extra quality time with yourself, but no matter what phase of the reopening process you're in, it's normal and actually healthy to take care of your sexual needs on your own.

Keep Reading... Show less

5 Books I Didn't Realize Are About Gay Women

If you read primarily LGBTQ fiction, then this list might help to expand your TBR list.

Photo by Ketut Subiyanto from Pexels

Frequent readers of LGBTQ fiction might feel like they're reading the same book over and over again, with few exceptions.

Most of these books were on my TBR list for months and I didn't realize they were about gay women until I was reading them, hopefully, this list of books can interest you in expanding your reading material and seeking out different stories.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments