Love it or loathe it, "The Bachelorette" is one of the most gossiped about reality shows on television. As a fellow Bachelorette fan myself, there is nothing I find more entertaining than watching a stranger’s love life broadcasted nationwide. I would be lying if I said I am not involved in a Bachelorette Bracket with my friends—no shame. But has anyone ever considered how creepy "The Bachelorette" really is?

How can one declare their love for another without having had a single conversation? Chemistry can only be created with interaction. While one can certainly lust over the aesthetics of a person, a picture cannot speak for a person’s personality. It is far too easy to portray what you want people to think of you through images, rather than your true self. The essence of a person is sensed through communication and behavior. While the contestants may feel attracted to the bachelorette, I’d say it’s a stretch to know for sure that this girl is their future indefinitely.

Let me bring it down to a level we can all understand. If a girl signs up for an online dating website, the first date can be mentally overwhelming. The obscurity of the potential suitor is unnerving with so many unanswered questions racing at a pace impossible to keep up with. Will he be weird or charming? Will his quirkiness be incompatible with your personality or will your anxiety overpower your ability to impress him? But one thing is for sure: avoid a stage five clinger like the plague. Imagine if the first thing your match greets you with is a friendly, “I know we are perfect for each other.” You would likely dart for your car. How could he know something so intimate if he has not spent more than 60 seconds with you in person?

How does the Bachelorette deal with such aggressive openings? Flattering, as it is to have 24 attractive men lust over her, does it not weird her out to be so ferociously sought after by strangers? Do not mistake this for a cynical outlook on love, for I certainly believe in love at first sight. There are countless testimonies claiming an instant connection with one’s spouse, but to verbalize that instant connection right off the bat is borderline creepy and a bit arrogant.

There is something truly enticing about the thrill of a chase. The contestants have it all backwards; if they were to be fed dating advice in real life, they would be advised not to suffocate their crush with heavy romance. A more relaxed approach usually leaves the other wanting more. Smother her with compliments and declarations of love one the first date and you will find yourself single yet again. The contestants on the show are so available it’s nauseating. We watch the show with envy, imagining what it would be like to have so many hot guys crave our attention. But we never stop to consider what it would be like if that actually happened. We would be so disturbed by the clinginess that their pleasing aesthetics would no longer excite us. Their suffocating approach would be totally blinding. Honestly, props to the Bachelorette for handling the creepiness with beauty and grace.