If someone cares about you and wants to spend time with you, they will. It's as simple as that. And when they are with you, they will be fully invested in you. Now, I'm not saying they will be worshipping the ground you walk on, but they will be interested in the conversation and finding out how you’ve been.
But we, as humans, like to make excuses. For ourselves, for other people, for anything, really.
"She's busy, that's why she didn't text me back."
"He doesn't want to hang out because he's just stressed right now."
"I'm just tired tonight, but don't worry, I'll see you soon."
But deep down, we all know that excuses are exactly that — excuses. It's so cliché, but actions really do speak louder than words. If someone wants you to be in their life, they will make an effort to have you in their life. It doesn't matter what else is going on with them, and that’s the truth. Because when someone cares about you, they think about you. Maybe not all the time, maybe only a few times a month, but you're still there in their brain. And that's what will drive them to want to see you. Or at least shoot you a text.
Admitting that someone isn't thinking about you is scary though because realizing the truth can be painful. It hurts to cut someone out of our lives, even if we would be better off. As humans, we get invested and attached to people we care about. We don't want to let people go, even if they would be fine without us. Even if, in the end, it's the best thing for us. And even if someone doesn't care about you or want to spend time with you, it doesn't make them a bad person. Maybe they used to care about you, but things changed. Or maybe they have other people they're focused on, and that's okay. But it’s not okay to spend your time on the people who don't care when you should focus on the ones who do.
It's time to stop wasting our energy and making excuses for other people. We need to be honest with ourselves and with the people we care about, because wasted thoughts and effort just end up hurting us more than helping us.
