Learning how to say no is not selfish, it's simply making time for things that are important to you. Let's face it, you probably are a busy woman, and the best way to make use of your spare time is to spend it alone. If you go to work full time, go to school, or are a mommy, you need some time to recharge. I am giving you 3 reasons why you should start saying no and spend that time alone.
My top reason you should start saying no when someone asks you out is because you barely have enough “me time.” "Me time" is the time you spend alone. This could be the time you can exercise, read, go to the hair dresser, or take a trip to the nail salon. Taking the time to incorporate self-care is so important to a woman. I cannot tell you how I almost felt like a new person when I got my hair done. It's something about treating yourself that makes you feel so much better.
If you're single, and a guy you are not really interested in asks for your number, Say no. He is just going to waste your precious time. You don’t have to feel bad, it's just that you have other things that are more of a priority rather than a guy that you are not really interested in.
You have more important things to do. You may not be a total procrastinator, but you may have a to-do list you're avoiding. When you start saying no to other things, you can finally see the time on your schedule to do the things that are a priority to you.
Learning when and when not to say no is something that will come over time. However, as women, we have to begin to put our wants and needs first, and then we can begin to serve others. When we don’t take the time to recharge, we end up burning out and ultimately serving from an empty vessel. When the vessel is full of selfcare, then we can serve from a place of serenity.
If you would like extra support in this area, schedule a call with me and we can chat about making yourself your number one priority.
