To My Boyfriend's Parents, Thank You For Raising The Best Man I Have Ever Met

To My Boyfriend's Parents, Thank You For Raising The Best Man I Have Ever Met

It's so important to have good relationships with your significant other's family.


Most couples who start dating as young as we did don't last. That's not me trying to be negative, that's just a simple fact.

When I met your son, he was 16 and a sophomore in high school. I was 17, about to graduate and go away to college. Logistically, most couples like us don't last.

When I met you, though, I was still hoping you'd like me.

I was still hoping that we would connect and whatever amount of time I ended up spending with him, and with you, would be a positive experience for all of us.

There were two things I didn't count on happening. The first was our relationship surviving as long as it has. Don't get me wrong, I adore your son and he's my favorite person on the planet, but I was unsure how well we would do while I was in college and he was still in high school (hold the cougar jokes, please). The second was the love you embraced me with.

To his mother and his stepfather:

Over the past two and a half years, you have given me so much, taught me so much, and loved me so much. Considering how young we were and how temporary I could've been, you didn't have to accept me and include me as you did. You could've kept your distance, like a lot of people would, so it wouldn't be as sad if we did break up. But that's not what you did.

I was nervous for probably the first month I started coming around. I was so anxious for you to like me. I really didn't need to be, though, because you welcomed me into your home as if I'd been around forever. You invited me to come to church with you, and therefore into your spiritual lives. You invited me around for the holidays and family dinners. You brought me on vacations. I got birthday and Christmas gifts, Valentine's cards; you name it, I was included.

Before long I realized how much I looked forward to being around you. I love being a part of this family. I can't thank you enough for bringing me in and loving me like one of your own kids. Your love and everything you've done for me means more than you could ever know, especially considering you didn't have to do any of it. You could have kept your distance, but you didn't.

You've taken me to your favorite place in the world. You stood with me while I was baptized. You've watched me jump around jobs and try to figure my life out, and have always been supportive. You've trusted me with your dogs, and your home. Most importantly, you've trusted me with the happiness of your son.

You are two of the most caring, loving, and wonderful people I've ever met in my life. I've learned so much from you both. I'm blessed to have met your son, and I'm blessed that he came with parents like you.

To his father:

I was almost more nervous to meet you than anyone else. I didn't meet you until after a few months of seeing your son, and by then, I'd already gotten pretty comfortable with the rest of the family. He spoke so highly of you and told me he couldn't wait for me to meet you. I was afraid I wouldn't get your approval.

You made it so easy. You're fun to talk to, and there's never any awkward silences. You've gone out of your way to invite me along as much as possible. I appreciate you always trying to include me, and I can't express how much it meant to me when you invited me to spend the holidays with your family, too. They're all just as warm to me as you are.

You're one of his favorite people. I'm very thankful for the bond we've formed. I'm always up for a hike, no matter how much I complain. I know we haven't gotten to spend as much time together as I have with the other side of the family, but you mean just as much to me as they do.

Thank you all for raising the best man I've ever met, and for welcoming me into your family.

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To My Boyfriend, Over The Next Few Months Apart

Long distance relationships can be hard, especially when months pass apart from one another.


As these roughly next five months apart pass know that you are always on my mind and in my heart.

We began our relationship together apart with states between us and the agonizing realization that this would be our relationship for quite some time. However, after months of numerous FaceTime calls, text messages and phone calls the time to see each other for the first time came! It was the first time we had locked eyes with one another in almost six years since that day we met at church when we were nothing but young eighth graders trying to prepare for an Easter egg race for the younger kids. I knew from the first time I saw you that I liked you.

We, however, did not attend the same school or run in the same circle so our lives took different paths and we never saw each other again. But, we became friends and stayed in touch throughout the years. We both went through tough times and other relationships with other people. Graduated high school and I went off to college and you went off to join the Coast Guard.

Our worlds were in two totally different places. Although we knew some of the same people because we lived in the same town, in those six years we never crossed paths again. It was not until you reached back out to me in October that our journey to where we now truly begin.

Right away I remembered the time six years ago when we met for the very first time and how I instantly fell for you! We caught up and told each other about where our lives were now and soon enough we were falling for each other.

You came into my life at a time when I was trying to start a new beginning after battling every day with depression and the never-ending thought of simply ending my life to make all the pain go away. I let you in and trusted you right off the bat with the darkest parts of me. You knew of my past and the wrongs in which so many individuals have done to me. Yet, you never got scared away, you never left me even when I was so desperately trying to push you out of my life because I was afraid of being hurt by someone else and knew I would never be good enough for you.

Months of long phone calls and texts went by and I was falling head over hills in love with you! When the time came to see each other again after six years it was instant comfort and relaxation! Our life together started with a shopping trip with your wonderful loving mother and sister.

I still remember our first kiss we shared in your car that day! How you asked me to be your girl a few days later after we both met each other's family.

Our time together so far may be small and a big part of it has been spent apart with states between us but, I truly believe that God brought us back together for a reason and he knew we were meant to be!

I am so blessed to have you and even though at times it can be super hard with the distance we always get through it. And I know that these next five months is the longest time we will have been apart since we started this journey together. However, I know this is just another test from God to see if we can make it and I know we will!

The love I have grows for you with each day, from the first time I told you 'I love you' to now! I pray that in these next few months we turn to God to help us get through it and trust that this time apart will only make us stronger together. We are both bettering our lives and starting our futures to begin the journey of our dreams.

Although we might not be right beside each other to do this, know I am with you every step of the way and that I am beyond proud of the man you are becoming and the roads ahead that God is leading you down!

I will see you soon my love, I love you!

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It's Time To Challenge 'You Complete Me' Culture

Your partner should be your companion, not your completion!


After having some time to reflect after "The Bachelor" finale, I think this is the perfect time to put this article out there. In this article, I want to offer you a different perspective on how to view relationships. I want to challenge you to defy cultural assumptions of what romance is and shine a light on how codependency can squash your happiness.

The puzzle analogy

In wedding vows or proclamations of love, we often hear the phrase, "You complete me." We compare finding our person to finding the missing piece of the puzzle in our lives. Once we place that puzzle piece in the empty hole, we can finally see the beautiful and complete picture. Without that piece, we would be in a frenzy, searching all around under the kitchen table and on everyone's chairs to see if we find it. We desperately hope the dog, or the baby, hasn't eaten it. We hold out hope.

This comparison, as I have found, has created quite an issue in our modern day society. We are so obsessed with finding that missing piece in our lives to complete us that we often search in the wrong places or live in unending frustration. Sometimes we find a perfectly wonderful person, but they seem to lack everything on our checklists of what we have deemed as the perfect missing piece, so we let them go. If you are one of the lucky ones who has found a person who fills the void in your life, you often try to shove them into the puzzle as hard as you can and force them to fit. You need to be filled; you need to have the beauty of the final picture — without it, how could you ever be completely happy?

Where did I go wrong?

I was riding along in the car with my boyfriend when I realized we had hit a rough patch. We are a long distance couple — going to separate colleges four hours away from each other — but we only live two minutes away from each other when we are back at home.

I had never had a boyfriend before my second semester of senior year. I had always been very independent. I moved a lot, which meant anytime I got close to dating someone, POOF, there I went. But, this time I had finally stayed and found an amazing guy — my best friend.

When I was single, I was the queen of relationship advice (as we all are when we are not blinded by rose-colored romance). Finally being in a relationship made me realize how easy it was to fall into habits that I had always scorned others for. I began letting this relationship affect me in ways I never even suspected it could.

Don't get me wrong, this was not his doing at all. My boyfriend is the sweetest guy I know. He is always lifting me up and supporting me to reach my dreams. While we both struggle with anxiety and depression, we have found a way to always put our individual mental health first. My boyfriend had dated people before me, but I had not. This altered expectations of what this relationship was supposed to look like for each of us. He knew what mistakes to try to stay away from, while I was still trying to figure it out.

How to reframe your perspective in relationships

Regardless of my background, I think I have stumbled on the most amazing way of reframing perspective in relationships. Once I started changing the lens on how I looked at our relationship, we started bickering less and I became so much happier.

Here it is: your significant other is your COMPANION, not your COMPLETION.

Of course, you should feel happy and enjoy when your partner is around. They should treat you with care and make you laugh, but they should not be the person filling the empty piece of your heart — that isn't their responsibility. They should not be the ultimate source of happiness that makes you feel emotionally whole. This perspective is extremely unhealthy because people are fickle and we make mistakes. We screw up . . . all the time. Our culture loves to use the phrase, "You complete me." It sounds extremely romantic. However, it can be so problematic.

Now, when I spend time or communicate with my boyfriend, I see it as a lucky bonus we get after we both have spent time improving ourselves that day. When I text him, I don't expect him to reply to me immediately — even though I still wish he would because of the need for instant gratification, let's be real. I know that he is going after his dreams by working as hard as he can to make a life for himself. As a girlfriend, not only should I commend him for that, but I should also give him the space to do that. Likewise, I should go after my dreams and work as hard as I can to achieve them.

Your partner should be the fun blanket you have on top of your comforter. You would be just as warm without the blanket and still get a good nights sleep, but the blanket is still really fuzzy and gives you extra joy and you can wrap it around you while you are watching tv. And, if it is a really cold and stormy night, perhaps you snuggle up with your blanket and hold it tightly for a little extra warmth and comfort.

I am a believer in God, and I believe his holy spirit makes me whole. Regardless of if you share this belief or not, I think we can all agree that we are all supposed to walk through life together and lift each other up. If we expect to put our happiness and worth on the shoulders of one person, then that relationship is going to crumble. Why would you want the person you love most to crumble? I certainly don't. I want to be able to look my partner in the eyes and say, "I love you and I want to stand by you when you need me. When you don't, I will be okay because I am still whole and fulfilled".


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