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15 Ways To Thrive In Your Season Of Singleness

Singleness is a season that you should not just survive in, but you should THRIVE.

Bailee Padgett

Nov 30, 2018

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15 Ways To Thrive In Your Season Of Singleness

Bailee Padgett

Too many people have a negative outlook on singleness and I am here hoping to change that. First, let me say that I get it. I understand that singleness can be lonely at times, but it shouldn't be the majority of the time. Hopefully, these tips will help to lead you so that you can thrive in your singleness. If someone asked me what I am good at, I am almost positive that I could say being single.

But here's the truth: I haven't always been that way and you don't have to continue to be that way.

The beauty of singleness is that it is a learning and growing season, so you can learn how not to dread being the third wheel, going to parties dateless, or becoming bitter when all your friends seem to be entering a relationship around you. The best thing about singleness is that even though the world may tell you that it can hold you back from becoming all that you were meant to be, the truth is that the only thing holding you back is yourself. So, change your focus and get out there and thrive.

1. Know Who You Are

This is a time to learn who you are. What do you like to do for fun? Are you a hard-worker? Do you value honesty? What are your pet peeves? Take the time to know yourself, because once you know who are, then you can know what you want.

2. Build Your Team

It would be wise to identify who is on your team. When I say "team," I mean the very people that you do life with. You need people that love you for you, speak nothing but encouragement toward you, and can also be honest with you.

3. Reconcile Other Relationships

If you have some relationships (friends, family, exes, etc.) in your life that are not completely healed, then you need to take this opportunity to mend these relationships. Why would you seek out another relationship to place in your life with the chance that it too, could leave you heartbroken. If you don't take the time to heal, then you may damage the next relationship.

4. Set Goals

This is so very important. You need to set goals and actually achieve them. Goals, like relationships, take hard-work and consistency. It's best to develop these characteristics now rather than later.

5. Define Your Dreams

What are your dreams in life? Do you have dreams? If money was not an issue, then what would you do? If you can define your dreams then trust me, it fixes your focus on other important things besides finding someone to date.

6. Take Care Of Yourself

Exercise, get your nails done, get a fresh haircut, learn to floss, and keep your eyebrows on fleek.

7. Explore And Travel

I had to mention explore because sometimes you can't afford to travel around the world. If you can travel to new places, then travel the world, but if you can't, then explore your city. Find new coffee shops, running trails, and the perfect place to read a book. In short summary, get out of your house and thrive.

8. Serve

Learn to have a heart for serving by serving at an event, serve at your church, or simply just serve the people around you.

9. Develop A Work Ethic

The one negative outlook on singleness is that your life doesn't began until you find someone. This is the furthest thing from the truth. I have a problem with this outlook, because it almost gives single people an excuse to be lazy. Live your life in the now moments and learned to work hard regardless of what you may or may not have.

10. Invest In New Friendships

Get out and meet new people.

11. Keep In Touch With Old Friends

I have seen too many times that people get in relationships and then completely disregard their friends. Take this time to know that you actually have the time to keep in touch with old friends. Don't waste the time that you have been given.

12. Get Involved

Don't just sit at home. Get involved and use your talents.

13. Find A Hobby

Try new things and fall in love with an activity that can help you escape from time to time.

14. Pursue Your Passions

What are you passionate about? Please, recognize that the sky is the limit and you can pursue whatever you want. I am not saying that you can't do that in a relationship, but there is a lot more freedom in singleness.

15. Focus On The Positives Of Being Single

You should literally list out the reasons why singleness is good thing. Even if you may not feel the joy in your singleness you can still recognize why singleness is a wonderful season.

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15 Ways To Thrive In Your Season Of Singleness

Singleness is a season that you should not just survive in, but you should THRIVE.

1. Know Who You Are

2. Build Your Team

3. Reconcile Other Relationships

4. Set Goals

5. Define Your Dreams

6. Take Care Of Yourself

7. Explore And Travel

8. Serve

9. Develop A Work Ethic

10. Invest In New Friendships

11. Keep In Touch With Old Friends

12. Get Involved

13. Find A Hobby

14. Pursue Your Passions

15. Focus On The Positives Of Being Single

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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