Ah the power of friendship. What do I mean by this you may ask? Well it is the power of feeling like a good person because of the people in your life who mean something to you. I never understood the concept of being happy based on who you surround yourself with. That was until I went through a situation where I was surrounding myself with the wrong people. I always thought you needed an infinite number of friends to be happy, and that is definitely not the case. On the other hand, surrounding yourself with one person who isn't good for you is not the right answer either. But here is the right answer;

Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. You should never have to change the way you are because your friends don't like it. If we all just accepted each other for who we are the world would be a much happier place. And even though being non judgmental is hard and something we all could work on, I find it to be a necessity of life.

I have learned throughout my years that being judgmental is the dumbest thing a person can do. I have found my first impressions to always be way off and a bit ridiculous. For instance; someone who is now one of my best friends, I once thought was way too cool for me and would never talk to me in a million years. Now we have heart to hearts daily. I've realized that I always think people are too cool for me. Why? Well I don't know other than the fact that I lack confidence in the "cool" department. Since figuring this out, I have decided to stop having first impressions unless they are good. Because you never know, the person that you assume is a bitch may actually turn out to be an awesome caring person.

I've also decided to delete the negative people from my life. Negative people will leave you feeling more alone than if you were actually alone. If a person doesn't care enough to ask how your day was or what's going on in your life than they really don't care about you. You don't need people who don't care about you, because frankly they will never be able to live up to the friendship you offer them. I for one am sick of one sided friendships. I am sick of caring about people way more than they will ever care about me. And yes, I was raised to care a lot about others, but I don't need to waste the space in my heart for people who don't do the same. Cutting off the negative people in my life has been one of the most rewarding aspects to my life. I have lived my life full of negative people due to the fear of hurting them back. I have never been a fan of "do to others as they'd do to you" simply because that would mean I would have to treat a lot of people like shit. But I finally built the courage to stop hanging out with people who don't deserve my time and started filling the gaps with people who do.

Deleting the negative people opened my eyes to all the positive people I was missing out on. I was missing out on all the amazing aspects to good people by surrounding myself with people who made me feel like the dirt beneath their feet. Don't ever let those people tell you that you can't cut them off. That's just a whole other reason why they should be banished from your life. You are the deciding factor in who stays in your life and who doesn't and be sure to pick the right people.

Which brings me to the point in my article where I would like to thank the positive people in my life. And actually, the negative people as well. You showed me what friendship should not be. You taught me how friends should not make me feel. You taught me all the things I needed to know about what friendships should not be like and for that I thank you. To the people who impact me positivity, I owe you. You have finally made me feel the way I deserve to feel. I no longer long for a friendship where I am treated as an equal rather than someone who is beneath you. I will continue to surround myself with the right people no matter the lengths I have to go to do that.