Strong Men Aren't Emulating Toxic Masculinity

Strong Men Aren't Toxic, You Just Haven't Met The Right Ones

I have met both interesting and horrible men, but the ones who stuck around taught me a lot about myself.


I have personally found it really hard to be around strong men. By definition, a strong man is someone who knows that he has a part to play in life that doesn't always revolve around him. He knows what he wants out of life and isn't afraid to say how he feels about any given situation. There is an alpha quality if you will to him but it is almost subdued in the way he performs it. A strong man knows how to engage a person without threatening them.

There are so many qualities to a strong man but there never has to be toxicity within them.

One example of a strong man was the man I met when I first went to college. My experience didn't start out all that great, and I think the guy I met taught me a lot about myself. He used to tell me that I seemed timid, that I didn't have it all together because I wasn't completely honest with myself. He knew me before I knew myself and I thank him for that every single day that I doubt myself. We both may have been two young 18-year-olds at the time, but I think he knew what he wanted to be before I could figure out who I even was. He was confident and knew exactly what he wanted out of life and I think that at the time, I was afraid of that. But now that I think about it, it wasn't so bad.

Another example is the guy I know now. He is intelligent and beyond handsome but when we first met, he didn't shine in that way. He had an awkwardness about him that could only be described as nervousness. Yes, we eventually grew fond of each other's quirks but I think that made me realize that he wasn't afraid to show his more vulnerable side. The thing about toxic men is that they don't let you see that side of them most of the time. They only show you what they think you want to see. I have met people who when you immediately first meet them, you need to get away. He was never like that. This guy had to be strong when things fell apart for him. He had to figure out how to pick up the pieces and get his life back to where it was meant to be. Everything always seems to work in his favor and for that, I will never be able to fully figure it out.

As you can see, the toxic guys aren't the ones who really put their true selves out there. The strong ones stand out from the crowd and show who they are through their kindness and willingness to try different things. I want to meet more of these guys someday because I know that when I do, they will make me a better person for it.

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Dear Boyfriend, Thank You

Thank you, for all the little things you do.

Dear Boyfriend,

Thank you for being my best friend. When we're together, we're always laughing and joking around. I always have fun with you, and time flies when we're together. You're the first person I want to talk to when anything major happens, whether it be good or bad, and you're always there for me. You always know just what to say or do to cheer me up, and just being around you puts me in a better mood. I'd be devastated if our relationship ended, because in losing you, I'd be losing one of my best friends.

Thank you for telling me I'm wrong. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, thank you for braving my anger to give me a reality check. I may not want to hear it and I may lash out at you, but I hope you know I appreciate it.

Thank you for making me feel beautiful. You're constantly complimenting me, whether I'm dressed up or chillin' in sweats. You could care less whether or not I wear makeup or fix my hair because you're going to tell me I'm beautiful either way. Seeing the way you smile at me is the best confidence boost there is.

Thank you for loving me when I'm unlovable. I know I get in horrible moods sometimes and treat you unfairly. Thank you for rolling with the punches and not getting angry at me. I appreciate your patience more than you realize.

Thank you for surprising me. Whether it be flowers, donuts, or something else, you're constantly surprising me with little things that let me know you're thinking about me. The little things you do, don't go unnoticed.

Thank you for sharing your family with me. Your family treats me like I'm part of the family, and I love them like my own. They care about what you care about, and it's obvious from their openness that they think I'm important to you. Thank you for making it obvious to me and everyone else that I'm a priority in your life.

Thank you for being my plus one. Family events, school dances, doctor appointments, or whatever the case may be. We come as a package deal, and others have come to expect it. I can't go anywhere without someone asking why you're not with me, and I smile every time.

Thank you for taking care of me. You're constantly watching out for me, you give me your jacket when I'm cold, you make me walk on the inside of the street, you check my car to make sure it's working properly. You've held my hand at the doctor's office and brought me ice cream at 12:00 midnight. You always seem to know what I need, even if I don't realize it myself.

Thank you for making me feel secure. I know, without a doubt, you would never do anything to hurt me and that I can trust you in any situation. That quality is so rare in guys nowadays, and I'm so lucky to have found it in you.

Thank you for being such an amazing person. I'm so lucky to have you, and I wouldn't want anyone else.

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