Before I get started, I want to say that I don't condone marital abuse whatsoever. Narcissists can make every day in a relationship absolute torture, especially with a person as pathological as Donald Trump. And I would never, ever blame the victim, no matter what the costs.

But the truth about Melania Trump is that she's not a victim––she's a volunteer. Mrs. Trump is a seasoned media personality and a co-conspirator in her husband's bigotry. She helped perpetuate the racist idea that Barack Obama was an illegitimate president. She brushed off her husband's "locker room talk" as just "a kind of boy talk." She blamed a Jewish reporter for all of the anti-Semitic remarks aimed at her after the publication of a family profile. She has done all of this not just willingly, but enthusiastically.

Let me repeat: enthusiastically. These are not the words of a damsel in distress, they are the actions of a vulture.

And yet some prominent white feminists still present her and her daughters as little more than poor casualties of an unfortunate political situation. We cast the women in Trump's life as victims of his hate speech, yet some are quick to label Michelle Obama as an angry black woman if she shows even the slightest bit of passion. Hell, we even forgive them when they can't write their own damn speech!

So why is it that we call Michelle's arms "mannish," yet we applaud Melania for wearing a pussy-bow top at the same presidential debate where she defended her husband's sexist remarks?

The answer is simple: white women are rarely viewed as the authors of racism and bigotry, but as delicate flowers that had no hand in creating a racially privileged society. While they fight for equal pay, the death of rape culture, and smashing the patriarchy, they erase the struggles of women who are not white, cisgender, and heterosexual. I want all of my fellow white women to understand that as a whole, we are just as responsible for bigotry as white men, and the idea that we are pawns in white supremacy is completely and utterly false.

Melania Trump is not a victim. She is a capitalist who is benefitting from both her and her husband's behavior. She's not a naive little immigrant princess who was lured into Trump's gilded cage––she locked herself in and threw away the key.