Big gestures like promposals, getaways, and expensive gifts are overwhelming social media sites and brainwashing people to think that these are the new norms. Well, for relationships, they are not.

There is so much more to relationships than what is being broadcasted, it's the little things that aren't seen that really help to build a great relationship. Granted gifts and gestures are nice add-ons but not reality. Time and communication are key factors in creating a stable relationship.

Being with someone is hard work, taking lots of time and energy. This is where selflessness pops up into relationships. Not only focusing on your life but your partner's life forces one to balance both of their needs. Having the ability to juggle both your significant others life along with yours is imperative.

If people can't communicate properly things get misconstrued and the relationships dwindle out because no one wants to make the first move. When your partner listens to you and remembers and can help you through or just talk to you, it really is one of the most wonderful feelings. This is just one of the things that do not get posted or tweeted and can mean more than a "spooky basket" because it shows that your boyfriend/girlfriend knows and cares about YOU, not just what they see and think you want.

With the social media trend of #relationship goals, most people are not doing things for what their significant other wants, but what the internet does. Yes, your partner could want things like that and if they really do then those ideas are the way to go. But don't always look for the most extravagant gift that will bring the most attention, but the one that will bring the most happiness to the one who it really matters too.