We all have that friend that never spent more than two months in a row being single once they started dating. They jump from one person to the next with no rhyme or reason until they get married. Since they are now married and tied down for life, they've decided you need someone to date. All of your older friends have decided that they are in charge of finding someone suitable for you. It's not only annoying, but slightly degrading. To all the people who think you need to be in a relationship to be happy, you can be right, there are a lot of people like you. However, there are also people that won't always agree with that. We make the stand that being single is OKAY.
I've been in a relationship before, and it was great. Dating your best friend means you always have someone to hang out with. Don't get me wrong, I like being in a relationship. But I also really like being single. The only person I answer to is my parents, since I live in their house. I can go to the bar with my friends without having someone worry or get fussy. I can do all the things I like, and spend all of my money on things I enjoy. I can spend time alone, or with a large group of people and not just talk about my significant other for most of the evening. I don't have to budget my time with all the people who are important in my life, which I'm awful at (in case you were wondering). I can invest all of my emotions into whatever goal I'm currently working on.
Being single gives you room to do what you want and not worry about another person. I still worry about many other people in my life, that's for sure. But I don't have to worry about how my decisions to do things and try to change my life will change someone else's life. College is busy, it's hard. If you're dating someone at a different college or not in college, I give you props. With wanting a challenging career, you need someone you know will stick around. It sometimes takes a while to find that.
I want to build myself a successful life before I worry about bringing someone else into it. I want to achieve as much as I can with what time I am given. I'm not saying that successful people have to be alone, not at all. Many successful people are always in relationships, but I personally would rather have my life going well and then get into a serious relationship. College means debt, and I don't need anyone else worried about that.
I know that one day I will find a significant other, and it will work out like a dream. For now, I plan on busting my butt and accomplishing everything I can. Unless someone majestic comes along and I can't help myself, I'll be over here with my pets studying for class.
When you try to set someone up, we know that you're just trying to help. But especially with those with social anxiety, it's a nightmare. However, trying to set someone up kinda can come off as you thinking that the person can't do it on their own. That's not always the case. Mostly, we don't want to waste our time on someone who might just walk away.
Whether you're in a serious relationship, or you've been single for a while, or you have no interest in relationships, I toast to you. Keep doing whatever makes you happy, I know that one day you'll find exactly what you're looking for.
