Breakups suck, everyone knows it. Even if you've never been in a relationship before, watching your friends go through them hurts just as much as going through them sometimes. When your friends hurt, you hurt and you want to hurt whoever hurt them.
It's hard to console people during times like that. You may not know what to say. Even if you do, they usually don't believe it.
I go into these situations with open arms. Trust me, I've been through breakups and I totally understand. I'll always be available for late night pizza and movies, and I'll always be around to cuddle when you're feeling lonely.
It's important to be supportive, but one thing I will never support is the notion of "right person, wrong time." If it's the right person, they'd be right all the time. If it doesn't work out when you're 17 and have all the time in the world to work on things, it definitely won't work out when you're 20 and neck-deep in classes, internships and adult life.
The idea that there's one person that you're meant to be with who will solve all your problems and magically make life a walk in the park is a fantasy. Unless you wake up from the dream world you're in, no one is going to work out, and that's just how it is.
I know, being alone is scary. But being with the wrong person is scarier. You can't rely on someone to make or break your life. That's not how life works and that's not how people work.
No one was born to live your life for you.
Waiting around for someone only makes everything harder for you in the long run. If it works out, you still spent all that time waiting on someone who doesn't care. If it doesn't, you'll be full of disappointment over something that you shouldn't have been expecting in the first place.
If someone really is your soulmate, it'll work out the first time. I'm not saying that if you break up you'll never be able to get back together, but I'm saying you shouldn't EXPECT to have your entire future dictated by one person.
A relationship is a choice. You choose to stay in and fix things, or you choose to leave and move on. If someone left, they made that choice. If they really loved you, you wouldn't be single.
Don't confuse attention with relationship material. Pick yourself up and rebuild yourself. You'll thank me later.
