An Open Letter To Relationships That Could Have Been

To All The Could-Have-Beens Who Weren’t At The Same Place At The Same Time

Hopefully, we will meet again and I won't make the same mistakes. Hopefully, you will say "Hi" and recount the last time we met as if it wasn't so long ago.


A friend of mine recently brought up the concept of those who "could have been" something more. She talked about how "sometimes you meet a person and just know in your heart that if you got to know them more, you both would end up in a relationship." I call those "what-could-have-beens."

A relationship is a wonderful thing but often results out of fortunate timing. Until then, there are so many opportunities that never reach fruition. It is only after being in a relationship that one appreciates the many different people that could be in our lives, that we could have loved but can't.

Travelers know this better than anyone else. Going across the world and meeting someone perfect right before your flight the next day is an agony only jet-setters, travel bloggers, and the like know. There is so much at work: destiny, fate, the universe, timing, and a lot of luck.

When traveling with a team this past month, I met someone incredibly sweet and with whom I connected with. After only two days in the same place, it was a silly crush that I am quickly getting over. Nonetheless, it made me think of what could have been. This person could have added experiences to my life, but it was not reasonable given the circumstances.

We're lucky to have social media today, but this doesn't contribute much when we only meet someone once or twice in our lives. After that, the feeling of that moment is impossible to build upon and pursuit seems irrelevant once both people are forced to move on.

At some point, you have to believe that something greater is at work... that everything happens for a reason (as cheesy as that sounds). If we try to control the lives of other people and judge them for their priorities, nothing nor no one would satisfy us.

To those that could have been, I'm sorry I didn't open myself up to you sooner. I'm sorry I made commitments before searching for you or making room for a surprise such as you. I wish I was more outspoken so that I could have made more memories with you before I left. Hopefully, we will meet again and I won't make the same mistakes. Hopefully, you will say "Hi" and recount the last time we met as if it wasn't so long ago. I won't ever fully forget you, so please don't forget me. Maybe for the one you're destined to be with, you won't be the right person at the wrong time.

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32 Reasons Why I Love My Best Friend

The list stops at 32, but I could go on forever.

My best friend is my soul mate, and I am so lucky that this crazy world brought us together.

1. She has and always will put up with my ridiculousness.

2. She has seen me cry, and I have seen her cry, and we are both ugly criers.

3. We can sit in silence for 20 minutes, and it’s not weird.

4. But most of the time we cannot shut up.

5. This includes three-hour phone and Skype calls about anything and everything.

6. I know what she’s going to say before she says it.

7. Eye contact is all that is needed to communicate sometimes. This definitely comes in handy when we have an opinion that shouldn’t be verbalized.

8. Even when she laughs at me, I still feel loved.

9. We find the dumbest things funny.

10. We have reoccurring jokes that normal people just find odd.

11. She accepts every part of me including my flaws.

12. She talks me through hard situations without fail.

13. She tells me when I’m being unreasonable, and I don’t get mad.

14. She listens to me whine about the same guy and still hasn’t given up on me.

15. But gets more excited than anyone when a guy treats me right.

16. But you have both agreed that life would be easier if we could just marry each other.

17. What’s mine is hers, and what’s hers is mine.

18. This includes, but is not limited to clothes AND food (and that is a big deal for me).

19. She knows exactly how to cheer me up. Most of the time cupcakes do the trick but if they don't, somehow she make me feel better with insides jokes or just plain silence.

20. She has seen me at my worst and still loves me.

21. She will see movies meant for 8-year-olds with me and we will, no doubt, laugh the loudest.

22. She will watch"The Bachelor" with me and will secretly love it. Don’t worry ... No judgment from this side.

23. She will teach me the art of taking a good picture.

24. She gets me out of my comfort zone and makes me do things that I am iffy about at first.

25. But hanging out in our pajamas and talking all-night isn’t abnormal either.

26. Being apart for a long time is no biggie because when we are reunited it’s like nothing had separated us!

27. We plan on traveling the world together.

28. We plan on being roommates in the future.

29. I love her family and she loves mine.

30. We fight like sisters and then we apologize and get over it.

31. We talk about the craziness we will participate in together when we are 80.

32. I can’t imagine my life without her.

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Dear Dads, Every Day Is Father's Day, Especially Today

To all the wonderful dads out there: you are LOVED!


Today, we celebrate you dad. Whether you're the sports dad, the music dad, the car dad, the engineer dad, the math dad, the religious dad, the protective dad, or some combination of the above, we want to celebrate you!

You have showed us what it means to be hard-working.

You tend to work overtime at your job and bring your work home. You care a ton about your employees and treat them with the utmost respect. You deal with your clients carefully, determined to fully satisfy their requests of your company. You have taught us to work diligently until the task is finished, take your time on projects to ensure completion to the highest standard, and always communicate effectively with clients and employees.

You have showed us what it means to be loyal.

You've remained loyal to caring for the family for as long as we have been alive. You've remained loyal to your clients and employees. You've remained loyal to your trade by pursuing it for over 25 years. You've remained loyal to us by attending our ceremonies and graduations. You've remained loyal to our mom by staying married and working through everything. You've remained loyal to your siblings by always being a shoulder for them. You've remained loyal to your parents by making time to remind them they are loved. Most importantly, you've remained loyal to the Lord, our Father through your faith and example as a dad. You have stayed loyal to all of these things, showing us what it means to remain steadfast and what things in life are worth our complete loyalty.

You have showed us what it means to love and be loved.

You've showed us that true love is not always rainbow and unicorns. We see the ups and downs that life brings you. We see that sometimes it is too difficult to show others love. We see the perfect example of how to balance life and love through you. You've showed us that to love others is to care deeply for them. You've showed us that to love others is to always want the best possible outcome for them. You've showed us that to love others is to pray for them. You've given us unconditional, everlasting love through your words, actions, support, and guidance. We've learned how to accept love, reciprocate love, and give love to those who need it most.

It is because of you dad, that we were able to grow up into the hard-working, loyal, and loving people we are today. For that, we are forever grateful. Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there. Let's celebrate them today and every day!

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