We live in a day and age where everyone is focused on themselves. Everyone is worried about their own future, goals, and agenda. So where does this leave someone with a big heart - someone who cares about others so intensely? Someone who cheers for others' success? Someone who gets hurt easily from other people's ignorance? The good news is, you aren't alone.
It is important to be mindful, have self-love, and boundaries. You may think: "Why me? Why do I always get hurt? Why are there not more people like me?" Your answers come from being mindful. Not everyone has the same heart as you. BUT everyone does have a brain and the capacity to understand their actions towards you.
Don't think for a second that people don't know how they're treating you, they do they just don't care. (@mayamholmes via twitter)
There doesn't have to be malicious intent here, but truthfully, actions will show you everything you need to know. If they wanted to be there for you, they would. If they wanted to make an effort, they would. If they truly wanted you in their life, you wouldn't be left questioning.
You will meet the right people without any fuss or fight. You will meet people who don't need directions on how to treat you. So, stop explaining yourself to people who don't deserve the explanation. Stop watering dead flowers with relationships that aren't reciprocated.
Self-love plays a big role in relationships. If you don't love yourself, how do you expect others to love you? Self-love comes with healthy boundaries. When you set boundaries in your life, people will no longer walk all over you and instead they will respect you.
However, the harsh truth is: People will only meet you at a level in which they have met themselves. And I'll hit you with a double cliche: You can't control what people do, but you can control how you react.
So, find people who you can be truly vulnerable with. Be cautious and intentional with the relationships you allow into your life. Love yourself, because no one else will do it for you. And as a wise friend once told me: never feel bad for putting yourself first, it's what everyone else does anyway.
